Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dman101

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I've been kind of talking to this girl since September that I really like. We met 2 yrs ago on facebook in person and she initiated contacted me to hang out in Sept. Since then we've been going on little "dates" or watchin movies at my house maybe once every 2 or 3 weeks. It took me 6 dates to finally man up and kiss her and get her naked and she says shes a virgin, so next time i had her naked she was down to have sex, but i choked ( i was in my head and shy all night, but somehow managed to get her naked) and couldnt do it, told her how that I liked her and she wanted to be my girlfriend, but I said lets keep talking and see how it goes.

So 3 weeks later for valentines I see her again. I gave her flowers and chocolate, she got me a card candy and 2 dvd's. This time I was able to have fun conversation with her took her to a nice restaurant and it went nice but she mentioned she plans to move across the country after college or grad school. We held hands as we walked out and it was cool.

She had an essay to write so couldnt stay long, and I slacked on escalating anything sexual out of fear of failure( i had a lot of bad experiences in the past with not getting it up when Im pressured) as we watched a horrible movie.

So what do you guys make of this situation. I feel totally into this girl and want her, but I'm still a bit apprehensive only because

A. I'm afraid to get too sexual with her.
B. We never talk on the phone because I dont want to freeze on the phone with her.
C. She may be moving in a few months or year.

Despite these things, I may want to make her my girlfriend because I really like her. What do you guys think.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kal0051

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I'll answer your 3 problems.

A: man up, make a move, **** her. She wants you to, and you turned her down twice already. I'm really surprised she's even talking to you still, most girls give you one chance and if you don't take it your ****ed.

B: don't talk on the phone then. It's better to talk in person anyway.

C: don't worry what she does in months or years, **** her now, have your fun. Enjoy her while she's around, and continue to get more girls once she's gone.

Now stop whining about no one answering your thread.
 

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what can I do to get over my fear of havin sex with certain girls. Sometime my mind wont let me make the moves or get an erection. I've had about 5 girls that I couldve ****ed in my past but I couldnt find the hole, so now sometimes I cant get an erection because I got emotional baggage from that. ANy advice on what I can do to overcome this>
 

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viagra will get you hard, and then the good experience will make you confident enough NOT to need the viagra in the future
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dman101 said:
Despite these things, I may want to make her my girlfriend because I really like her. What do you guys think.

Well, I think you need to provide for this girl if you expect her to maintain interest in you. And I don't mean "provide for her" as in money. I mean, sexually.

All this hand-holding, chocolates, and Valentine's Day dates sound awful when you realize that you two aren't having sex. I dont know...if you guys are 15-16 years old, then I can understand it. If you guys are in college, then this is just weird.

A. I'm afraid to get too sexual with her.
B. We never talk on the phone because I dont want to freeze on the phone with her.
C. She may be moving in a few months or year.
A. Why are you afraid to get "too sexual" with her? What is too sexual? Is having sex "too sexual?"
B. You never talk to her on the phone, and you see her every 2-3 weeks?
C. So?

Sounds like you have this girl on a pedestal, and you're not even boning her. I don't even know where to begin advising you. Sounds like you need some confidence, buddy. I don't think I've ever "wanted to make a girlfriend" out of a girl that I see once ever 2-3 weeks, never speak to on the phone, and never have had sex with.
 

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Well the thing is this girls said shes a virgin , so thats possibly part of the reason why she's letting me get away with not being sexual. I had met her 2 yrs ago on facebook and hung out 2x and developed a weird facebook crush on her, and somehow she reinitiated contact and had liked me all this time probably because shes a nice girl and im a nice good looking and tall safe kind of guy.

I know this is a very weird situation and for a time I had her on a super pedestool because shes my type and despite the fact I did nothing and used no real game, she liked me and wnated to be my gf and wanted me to take her virginity.

I really want to make this work because shes kind of my dream girl, and for watever reason she really likes me. Shes a very busy girl because shes a sr in college, president of a sorority, has an internship and other job and studyin for grad school exams, so a llot of times i've been only askn her out once every 2 or 3 weeks.

I'm a socially anxious person, so it stresses me wen I'm going to see her so I have to up my courage a lot just to be with her, so that has something to do with me not getting it up. SHe's the woman I've wanted for the past 2 yrs and now somehow im in position to get her.

Can you guys give me the concrete advice to make sure I dont blow this situation
 

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I have so many regrest with so many past girls too so I realy dont want to blow this one and regret it 2 yrs later
 

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I have so many regrest with so many past girls too so I realy dont want to blow this one and regret it 2 yrs later
I haven't posted here in ages, but I'll say this: you're gonna regret it if you don't make a serious move soon.
 
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