My ugliest online date leaves after one drink rofl

[Scormus]

So on POF this 5.5 writes in.

The scouting report reads:

38 years old
Indian ethnicity
ugly face - enormous mouth and eyes like saucers
5 foot 1 but has decent looking legs
thin and fit
divorced with 1 child
has a strong career - high five figures in pounds, low six figures in dollars

I hesitate then decide to go on the date if only for the practice, and I resolve I will go for the quick bang.

I am busy on the day and don't feel like going, more than once I think of flaking, but I decide to go in the end.

She seems keen - confirming we are still on the night before, and texting me when she arrives at the bar before I do.

I meet her and offer a drink, she takes a non-alcoholic drink saying she is driving. Fair enough.

As soon as we sit down I can feel the vibes are wrong. We sit perpendicular to each other on a table we could find, but I can see she is sitting far away when she should really be leaning in.

I chat to her and don't get the IOIs I have come to expect from most girls, even girls I didn't see again after the 1st date I was able to snog and make out with most of them.

So I feel put off, when I offer her another drink she says she is fine, then she leaves.

I am sitting there scratching my head because really, I am doing her the favour and I was so close to flaking.

 

[Solomon]

Lol @ this story
lol @ you meeting 5's of POF for dates
lol @ the girl just leaving

just lol

If a chick is not a 6 or above I could be less bothred meeting in public I usually have them come straight to my house to knock boots

But then again I loath online dating and have made it my mission to work more on my fitness so I can be in the field

DO I want this?

Or

That (some random online broad)

Easy

 

[Scormus]

She was a 6 in the photos. 5.5 in person.

 

[Solomon]

She was a 6 in the photos. 5.5 in person.

Look at it this way you didn't spend any (or much) money on her

Not laughing at you OP but these weird stories happen all the time with Online dating, trust me I know

 

[Scormus]

Yeah 3 dollars lol.

 

[Driggs]

Why would you bother with a 6?

 

[Solomon]

Why would you bother with a 6?

"They can't all be 9's and 10's"--Vinny From Jersey Shore

If they were we wouldn't be on this site

 

[Driggs]

I wouldn't date a 6 if I was paid less than $200. For 200 I would probably do it if all expenses on the date were covered and I didn't have to do any work at all to get her to go out.

I guess I am just not that desperate for *****.

My limit is probably 8. The lowest I ever went was probably a 6, cute face but she was overweight. I was surprised though that fcking her was pretty enjoyable, she went crazy.

 

[Casanova99]

Sounds like a perfect date with a woman you did not want. It was cheap, only one drink, and it was short. Well done Sir.

Now you just have to find a new woman you find attractive and date her, maybe two drinks and more time. Keep it going until you meet someone you like and have a good time in the process.

 

[backbreaker]

here is a thought

lol, maybe she realized you thought of her "as a 6". women aren't dumb.

I mean, think about it. don't you think you'd know if you were on a date with a chick and she thought you weren't repulsive, but you were pretty fvcking avg lol? If you had a spine at all how would you react?


you treat them all like princesses. that's what "charm" means.

 

[Driggs]

Maybe she thought he was a six and is presently posting about it on some forum for jezebels.

 

[the_stig]

I've almost passed on meeting girls after being iffy on their pictures, only to be blown away at how much better looking they are in real life. Likewise, the girls you think will be stunning in real life are often the duds. Every meeting is a crap shoot, like pulling the handle on a slot machine, never know what you'll get.

That said, if I'm meeting a girl whom I consider a high risk of being fat/ugly/low value.. she's either driving to my location or its no dice. Can't tell you how many girls I've said goodnight to after 1 drink, and I don't feel bad about it either. If it's not there, why waste your time and money on something that isn't to be.

 

[backbreaker]

it's funny becuase it's probably true


OP: "damn this is a pretty avg looknig chick. I can do better than this but i will still try to get laid"

chick: damn,t his is a pretty avg looking dude. He's not rich, he's not overly handsome, he's not ugly but meh. NOt doing it for me I an do better"

the irony of it all

 

[CrimsonPanther]

I wouldn't date a 6 if I was paid less than $200. For 200 I would probably do it if all expenses on the date were covered and I didn't have to do any work at all to get her to go out.

I guess I am just not that desperate for *****.

My limit is probably 8. The lowest I ever went was probably a 6, cute face but she was overweight. I was surprised though that fcking her was pretty enjoyable, she went crazy.

this means nothing, because what may be a 8 to you, may be a 6 for the most of us.
the convention of numbers is (if i got it right) that you give 5 to the ugliest girl you can f*ck. below that, no way in hell. i ma7y be right i may be wrong. saying you don't go below 8 means either you don't number the chicks the same way others do, or trying to seem exigent / snob etc
no offense man really.
i saw guys here posting girls that was 10 for them, but we just saw an average 6-7 (bonable / meh).
for me personally, i can lay a girl 5 and above, but i would go into a LTR with 7 and above only. for 9 and 10's i would think hard and long, it is tiresome with all the competition. so i guess.

here is a thought

lol, maybe she realized you thought of her "as a 6". women aren't dumb.

