My Transcendence

[Credos]

I've been a member of sosuave for quite some time, and had some good and bad experiences, all of these experiances have been a test for me and my willpower to persist my goals. So far I've not given up on any of these tests, but I feel like I've been taking babysteps, and its time to take bigger steps, become renewed. I want to Transcend, so I looked at my weaknesses and I am putting them to the ultimate challenges.

• Jealousy

• Envy

• Fear

of approach​

of making first steps​

• Lack of

willpower​

+ to learn
+ to start new things

style​

control​

* Now I'm going to start with jealousy, so I've started with seducing a HB8.5. Told her i couldn't bound, crap like that, so we have a open relationship, though I do have feelings for her. Now in my last relationships like most guys I found it fine that I was dating other girls, but that she dated other guys just chilled me to the bone, I really did hate it. So to put myself to the ultimate challenge and trying to overcome my jealousy problem I asked the HB8.5 to score (fvck close) with an other guy, and then tell me how it was. Anyway completing the test, would be forgiving her, and never let her show in the first place that I was jealous, in the end, we are just friends with benefits, so she didn't do anything wrong. (You might consider me an idiot for this, well hey maybe I am, never told I wasen't )

* Envy, a problem that I still don't know a challenge for, I do know I envy some DJ's that scored with girls I know and couldn't score with, I guess, becoming a better DJ would be a solution, but not a challenge, so ill find one later

* Fear of approach, but not at bars, but at daytime. Only solution to fear is facing them, and having friends with the same fear face them togheter with you makes it easier, so I decided with my wing to start daylight approaches. Very easy to challenge this aspect, but if you fear it, its very hard. The goal is to Numberclose 30 girls in 30 days, nothing less than HB7.

* Fear of making first steps, well in addition to fear of approach, starting to make out is easy, but getting one night stands is still hard for me and even fvck closes are difficult, so getting 30 numbers should give me the opportunity to date some girls right. Goal is to get at least 5 fvck closes in a month with at least 1 one night stand, I think this should be very doable.

* Lack of willpower to learn, like a new language, so I'll a french coarse. The good thing is I know some people who talk both my language and french, so they can help me out a bit. The challenge is to seduce a french women in her own language.

* Lack of willpower start new things, like starting kiteboarding or wakeboarding, so my challenge is start wakeboarding, at least once a week for 3 months, quite easy challenge, but I wanted to do it for so long and still I ain't doing it. (only one week a year, thats not enough )

* Lack of style, so to get some new style I got some women I like to help me get some new style, bought some new clothes, they had fun doing it. And I look better that makes two thumbs up, girls happy and I'm happy . Only thing left is a new hairstyle .

* Lack of control, I'm sometimes to easy, or so I've been told.
(I think you guys would have been too in this situation, I really had to leave, I'll spare you the reason, but she (an HB8) was sitting on my, told me not to leave and started opening my pants and rubbing my d1ck, reasons enough to stay for me :crackup
Anyway I do think I need to control my lust etc. a bit too, cause I was kinda sticky on her. To challenge this, I would like to try leave her wanting more thingy, cause I suck at that anyway, so double awards from this challenge. So when I had some dates with a girl and we end up in bed (after like 3 or more dates, just not too long eather ) and she wants to do it, make her wait for it a few more dates .




If anybody wants to join in my Transcendence, and wants to join in some or even all my challenge, you're all more than welcome. I'll post the stories on all my challenges, if I really did found them good, what the bads were, what could have been done differently and of course if they really did help me out.

Ciao Credos

 

[Credos]

I made a conclusion, that starting relations in busy periods is easy but most definitely NOT advisable. You see in these busy periods, like exams, people tend to be less social, and thus in need of more affection. So you might consider this a good time to plant a seed. The reason not to harvest the crops is because they are BUSY a lot so you can't see them, which leads to agitations, and ultimately to a very bad foundation in a relationship. Therefor, get the girls attention, seduce her a bit, leave her wanting more(This means, if she calls you constantly, don't alwayse pickup the phone cause she'll start finding it normal, and get agitated when you don't) , but don't give it all to her yet . Tell her you like her, you would like to get to know her better, AFTER the exams, or whatever.

If you played it right and got her attention, it should be very easy to win her over.

 

[Credos]

Lol funny isen't it, women... They really aren't readable. Like I started dating this girl, she was more of a friend and she had a BF, she was nagging about him etc, I told her I really didn't want to hear cr*p about him, and that I could care less. We ended up kissing that night, and her ditching her BF the next day, so conclusion, I made her get over him and I got the girl too .

Though I never really know when a girl likes me or not at the way they talk to me etc (only at the way they look at you, or if you make statements to her like: "you like me" and she doesn't really say no), like when I didn't see my ex that much, we used to talk on the phone, I sometimes got insecure if she still really liked me or not, but these thoughs are really something you should try to avoid, and if you do get them, just lie to yourself if you have to, just lose them asap. I found that these insecureties mostly are losable by getting reserves. So when you start dating some girl or even in relationships

Do not:

• Stop dating other women, because then you might get yourself a oneitis

• Listen to crap about her ex, tell you aren't intrested in that, and tell this literly.

• Give up, if she hasen't said no. You don't know whats going on in her head, i seduced women cause I was to suborn to give up, and I did ended up with the girl to my own surprise

Do:

• Test her, is she fun, can she make her laugh, is she rich, that kinda stuff, asking if she's rich is alwayse fun , also don't forget to ask her if she cooks and if she lives alone, if she can cook, she can make you a meal, if she lives alone, you can crash at her place, maybe even tonight ...

