Myers-Briggs personality types and how it relates to being a Don Juan

[JCballin88]

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Hey guys,

So I'm not sure how many of you are familiar with the Myers-Briggs personality test, but I just took it for the 3rd time since high school, and after reviewing its analysis of myself, I was not surprised to see that it still has me totally pegged.

For those of you who aren't familiar with the exam, it asks you a series of 70-80 questions or so and then shows you your personality based on four categorical spectrums:

Introverted (energy from self) vs. Extroverted (energy from being in group)
Sensing (practical, realistic, 5 senses) vs. Intuition (abstract, big-picture)
Thinking (logical, problem-before-people) vs. Feeling (people-first, harmony)
Judging (decisive, lists and structure, seeks closure) vs. Perceiving (flexible, open-minded, makes and loses lists)

Now my results all came across as "clear" or "very clear" in the ISJF category.

Here's a little more background for ISFJ's so you can understand where I'm coming from:

-Like to work behind the scenes
-Quick, neat, orderly, energy comes from within and working on your own
-Extremely dependable and loyal, but often gets taken advantage of by others due to desire for harmony and fear of hurting others' feelings
-In relationships, ISFJ's are very loyal and think carefully about what they say. May stay in a bad relationship for too long due to sense of obligation

I know none of you personally know me, but this list goes on and on, and guess what? It is EXACTLY me in a nutshell.

Here is the part I would like to discuss. Part of the follow-up for this test is using your 4-letter combination to your best strength, versus trying too hard to change who you are and being someone you are not internally wired to be.

My problem is that so many characteristics of the typical "Don-Juan" lifestyle go against who I feel I am internally based on these results. Because I am "very clearly" an introvert, being an alpha male at a party is one of the most difficult things I can imagine doing. It's easy to say "yeah just suck it up and do it," but when you look at your own results and see how you respond and relate to many scenarios, it becomes clear where you are going to thrive and where you are not.

I feel like I definitely want to continue on the road to being a "Don Juan," but for me the path is going to be more difficult due to my reserved nature and behind-the-scenes approach to many things in socially geared settings.

Does anyone have thoughts on this type of thing? If you haven't taken this exam, I would recommend trying it out to help see who you are and how you relate to others naturally. I took it as part of a college class, but I'm sure that you can take it online for free.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I am a myers-brigg "intuitive introvert," and I've never had much of a problem getting girls. Not every woman wants the guy who is the life of the party. Some of them prefer the guy who's in the back, quietly making fun of that guy.

 

[Guoy Darko]

I’ve been tested and most of the results pointed towards an ISFP personality with a very strong ‘I’ and ‘P’. I think the ‘S’ and ‘F’ can be very well replaced by an ‘N’ and a ‘T’ in some cases.

As an ISFP I place high value on family, friends and a steady girlfriend. Because of this strong ‘I, I try to create an overall good harmony between people and in groups and I want them to feel good and happy. In some cases it is very easy to make friends. Just as long as I don’t have to fake being extremely ‘E’ (extroverted). As a downside to this: I’m very easily offended or let down when things in my social environment don’t go the way I expect them to go. With girlfriends, for example, this can very easily lead to AFC behavior. In my case it was/is important I recognize this, so I can take proper action.

As a pua, I think it’s easier when you’re more ‘E’, but I think you can be a very good DJ with a strong ‘I’. Maybe I oversimplify things here, but I think people with a very strong ‘I’ are the ones that seek that special girl, and the ones that have a very strong ‘E’ are the ones that seek multiple girls. But then again, maybe not.

Hmmmm, to think about it, after reading The Game, I think Mystery is originally a very very strong ‘I’, but learned to improved his ‘E’ dramatically.

But don’t worry about not becoming a good DJ. I think it has to do very little with being a DJ or not. More with your personality, morals and values. I don’t think a DJ is a guy who is always an ENTP for example. Different people have different strong points and weaknesses. Now you know what you are, you can exploit your strong points and improve your weaknesses.

 

[strong like bull]

good find. theres actually online communities dedicated to each type, e.g. ISTJ-only, etc. pretty cool way to find more info and lifestyle information about your type. i personally am INT.. with a close to even amount of P and J.

interesting to note, a lot of corporate management training programs involve such personality, or behavior profile tests. helps to sort out the most efficient ways to manage, or be managed by, each persons' type.

-SLB