"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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myspace vs facebook

speakeasy

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When I first logged onto myspace a couple years ago, I would get random girls saying hi fairly often. These days I get none and hardly anyone even clicks on my profile. I'm wondering if you guys have noticed the same. Has everyone moved over to facebook? I'm wondering if myspace is going the route of friendster.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Librarian

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One reason for the increase in private profiles is that people have begun spying on them. Businesses and colleges will actually try to find people on Myspace/facebook and use that information while considering people for hiring/acceptance. I actually had a friend who was straight out asked during an interview if she had a myspace account.
 

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most of those "girls" saying hi to you were just spam programs, and Tom recently won a lawsuit against them
 

speakeasy

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Obsidian said:
most of those "girls" saying hi to you were just spam programs, and Tom recently won a lawsuit against them
No, I'm not talking about spam bots posed as girls! I'm saying I used to get contacted by random girls who found my profile interesting, some of them I actually met up with in real life. But for some reason, real girls(not spambots) never contact me anymore. Weird. That's why I'm just wondering if everyone has moved over to facebook and which one is better for meeting girls.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ValleyDJing

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The Librarian said:
One reason for the increase in private profiles is that people have begun spying on them. Businesses and colleges will actually try to find people on Myspace/facebook and use that information while considering people for hiring/acceptance. I actually had a friend who was straight out asked during an interview if she had a myspace account.

Yep. A quick word of advice to future myspace users, set up several different email accounts and use one for your myspace and when you fill out applications, give them a different email. Makes it just that much tougher for them to look you up and spy on you. I set my profile to private a long time ago cause I got tired of my mom using it to keep tabs on me, finding out what I was doing, who I was hanging out with, etc.
 
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they are both the same thing, only girls are sketched out too easy on facebook, and they are more open to talking to random guys on myspace
 
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