Ilovemesomeme
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I don't know what it is with me, but I seem to find myself sexually attracted to mysterious women, and it really bothers me.
My girl just broke up with me, and I am crushed, because she says she didn't feel that spark. Meanwhile she had her eye on for 2 years (I was with another women). When I finally broke up with my girl I pursued this women, and I have to admit I fell hard for her. Looking back I don't know why. She is someone attractive, she is a chemist so she is a little nerdy, but when she dresses up, she looks amazing. Its a strange transformation. Anyway we started just doing coffee dates, and we seemed to hit it off, and it was obviously she really liked me. She even asked many people in the church about me to see what kind of man I am (we are devout Christians, BTW should I even be posting here). Every single person that she talked to said how lucky she was. Besides the fact I am very attractive, she was told he is a great guy (I know probably the kiss of death). We then started to get serious, and like an AFC I totally let my guard down, and told her my feelings. Being that I thought she liked me for 2 years, and I kind of liked her I thought the feelings were mutual. She said she really liked me, but she never said anything else. In fact she didn't let me in her life. I didn't know much about her past, she didn't let me know what she was feeling. She would go a few days without calling, and I was starting to wonder what was going on. In December I asked her if she would go to my parents for Christmas, she said she didn't feel comfortable because she didn't have strong feelings. I was ready to break up them, but she after talking some more, she told me she was scared to fall in love with me, and wanted to work it out. We then kissed passionately all night (That is like Sex for us Christians), and thought every thing was fine. She then starts flaking on me. She is all over me one night, then doesn't treats me like a telemarketer when I call her on the phone. I mean COLD AS ICE.
I call her out on this and she said she wasn't feeling good. The typcial AFC I am, I say "O.K". I pissed about that.
Fastforward a few weeks later she goes to Puerto Rico to visit some family for New Years (who knows if that is all she did). She comes back and act sort of cold to me. She also shows me picture from Puerto Rico (and I must say she looked so good, it hurt), and showed me a picture of her cousin who she says is just like her. Her cousin is pictured with her boyfriend who looks like Van Damn. For some reason I got very jealous, but didn't tell her. I figured if she said she is just like her cousin, and she is dating a Van Dam lookalike she probably doesn't like me much. I never remember feeling so insecure. I am confident man, who has no problem with women. I can start a conversation with any women, anywhere, make them laugh, make them feel good etc, but for some reason this women is my cryptonite.
Fastforward to last Wednesday. I meet her in church (BTW the way she didn't return my phone call for 2 days), and then we talk about what is going on. I asked why she doesn't return my call, she said she was spending time with the Lord, and can you believe it I bought it. What man in there right mind, would not say something, but I don't know when I am with this women my power seems to be stripped. She then told me she doesn't have the same feelings for me. She also said she wants to go back to school, and that she sees I want to get married. Its funny because when we first started dating she said she wanted a family. I mean she is 29 years old. Anyway, I know it was just an excuse. The thing that bothers me, is when I asked her if she even had that strong attraction and spark she said she had it the first week, but got scared when I told her my feelings. That statement just proved to me, that no matter Chrisian, Devil Worshiper, Nun, Lesbian, women are all the same. The more you treat them nice then run to the hills. Its so frustrating. Trust me, this girl was all over me at one time. I saw the love in her eyes, and it just goes away like that, and I am left with a broken heart.
In her defense, she was crying when she broke up, and told me because of her messed up family life, she is afraid of marriage, but I don't know if that is the reason she broke up with me. There is a part of me that thinks she may be struggling with her sexuality. I had a women 13 years ago leave me for a women, and she had a lot of the mysterious qualities this girl had. Ie don't open up, don't show emotion, don't compliment much. But can be affectionate physically.
I don't know the fact this girl is a devout Christian is what is messing me up. There is a part of me that thinks she was with me for the Spiritual things, and then had a side guy or girl for a booty call.
I know I posted a lot. I just need to vent. I just don't know how to get over this chick. Have any of you guys had expierence with a mysterious women, shy women. How did you handle them I would like to hear
I don't know what it is with me, but I seem to find myself sexually attracted to mysterious women, and it really bothers me.
