"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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MySpace: Do delete or not delete account?

Eccentric

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Marlimus said:
Gentlemen please be advised that colege administrators, admissions committees and potential employers search facebook, myspace and other such sites as part of their screening process. Be careful of the image that you present because you do not know where it will follow you to.
COMPLETE BULL****. Who are the colleges to decide your entry based upon a personal webspace? It's your academics that get you accepted, not what you do on a friday night, or how much you party on the weekend. They may not permitt it on campus, but to use this in their "screening process" isn't true.

"Yes Billy, we see that you have a 3.9 GPA, and would like to become part of our school with so and so classes. Sadly, we've found your MySpace account, and we don't like your personal life." Denied... ACLU would be all over this.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mazeman11 said:
Does Myspace accurately represent the female attitude?
Myspace accurately represents the female attitudes of females on MySpace, nothing more. Assuming that one website represents 51% of the planet is a recipe for disaster.

As to whether you should delete your account, go ahead if thats what you feel like doing.

Oh, and to wavejams007... USA Today had a front-page story a week or two ago about numerous people who have been expelled from school, declined admission from other universities, and refused employment when the person in charge saw inappropriate photos/text on their profiles. I can't find the article but here's one just a few others of the many that are out there...

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/16/AR2006011601489.html

http://hcs.harvard.edu/~cyberlaw/wiki/index.php/In_Your_Facebook.com

http://www.timesargus.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060226/NEWS/602260375/1002

Eccentric said:
COMPLETE BULL****. Who are the colleges to decide your entry based upon a personal webspace? It's your academics that get you accepted, not what you do on a friday night, or how much you party on the weekend. They may not permitt it on campus, but to use this in their "screening process" isn't true.
Unfortunately you're wrong. Private schools/college (ones that don't recieve any government funding) have the right to refuse admissions to anyone for any reason.

In recent weeks, several ... schools have taken action against the use of blog sites, in particular Facebook.com but also the sites MySpace.com and Xanga.com...

Some colleges have expelled teenagers for violating codes of conduct after discovering photos of underage students posing in front of kegs or writing about drinking binges, and employers often look up job candidates on the sites, said Parry Aftab, an Internet lawyer and the executive director of Wiredsafety.org.

A VTC student had applied for a job at a Vermont engineering firm. The company peeked at the student's profile on Facebook.com, a social networking Web site for college students. What the employer saw gave him second thoughts about hiring the student.
Moved to AE...
 

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I feel better already about getting rid of my account. Now I need new ways to meet people!
 

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thanks for the links diablo. You sure do put in a lot of time and effort to be thorough in moding this site. much appreciated.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I deleted everything from my MySpace profile and deleted all my friends. I had over 200 friends at one point and I legitimately knew maybe half of them. I was getting added by people I didn't know almost daily. Very many AW's, flakes, underage, fatties, uglies, single mothers, you name it. If you had a name they wanted to be your friend. After watching a video on YouTube about MySpace I decided I didn't need the site anymore (or to begin with). I left the account alive just to let people know if they wanted to contact me another way they could do so. That was partly to see who actually cared to talk and also to change the way I interact with people (AKA, in person). I figured Facebook is more than enough. At least I know all those people are in college. Too many 16-17 year old girls were trying to talk to me on MySpace (I am a senior in college).
 

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while we're on the topic of myspace... when i meet new girls, i always find them on myspace first before calling them. you don't need a girl's full name; having only her first name is sufficient. first, i type the girl's name in "search." thousands of profiles with the girl's name will be generated. now click on "within 5 miles" and type in the zip code of where she's from. this will significantly narrow down the amount of names and you can easily find the girl you're looking for. it's cool because you'll have a head's up with girls by doing this and thus have some advantage because you can plan things out. funny because a few girls even had boyfriends!
 

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It doesn't really matter....
Even if you DO delete it, it can be brought back by the site admin..... Maybe even Google will have it cached...

I don't do those blog sites because of that very reason.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Delete. Or at least cut down the usage.
very well put. either delete or cut down the usage. when u guys think about ( the one's who actually still have one ) have many wasted hours out of the week have you sat there online?
 

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My older kids use myspace...all in different ways. My 20 year old daughter uses it to talk to the same online friends she's had for 5 or 6 years. They are all around her age and located all around the world. My 17 year old son uses it to keep in touch with friends from where we used to live and he talks to whoever starts talking to him but doesn't go looking for people to talk to. My 15 year old son has a strict policy and firm belief that making online friends is pathetic, lame and dumb...so he only uses it to talk to people he actually already knows in person. I signed up to get a screen name to be able to contact an old friend I used to work with because there was something I really needed to tell her and I didn't know how to reach her. My daughter noticed she had an account. I also use that ID to check on who is commenting to my kids and make sure they don't give out too much information. I don't have an actual profile, nor will I. I tend to agree with my younger son in that respect.
 

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MY ACCOUNT HAS BEEN DELETED! WHOO! I FEEL GREAT (turns off commputer to go meet hb 7!)

;)
 

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I deleted my account a while ago. The smartest thing I've ever done. I can't believe I wasted so much time while I could have been building/improving myself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Eccentric said:
COMPLETE BULL****. Who are the colleges to decide your entry based upon a personal webspace? It's your academics that get you accepted, not what you do on a friday night, or how much you party on the weekend. They may not permitt it on campus, but to use this in their "screening process" isn't true.

"Yes Billy, we see that you have a 3.9 GPA, and would like to become part of our school with so and so classes. Sadly, we've found your MySpace account, and we don't like your personal life." Denied... ACLU would be all over this.

I hope you are feeling like an idiot. Our school just ran a full page report on this. Kids with bongs and booze in the dorms are taking those pics down from facebook.

God i love being 21.
 

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Something all users of MySpace should be aware of --

MydeathSpace

If something happens to you for whatever reason, your account will end up here along with all the rest.

The various comments on the front page indicate that a lot of people are angry over this type of site. But it will go on as a form of "remembrance" for those who are no longer with us.
 
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