Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My ultimate question to the "successful" ones:

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Just based on what you said...

Lose the entitlement attitude. Nobody owes you anything. Successful people put themselves out there, assert themselves, and make things happen. You can't expect for everything to come to you. It takes hard work and effort. Even for friendships - you can't remain passive, hang out a few times, accept their invitations, etc - then complain that you have no friends. Dedication is required.

Take yourself off the pedestal. How you view yourself isn't how everyone else views you. If you were everything you claim to be - you wouldn't have so many problems. There's no such thing as being too good - that's not why you fail. It's because you aren't as good as you think you are.

This is a common problem with people. They whine about all these people getting with "losers" - when they're so great and wonderful and overlooked. So, they conclude that they're too good, and people are just intimidated, or looking for something worse. Truth is, they're not as great as they think they are. That's why they're overlooked.

Stop comparing yourself to other people. This isn't a competition - its about personal success. Who cares what anyone else has, or is doing? Don't focus on other people - only yourself.

This applies to stories you read about other people. Just because they fail - doesn't mean you will. Do not compare yourself to them. You can do the same things they are doing, and still succeed. There isn't some rulebook you have to follow - where x and y works for EVERYONE, and r and s works for NOBODY. Everything is different for everyone.

Which might be your problem - trying too hard to fit into this ideal person - while losing yourself in the process. Are you coming off as too fake and shallow? Playing everything by the book? Not being genuine? This only works on fake and shallow women.

Eliminate the desperation. I can see it from your post. Chances are, women see it too. It doesn't matter if you THINK you're not coming off as desperate - because you probably are. This isn't something you can fake - it WILL show. The only cure is to not be desperate. Same for being insecure, weak, etc. You have to not be these things - not just act like you aren't.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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floydb25 said:
Just based on what you said...

Lose the entitlement attitude. Nobody owes you anything. Successful people put themselves out there, assert themselves, and make things happen. You can't expect for everything to come to you. It takes hard work and effort. Even for friendships - you can't remain passive, hang out a few times, accept their invitations, etc - then complain that you have no friends. Dedication is required.

Take yourself off the pedestal. How you view yourself isn't how everyone else views you. If you were everything you claim to be - you wouldn't have so many problems. There's no such thing as being too good - that's not why you fail. It's because you aren't as good as you think you are.

This is a common problem with people. They whine about all these people getting with "losers" - when they're so great and wonderful and overlooked. So, they conclude that they're too good, and people are just intimidated, or looking for something worse. Truth is, they're not as great as they think they are. That's why they're overlooked.

Stop comparing yourself to other people. This isn't a competition - its about personal success. Who cares what anyone else has, or is doing? Don't focus on other people - only yourself.

This applies to stories you read about other people. Just because they fail - doesn't mean you will. Do not compare yourself to them. You can do the same things they are doing, and still succeed. There isn't some rulebook you have to follow - where x and y works for EVERYONE, and r and s works for NOBODY. Everything is different for everyone.

Which might be your problem - trying too hard to fit into this ideal person - while losing yourself in the process. Are you coming off as too fake and shallow? Playing everything by the book? Not being genuine? This only works on fake and shallow women.

Eliminate the desperation. I can see it from your post. Chances are, women see it too. It doesn't matter if you THINK you're not coming off as desperate - because you probably are. This isn't something you can fake - it WILL show. The only cure is to not be desperate. Same for being insecure, weak, etc. You have to not be these things - not just act like you aren't.
great post and spot on
 
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