My girl just broke up with me, and I am crushed, because she says she didn't feel that spark. Meanwhile she had her eye on for 2 years (I was with another women). When I finally broke up with my girl I pursued this women, and I have to admit I fell hard for her. Looking back I don't know why. She is someone attractive, she is a chemist so she is a little nerdy, but when she dresses up, she looks amazing. Its a strange transformation. Anyway we started just doing coffee dates, and we seemed to hit it off, and it was obviously she really liked me. She even asked many people in the church about me to see what kind of man I am (we are devout Christians, BTW should I even be posting here). Every single person that she talked to said how lucky she was. Besides the fact I am very attractive, she was told he is a great guy (I know probably the kiss of death). We then started to get serious, and like an AFC I totally let my guard down, and told her my feelings. Being that I thought she liked me for 2 years, and I kind of liked her I thought the feelings were mutual. She said she really liked me, but she never said anything else. In fact she didn't let me in her life. I didn't know much about her past, she didn't let me know what she was feeling. She would go a few days without calling, and I was starting to wonder what was going on. In December I asked her if she would go to my parents for Christmas, she said she didn't feel comfortable because she didn't have strong feelings. I was ready to break up them, but she after talking some more, she told me she was scared to fall in love with me, and wanted to work it out. We then kissed passionately all night (That is like Sex for us Christians), and thought every thing was fine. She then starts flaking on me. She is all over me one night, then doesn't treats me like a telemarketer when I call her on the phone. I mean COLD AS ICE.
I call her out on this and she said she wasn't feeling good. The typcial AFC I am, I say "O.K". I pissed about that.
Fastforward a few weeks later she goes to Puerto Rico to visit some family for New Years (who knows if that is all she did). She comes back and act sort of cold to me. She also shows me picture from Puerto Rico (and I must say she looked so good, it hurt), and showed me a picture of her cousin who she says is just like her. Her cousin is pictured with her boyfriend who looks like Van Damn. For some reason I got very jealous, but didn't tell her. I figured if she said she is just like her cousin, and she is dating a Van Dam lookalike she probably doesn't like me much. I never remember feeling so insecure. I am confident man, who has no problem with women. I can start a conversation with any women, anywhere, make them laugh, make them feel good etc, but for some reason this women is my cryptonite.
Fastforward to last Wednesday. I meet her in church (BTW the way she didn't return my phone call for 2 days), and then we talk about what is going on. I asked why she doesn't return my call, she said she was spending time with the Lord, and can you believe it I bought it. What man in there right mind, would not say something, but I don't know when I am with this women my power seems to be stripped. She then told me she doesn't have the same feelings for me. She also said she wants to go back to school, and that she sees I want to get married. Its funny because when we first started dating she said she wanted a family. I mean she is 29 years old. Anyway, I know it was just an excuse. The thing that bothers me, is when I asked her if she even had that strong attraction and spark she said she had it the first week, but got scared when I told her my feelings. That statement just proved to me, that no matter Chrisian, Devil Worshiper, Nun, Lesbian, women are all the same. The more you treat them nice then run to the hills. Its so frustrating. Trust me, this girl was all over me at one time. I saw the love in her eyes, and it just goes away like that, and I am left with a broken heart.
In her defense, she was crying when she broke up, and told me because of her messed up family life, she is afraid of marriage, but I don't know if that is the reason she broke up with me. There is a part of me that thinks she may be struggling with her sexuality. I had a women 13 years ago leave me for a women, and she had a lot of the mysterious qualities this girl had. Ie don't open up, don't show emotion, don't compliment much. But can be affectionate physically.
I don't know the fact this girl is a devout Christian is what is messing me up. There is a part of me that thinks she was with me for the Spiritual things, and then had a side guy or girl for a booty call.
I know I posted a lot. I just need to vent. I just don't know how to get over this chick. Have any of you guys had expierence with a mysterious women, shy women. How did you handle them I would like to hear