I mean, think about it. don't you think you'd know if you were on a date with a chick and she thought you weren't repulsive, but you were pretty fvcking avg lol? If you had a spine at all how would you react?


you treat them all like princesses. that's what "charm" means.

^ this

girls are stupid, but their social skills are better developed than the guys'. they have to feel pretty around you, even if they know they aren't.

 

[backbreaker]

That brings up another good yet not talked about point in real life "game"

You can't just be nice, outgoing, funny, wity, to the girls you want to bone lol, and treat the girls you don't want to bone like they are teh scum of the earth.


One, because we rake on girls all the time for being superficial. When I was overweight 10 years ago give or take, I wasn't even so much mad girls didn't want to date me. I got that much. I understood that. What i could not understand is why girls, treated me like scum lol. I mean okay you don't want to give me a BJ but you don't have to treat me like ****. DJs are supposed to be better than that


But more importantly, because you are telling a girl that the only reason you are acting nice around her is because you want to fvck her. All your game, all your hard work, all your negs, all your plate spinning, all your DJ bible mantras go out of the window when the HB8 observes you treat her differently than you treated 2 HB5s. You have put her on a subconscious pedistool and she knows it and will realize that your entire game is a facade.



The real turning point with my wife was our 3rd date. We had a good first date. No different than any other good first date than any other guy here. We had a very good second date when we went bowling. But the third date, which was a BBQ at her friends house and I met alot of her friends, was when it went from "he's cool and i like him" to "okay this dude is mine and i'm going to do whatever i have to do to get him". She has a big entourage of friends and not all of them are good looking and I spent a lot of time being nice and funny and witty with all of them. Just because I don't want to **** you doesn't mean i can't make you laugh. When she realized my personality wasn't just me trying to get in her pants and it really was just how i was, she was won over.

 

[The Simple Man]

@Backbreaker ok, while what you said is true. Some will take your point as they HAVE TO be witty, outgoing, and whatever to every chick they meet, in order to get poon.

The point is, if you are an outgoing, funny, witty dude, then fine, go on and be that person to everyone. But if you are not, then you don't have to change yourself from a not-so-talkative guy to a fvcking clown in order to fvck a particular b!tch. What you have to do is to harmonize your game and personality in a way that it can both communicates interest while still maintains your personal character. And the reality is that it is easier done than said lol.

Be yourself.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I hesitate then decide to go on the date if only for the practice, and I resolve I will go for the quick bang.

What's that saying? Pride comes before the fall?

I agree with a lot of what the other posters have said her. Here's my take on this: YOU were overly confident...i.e. your game went out the window. I'm guessing you threw out some blue pill tactics because you felt she was below you so you just wanted to cut through the BS and get down to business....and bang.

Well, I'd look at it like this, you cut your losses....quickly. You ran into a self entitled 5-6 who, because of online dating and all the other social media crap, thinks of herself as as a 7-8....with options. I'm sure you were better than her, but, like most girls, she's looking for the guy that's out of her reach and probably always will be. Just because she's an ugo doesn't mean she's still not a chick. As soon as you "played down" to her level....she decided you weren't good enough for her.

This chick was a lose/lose.

I've been there, back in my blue pill days I would lower my standards for a chick, only to have her turn me down. Nothing worse. My advice: Be yourself...but your best self...always.

 

[backbreaker]

@Backbreaker ok, while what you said is true. Some will take your point as they HAVE TO be witty, outgoing, and whatever to every chick they meet, in order to get poon.

The point is, if you are an outgoing, funny, witty dude, then fine, go on and be that person to everyone. But if you are not, then you don't have to change yourself from a not-so-talkative guy to a fvcking clown in order to fvck a particular b!tch. What you have to do is to harmonize your game and personality in a way that it can both communicates interest while still maintains your personal character. And the reality is that it is easier done than said lol.

Be yourself.

I agree

My point being in general that, one thing I can honestly say I never really did a lot of, is blame women for not liking me. If a date went wrong, i would look to see if there was something I honestly could have done better instead of quickly looking to place blame. And usually, even when I got really good, there was. Chalk it up, move on as a learning experience


This date was defiantly salvageable. The "she thought she could do better" line is pure BS if she thought she could do better she never would have went out with you in the first place, she knew what you looked like and what you were about for te most part before she showed up. She went out with you and made the conscious decision she didn't like you.

The question you need to ask yourself is WHY. Why does she not like you. it could be something you can't control or wish not to control, klike your sense of humor or whatever. it could be something you CAN control like maybe be more warm / opening, or maybe you came on a tad too fast, i don't know i wasn' thtere

but you will never improve if you come here and blame every girl that dumps you for being stupid / ignorant/etc

 

[nostalgic60]

You were cold to her, offered no kino, no escalation... you could have moved the chair and sat next to her or have gone to another venue.

So what made her a 5.5 instead of a 6? An extra mole/wrinkle on her face?

You didn't behave like a lover. It was very obvious you thought she was beneath you and didn't bother to seduce her. That's not going to turn anyone on.