"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Got a date planned for.Saturday with a pof chick. Light texting going well. Last night I get w text at 1 am from.her, what you doing? Reply back bout to fall asleep. I wake up to her normal morning greeting text banter. I'm dying to know so I ask wtf was up with the out of character late text. She denied ever sending one......ok, techies....do you buy this? A perfectly typed out text message that late? Says she coulda rolled over and hit phone...as if she sleeps wit her phone? I'm real paranoid that a girl might start off lying to.me this early over nothing....what are the possibilities here and am I overeacting? I have nothing invested in this chick at this point.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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samspade said:
You are analyzing too much and texting too much, with a girl you barely know. Relax.
Agreed.

You wanna find out if she's crazy? You wanna find out if she's a liar? That's why you're meeting her in-person.
 

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disgustipated said:
Got a date planned for.Saturday with a pof chick. Light texting going well. Last night I get w text at 1 am from.her, what you doing? Reply back bout to fall asleep. I wake up to her normal morning greeting text banter. I'm dying to know so I ask wtf was up with the out of character late text. She denied ever sending one......ok, techies....do you buy this? A perfectly typed out text message that late? Says she coulda rolled over and hit phone...as if she sleeps wit her phone? I'm real paranoid that a girl might start off lying to.me this early over nothing....what are the possibilities here and am I overeacting? I have nothing invested in this chick at this point.
I see three possible scenarios, one wonderful solution.

a) The text was meant for someone else and she's lying about it.
b) She was pickled and sent a drunk text, now she's lying about it.
c) Both of the above.

Solution: Guilt free pump and dump! A fine bucket to have available given there is no investment thus far.

SH
 
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She's embarrassed about the text and lied about it. Of course, we all know that she probably gets at least a dozen messages a day on POF, and is without a doubt in contact with at least a few of them.

Maybe in a week or two, YOU'LL be the guy she's trying to text at 1 a.m.

Let us know how that date goes!

The Gambler
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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She could've been ensuring you weren't out on the town where you might've seen her with some other dude.
I had a chick always texting me at odd hours shyt like: "Hey, are you out?"; or "You going out this weekend?"
I assumed it was her way of asking to see me, but in the end I found out she was fvcking some dude and was using her texts to keep tabs on me.
Now if a girl asks where I am, I either don't reply or be very vague. Keep that hamster running.
 

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This was a great opportunity for you to imply that you are getting texts from other women.

"hmmm... Okay I guess it must have been another friend...."
 

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True. Missed opportunity.there, and its true.

Since the text, I got another one and she's went out of her way to apologize for it. And saying I can check her phone on Saturday. It's a running joke now, which I've kinda turned sexual. A good transition if things go well.
 

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Her today: did my ghost text you last night?

Me: Yup. Said, I'm naked and all I got on me is this sheet.

Her: sexual shots...kinda lame....

I went with it. Not 2 much cuz its just textin. Better in person.
 

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If you ever meet in person.

Why should she buy the cow if she's getting the milk for free?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Got her out. Did the bowling. Paid for 2 games. Was trying to keep it short, leave her wanting more. It worked, she offered to buy another game as we hit it off so well. Great ass on this one, my kryptonite fellas. After we bowl she wants me to suggest another venue, we end up.at the bar with decent conversation....light touching the whole.night. she asks me.again for suggestions on another venue, I take a shot and say her place. Shes all.about it.

This is where my "game" is suspect. It's like I either get girls that are ready to go once were in the door or teasers. She gets changed into some sweats and its clearly showing off her butt, I'm trying not to notice. Brings out the covers and puts that round piece o heaven on my lap. So, there I am feeling her up and she's barely recripocating. Shoulda been Que to eject i guess, but I wait a bit more and pull out my go to move. Start yawning, say i gotta run but mind if I grab an hour nap before my long drive back move. Says yes, leads me to the bedroom. But makes it clear no hanky panky. Thwarted!

Here's the thing, besides getting shut down, I really enjoyed myself. Solid 7 girl, a.cut above what I'm used to lately. I can tell she's into me but getting some confusing signals here. I mean, okay I get not putting out on a first date but shouldn't the kisses be a.little passionate, like its a battle to hold yourself back from.breaking your ons rule? I didn't really get that vibe. I haven't had oneitis in forever, but this is the TYPE I did get it for when younger. Any advice is appreciated.
 

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You should have fvcked her when you went to bed with her.
Did you even try or were you a good little boy and keep your hands to yourself.

I always say: if a girl is in bed with you, she is expecting you to make a move. In the past 10 years, I've made an excuse to be in bed with dozens of women and only one has refused to let me at least fool around with her.
Search the forums for threads on ASD (Anti Slut Defence)

And be careful, you're pedestalising this one. Read Harry Wilmington's thread on how to avoid one-itis. It was put up in the past day or so.
If she thinks she has you hooked, the game is over. Treat her like your annoying kid sister, not like your moon goddess.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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