My Weekly Journal

[Masculinity]

Welcome everyone! I recently decided to begin a journal to (a) hold myself accountable in my DJ and life goals, (b) keep track of them, (c) and simply write to get things out of my mind (positive and negative) so that others can learn from my mistakes and successes. Because I can get very busy as a full-time college student and student worker, I commit to writing at least once per week. Last, this journal was inspired by PrettyBoyAJ's journal--props on your progress man!

Goals to complete by mid-April:

1. Bring down my body fat percentage by at least 5% and get toned
2. Approach four girls or more per week (edited because of time constraints)
3. Lay at least two new girls

Again, I will update at least once per week and designate new goals as I make progress. Looking forward to these challenges.

 

[Masculinity]

November 29, 2013

While getting some work done at the library, I noticed a flier by the bathrooms. It was a picture of Ryan Gosling in the background http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m70p53utzQ1qh588ko1_1280.jpg with the following message "Hey girl, where are all the good guys? Let's talk about dating at (University) on (date, location, and time)." I began cracking up when I saw it, as it will probably be a bunch of girls speaking negatively men. Ironically, they may obliviously cause many "good guys" also known as AFCs to be "nowhere to be found" by playing games and friendzoning like there is no tomorrow.

I will try to check out this meeting with a male friend who is great with women. It should be a fun time and a chance to meet new plates

 

[Masculinity]

I began a log in February of this year, but did not have a chance to post. Take a look at this thread, as it will put everything I discuss in here in context:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2013377#post2013377

I am also working on attaching my FRs to this thread for you all--bare with me.

 

[Masculinity]

Re: Dating Dialogue

For those of you waiting for the outcome, here is what happened at yesterday's meeting at my university. It was a small group of five females and four males. It is common knowledge not to take women's advice, so take the following with "a grain of salt." To summarize, direct approaches and cold approaches were deemed as "very attractive" along with confidence. Desperation and too much persistence (i.e., a guy who doesn't get it) were deemed among the least desirable. Last, use kino with caution and calibration. Although some women will love you for it, some might falsely accuse you of "harassment."

Keep being money,

-R

 

[Masculinity]

Week 3

I was not able to write last week due to my final exams. As a result, I will write an extra paragraph this week.

I have been feeling quite differently this last two weeks. I sometimes have a self-defeating voice inside me trying to yell that I am not capable of achieving my goals. I call it my inner AFC. He and I have been progressively separating. I am starting many more conversations with random individuals in my environment and it feels amazing. For those of you who are unaware, I had a tremendous fear to talk to people and to be rejected in my teenage years. I tried to get people to like me--for years--by doing what I thought they wanted. I believed I had to be perfect for others to accept me. I despise the feeling and do not want it in my head. I am now doing things that make me feel at peace and calm--and it seems to be progressing thus far.

I approached a girl at the computer lab the other day. She is an italian HB7 that I have seen around for a year, but did not have the change or guts to ask out (did talk to her, though). I number closed in front of another female who verbally expressed her respect for "being so courageous." This HB7 did not answer the phone when I called her. I will give her another call tomorrow to see where she stands. Next, I approached and number closed a Chinese girl that was in one of my classes last semester. She is an HB6.5 with a personality for which most of you would kill to find in an HB9. She accepted to going out and seemed receptive. However, she invited me to "lunch," to which I responded. "What are we BFFs? Lol." She then called me and after a few minutes of banter finally admitted to having a boyfriend. I said no big deal and still went out with her. It turns out that she is very friendly. I kept the kino going as I would a plate. And guess what? She reciprocated. I was touching her hair and gently touching her face as she drove. She smiled and hit me in the leg after I teased her, to which I responded with "hands off the merchandise! It costs $4.00 each time you touch me." She loved it and needless to say went on to touch me five more times.

This is either a very friendly girl or one who may be lacking something in her relationship. Yet, it is too early to tell. I need to get out there and meet some new plates. It will be more challenging now that people are gone for Winter break, but I will pull another girl before January.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

I've said this a million times and I will say it once more. I'm telling you guys if you give girls your number and tell them to hit you up then you will never have to worry about calling her and all that good stuff. When she hits you up you know 100% that she is interested. It's fool proof.

and the Chinese girl has a BF yet she is still going out with you. That's a green light brother. Pursue. If my GF was even texting another dude I'd be nexting her a#$.

and I'll be in Huntington Beach, CA the end or April because I got training for my job. Is that near LA. We need to meetup and show me around the city.

 

[Masculinity]

If you give girls your number and tell them to hit you up then you will never have to worry about calling her and all that good stuff. When she hits you up you know 100% that she is interested. It's fool proof.

I have discussed with this my friend. The problem is most girls are so beta that they will not call you. They may text you, but I am willing to bet that a significant percentage of these HBs will be lost due to cowardliness in their part.

and I'll be in Huntington Beach, CA the end or April because I got training for my job. Is that near LA. We need to meetup and show me around the city.

Yup, it's an hour away. There's going to be some serious HB slaying.

 

[Masculinity]

I am currently reading Robert Gly's No More Mr. Nice Guy, which talks about how men come to grow up needy, fearful, and emasculated. I am about only halfway through the book and find it fascinating. Bly is a psychologist specializing in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT). His inputs and claims are partially based on scientific research findings with which I am familiar as a psychology student. There are self-exercises in the book that you can do immediately to get the nice guy--also known as AFC--out of your thinking. I encourage you to get a copy of this book!

I will share more information and a brief synopsis when finished reading.

 

[Masculinity]

I am back in school and the game is on. I went out last night with a few buddies to a party. I have to say...it felt strange. After being very good at night game it during my late teens and having another peak in my karaoke stories about a year or two ago, I feel out of place at regular parties. I have no problem seducing, but it is that initial fear that appears to take over me at times. It is almost as if I feel need to display my assets to get girls to like me. Truth is...this is not the case. I saw dudes that were less attractive than I and got the girls to dance. Dancing is not a problem...the escalation from the party to banging them is the problem.

Sometimes I am really in the zone and sometimes I feel helpless...it's strange. I think I'm in my head too much. Another of my obstacles is getting conversations started. On a good note, I got straight "As" last term so my hard work and reduced socialization paid off. This term, I was accepted into a research program, which will suck a lot of time out my schedule. Rather than neglecting my social life, however, I am making time for socializing. I am definitely on a new path here and I look forward to what it will bring.