• Use her to test yourself, to improve yourself for instance, like I'm doing in my test of jealousy :rockon:

• Make rules, and make them when you first start dating, if you don't like smokers, tell her that you don't like her smoking and that you would prefer her to smoke later, if she doesn't stop for you, she eather isen't really intrested, or is to dumb to get the clue. Both ways, ditch the b*tch, unless you're already willing to give out second chances...

It's funny to look back in the past and know what kinda AFC I used to be, being like a slave to these girls listening to their boring stories about their even more boring boyfriends. In the end it was alwayse up to me to decide what was going to happen that night, but I used to be too scared. It rarely happens that I still freeze. (I guess I do still freeze sometimes, but hey I'm still learning too you know) The easiest way out of this, is by making fun of the situation, but I guess everybody has somekind of solution to freezing...

 

[Lust]

This is an awesome post man, the challenges you gave yourself are great, identifying what you need to improve is also a really smart move.

Eventually as people understand more and more about Don Juaning, they will realise that theres a lot of things you must change about your life. It's not always techniques and theories.

Self-improvement is important, and i have realised that lately, and have been doing some things to improve my self, like thinking positively, approaching girls to improve my confidence, stuff like that.

After all, love is only on area of your life, you still have wealth and health to attend to.

Good luck on those challenges.

-Lust.

 

[Credos]

* Envy, this might be one of my best challenges, I'm must admit it myself, this wil be very hard. I have this guy at a bar, he is part dj part afc, but he disrespects the unwriten code (stealing your best friend GF, and laughing about it with others, 2 sins and thus I promised myself and his friend we would have our vengeance). Anyway the time for vengeance is not yet here. To put my envy to the ultimate challenge, I will force myself to fall in love with a girl that likes him, and then challenge him to seduce her and get a fvck close with her. The challenge will only be complete after I truly have feelings for her and he when he closes her and I don't beat the crap outta him . (damn this is gonna be painfull, I'm already loving it :crackup

 

[Credos]

Funny how many guys can seduce a women and consider themself super DJs but a lot of them don't know how to keep her and forget that keeping a relation, keeping intrest is also an aspect of seduction. Therefor, when you seduce a girl, you need to be a badass. When you want to keep intrest in a relationship you should be more caring and a lot less badass...

Also, new people alwayse keep talking about fear, we all have our fears. Especially fear of approach is common here, as my old man told me, everytime you see a hot women, you should know some other guy is tired of her, finds her boring to the bone and thus she can't be perfect. I didn't really understood it at the time but I do now, you consider them perfect in the beginning, but then I try to position myself in the place of her ex and think she could be very boring. In the end you knew and still know that even the first you saw an HB you had/have a oneitis on wasen't perfect and that she never could have been... We just want them to be...

Starting as an AFC its so hard to get the picture in our heads, that whatever you do in life, you did have a decision... We all have to make decisions, to approach this HB, or to cowar in fear but being sure that we aren't rejected. Both 2 good decisions, cause whatever choice you make, the choices you make are ALWAYSE the right ones. Once you know this you can consider yourself one step farther from AFCness. Once you realise this, you can consider yourself having selfconfidence and that is the first step of becoming a DJ, and not having made that approach. Once you realise this, you can start working on self improvement, start approaching people in general, ask them questions, directions anything to get the confidence to just approach in random.
As you progress, and you will if you work on selfimprovement, you can start making new decision, some easy ones some harder ones... Sleeping at your place, alone... Or going to your partially GF (considering that you are like me and you CAN'T bind yourself, also know as TAMING yourself ) who has made a good diner, has a warm tub, and end up spending the night having some fun... Yea well you can say life is hard can't you?

 

[Credos]

Ever since I started on this site, I really did improve at seduction, but I never really learned how to keep the girln this kinda something they leave outta this site. So far as I've learned, I think you should be really carefull paying compliments, cause they will consider that in time as something they should hear, and be pissed cause you don't give them "anymore" or not enough. Its like giving a child more candy, he still won't have enough if you've given him a bit more, it will cry again the next time...

- Times to compliment women:

• 
  is once when you're seducing them, just to make sure they know that they have a little of your attention.

• is when you had sex, just one minute after, this is when they emotional and vulnerable, and thus one of the best times to make them fall (even more) in love with you.

• When you haven't seen them in a while

You can add some more situations, but be sure you don't overdo it.

Funny a girlfriend of me told me that guys are too easy. Maybe she's right but if you ask me its just hunting game we're playing.
The male starts as the hunter,

• 1) getting the girls number

• 2) getting a date

• 3) Getting that first kiss

• End) Having sex

At this point the roles change, and the female becomes the hunter(with the non-afc person that is). If you're a player, you can run like hell, use her, test her, this is how I see the female huntinggames

• 1) making you say that you love her

• 2) LTR

• 3) making you bind yourself to her, and only her (which mostly means, making you lose you're nuts)

• 4) Staying over at your crib more than she does at her own

• End) Moving in, or making you move in with her (this is partially/fully become a slave with some women)

So if you reach the male goal, the tables would normally start turning, be sure not to be to dependable on her, date other women, cause oneitis is a contagious disease you DON'T wanna have, unless you want to settle, which you might start considering at some age...

Anyway, if you ask me, if you consider starting a relationship, be sure to protect yourself a bit. As humans its our nature to be selfish, in the end we want the best for ourself, and thus women do to. Some wil use you, and some wil truely love you, its up to you to see which you wanna keep.

 

[Credos]

Starting day of my challenges will be 1 February