"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My Transformation

chell

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Hello everyone!

I feel that it's time for me to transform from what I am now to a MAN. I've got some things going for me right now that I plan to carry over:

I'm intelligent. I'm pretty educated. I think I'm a good person in terms of my morals etc.

But I have many things that I feel are standing in my way:
- Lack of confidence (this is probably my #1 issue)
- Lack of social skills
- Not particularly good looks
and other stuff that's probably related to those 2.

So here's what I'm planning to do for my transition:
- Get fit. I'm changing my diet to make it a lot more healthy. I'm gonna start running regularly soon and I'm doing push-ups regularly to get stronger.
- Contact lenses. I wear glasses at the moment and I feel they create somewhat of a barrier between myself and others. So I'm gonna try wearing contact lenses.
- Getting new clothes: I'm gonna come into some cash soon so I'll get some new clothes, clothes that fit me well and that look good.
- I'm gonna study DJ techniques etc. to improve my game in general.

The bottom line is probably this: I want to get girls and I want to get laid. That's a fact. But: I know that that shouldn't be my main objective when I do this, so I'm doing it to improve. I'm making it happen for myself.

So, sorry for rambling but I just felt this had to be set. I'll probably also use this threat to describe my progress, my victories and defeats and so on to keep myself motivated.

So: Have you got any suggestions on some of the areas above for me that I should incorporate into my transformation?

Thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ssj4halo

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But I have many things that I feel are standing in my way:
- Lack of confidence (this is probably my #1 issue)
- Lack of social skills--talk to everyone anywhere, eventually your skills will improve
- Not particularly good looks-it doesn't matter, clean up your face, get a nice haircut, get some deoderent and you are fine. Focus more on your personaility.
-Get fit: Go to the gym, there are some excellent threads on this forum for gym noobs. Read it, live it.

Something you didn't mention yet, make some new hobbies, try new things, it will enrich your personality and make you a more attractive person in general.
 

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Okay,

went out today to get some stuff from the pharmacy. Had some contact with the female employee (nothing sexual etc.). Because right now I'm at rock bottom as far as social skills go, here's a little evaluation of my social performance:

I got what I wanted and I think expressed that in a confident manner but I should've smiled more because I think I came across as not really friendly.

Definitely gotta work on smiling a bit more to strangers. Anyway I'm going there again later to pick something up they had to order. I'll make it a point to smile.

About the gym thing: Too expensive for me right now so I have to make do without a gym membership right now. Running is probably gonna help me lose some fat...

Other than that what can I do other than push ups and sit ups to improve my strength?
 

Allurre

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First, you should definitely check out my 20 Dating Secrets 97% of Men Worldwide Don't Know About Women too... it'll be a great favor to yourself.

With my newsletter, I'll be able to assist you throughout until you're fully transformed into a full-time natural dj.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Al Moh.

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The DJ Bible and The book of pook are your best friends now.

Since you can't go to the gym you should definitely add pull-ups otherwise you'll create a muscle imbalance if you do too many push-ups.
 
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