"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mystery's DHV is about entertaining chicks?

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howdy,

so building attraction, making them want you - all good, important things... so when i heard about mystery's DHV or high value routines, i thought that's great....

but are they all "the cube" and "palm reading" and other stuff to basically be ENTERTAINING?

i guess i understand that if you're entertaining, you're not like the countless other guys who have nothing to say...

but do i understand that right, that all dhv stuff is about being entertaining?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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And entertaining will put you in the friend zone faster than you can say "what's happenin'." At least according to Gunwitch.
 

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Well if you start "cubing" or "palm reading" all the girl and smile about it like you're a fvcking psychic then yes you're entertaining the group.But if you sit down with your target and focus on describing HER emotions using these techniques and be serious about it you will build attraction/comfort.
 

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I have a friend that has the cube down to an art. The problem is that he runs is on groups of girls or on his target after only a few minutes. He definetly comes across as entertaining. he also doesn't generate a sexual vibe so what happens is that they do give him attention but purely in terms of being a dancing monkey.

Personally I never use it but I can see how it would work when one on one with a girl you've been talking to for a while.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sneaking in the DHVs throughout conversation is very attractive unless it is obvious you're trying to tout your resume to her. Most guys have 0 personality, so often even if a woman isn't into something she can still respect you for not being boring.

It's also comfort building because a guy with a life is less likely to not have other options and obsess over her. Guys calling and threating to commit suicide unless she takes them back or leaving tearful msgs are not that uncommon of a symptom of nice guy syndrome and girls hate guys who are babies. Guys with cool lives are something that sounds fun to be a part of, and it's comforting that he won't be a dead fish.

DLVs have to be managed too. If you believe women shouldn't have the right to vote, oppose the abolition of slavery, or (unless she's die-hard conservative) brag about having joined FreeMen, then you're likely not conveying qualities she'd like in a man.

I once overhead a conversation where a woman said divorced fathers should not be able to file for custody unless the mother was inprisoned or deceased. Further, she went on to say that the father's should pay 50% of there income or 17,000 which ever is higher because that's what child care costs her per year. Now, how interested would I be in having a relationship with this woman? Even if she had been exceptionally hot she's been FB zoned, and probably I'd be too scared to sleep with her even.
 

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Entertaing(DHV) to reach social hook point

From reading his e-book, you'll discover he does this to reach what he calls the social hook point. Once that's been established, you can have a wing or two come in and occupy some obstacles while you isolate the target to somewhere to build more comfort or if you have enough attraction then time bounce her and/or w/friends to a seduction location (her pad, your place, wings, whatever...)

That's why DHV routines are so important. You get demonstrated as the coolest social guy in set and befriend everyone in the process guys and girls.

Most AFCs who hit on girls at bars, don't know how to socially vibe or occupy the interests of others while seemingly building attraction with his target.
 
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