"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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N00b letting himself be known

Electro

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Just to let you know I'm going to try and keep this post as short as possible. I am an AFC after all.

First off a little about me. I'm 22, I'm from the UK and I've never been laid. Simple as that. The closest I've ever got is being kissed by a stripper while her tying her bra around my neck.
Ahh fond memories.

I've been single and desperate for a good few years now. My lack of sexual activity solely due to my crippling lack of confidence.
This however is about to change. I can feel it in my bones. The thing, the catalyst that started making me turn my viewpoint around... a certain book written by a certain 'Style'.

LOL typing that and then reading it back to myself, its a little hard to believe that the man really exists even though I saw him promoting his book on Richard & Judy a while back.
Anyways, I recently bought it and have been reading it non-stop since. Not entirely the way through its some 440 pages, I still found what advice I absorbed, incredibly invaluable. Tonight before during and after my regular meal with old college buddies, I found myself overwhelmed with the easiest and most relaxed sense of confidence I had ever felt. Despite believing my smile to be crooked, I found myself grinning happily throughout the whole evening. :D for once my eyes didn't trail along the ground when I walked. My chest rose and dipped with satisfied, confident breaths, and wherever I looked, people were looking at me and in a very new way. I found myself constantly running a matra though my head wherever I went. "I Am The Alpha".
I think....deep in there, I'm starting to understand. Slowly of course, but sure and steady.
I'm well aware I've got a loooooooooooong way to go, but with a lot of work and a little patience, I think I can find what I'm after.

To all of you out there, all of you Bastard PUA's (I say this with the UTMOST respect and fondness) fresh and veteran, I bow down to you all and hope that one day some of you might deem me worthy of Sarging with.

See you out there.

Electro.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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DaKidS3

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Go read the bible and stop double posting.

Welcome.
 

Electro

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Browser error. Ignore it.
 

Good_ol_boy

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Welcome, I'm sure you'll learn lots. :wave: :cheer:

I'm amazed. Here some new guy comes in and just says "hi, I'm here, doesn't ask for advice or some lame question, and the first response out of some numbnuts is "go read the bible"! Geez!!

I could understand if he had asked some lame question, but come on guys!!:down:
 

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Originally posted by Good_ol_boy
Welcome, I'm sure you'll learn lots. :wave: :cheer:

I'm amazed. Here some new guy comes in and just says "hi, I'm here, doesn't ask for advice or some lame question, and the first response out of some numbnuts is "go read the bible"! Geez!!

I could understand if he had asked some lame question, but come on guys!!:down:
Read the first line in his post.

" I am an AFC after all."

Is that a good enough reason to tell him to read the bible?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good_ol_boy

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Originally posted by DaKidS3
Read the first line in his post.

" I am an AFC after all."

Is that a good enough reason to tell him to read the bible?
Nah!! Read the WHOLE post. He's working on things, not comming in asking some lame "fix me now" questions which might merit the "read the bible" response. Sort of like the AA "I'm Joe and I'm an alcoholic" thing where they acknowledge they have a problem, the first step in fixing it. Like the AA's "Hello Joe" I would expect a DJ's "Hello N00b":D
 

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Evening! :D

Don't worry yourselves too much, I'm not here for advice, or those kinds of questions that should merit a dip into the DJ Bible. If I was then I wouldn't come creeping or spouting 'woe is me...'!, give the new guy the benefit of the doubt to figure out things for himself. This...my own situations or quandries are for me to sort out.
Contructive crit is welcomed, friendly advice appreciated nothing more.
I'm here to read and learn to better myself in what ever way that turns out to be.

Thank you Good_ol_boy for the warm and respectful greeting everyone deserves.
I may have messed up the first post or two, caught up in the excitment and liberating feeling of this newfound confidence, but I'm not here to piss anyone off, just as I stated initially, I'm letting myself be known. Thanks for your time.

P.S.
As a side note, just going out around town during the day, I'm counting the faces that turn to look at me, feeling smug at the women that sit on the same bench as me and flash the occasional glance my way. Even just that shared taxi with the brunette Turkish lady was something I didn't expect to happen.

Electro
 

spider_007

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Welcome to the site. You got the right attitude and we need more newbes like you;) . Just to let you know, this site (unlike all others) is here to help you turn your self into a new man. A man who is happy with him self and his life (as cheesy as that sounds) another thing you should check out (other then the bible) is this site: http://www.bristollair.com/outergame/skills/howtogetasociallife/

good luck with every thing

oh, and don't wait too long to do the Boot camp (your allready half way there...)
 

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I feel like I've just left the starting block and haven't caught up yet. Heh.
Believe me I plan to sign up to those Bootcamps and workshops.
I want to meet people like myself, to hear stories, Hell just to meet people for ultimate confirmation that I'm not alone in this.

I will. I will. I'd like to see how far I get on my own steam first.

Electro.
 

backbreaker

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actually you are alone in this... you didn't get the memo?

:crackup:


just kidding

Honestly, we've all been there.... well, not necessarly THERE but you get the point.

You will be suprised at how much collective knowledge there is about women and life in general on this forum.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Electro

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I'm here as a Padawan, to listen and learn, brother. :)
Right now it's just me testing the waters. I may sound pleased and over the moon now, but when the time comes to strike out and into the bars and I bottle the whole evening, then I'll be right back here to feed from that fount of knowledge.

Electro.
 
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