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Master Don Juan
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Disclaimer: All of these was compiled in short order with little or no time for double checking.
If there are mistakes, OK there are mistakes, please try to overlook them.
This is just a little primer to help one get started. There is a tons of details you'll need
to seek out for proper resources.
Who should read this?
You want girls but nothing you do seems to work.
You cannot get the courage to approach women.
You have weight/style issues that prevent you from feeling confident.
You want to embark on the exciting vouyage of self improvement
Who should not read this?
You are already highly successful and content
You come to sosauve just to be negative or make excuses why nothing will work.
If this is you, please fvck off. Naysayers just get in the way of progress by those of us who are actually going somewhere in life.
It won't be easy, but I've done this stuff. I'm including my tips that were learned the hard way by me. Tips that can put you at ease and on the fast track to "success". I can tell you how I find women and how I get them in bed. I've not been terribly successful at managing a long term relationship, so once you find them, I'd suggest you consult someone else on how to keep them.
The bottom line is this isn't theory, this is experiments that proved successful for me, and I believe will help you also.
If you naysay and make excuses why it won't work for you, then there is nothing myself or anyone sosuave can do to help you until your attitude changes. You must see that there is more pain in doing nothing than in fixing the problems you have. Until that day occurs, my friend, you're never going to see much improvement.
Section I: Taking Action
IA. Saying HI
I assume most readers have done the "HI" program promoted on this website and in numerous printed materials. I believe this is a good program. Unfortunately, it is not nearly as easy as one might imagine. Particularly, in stores and other places that strangers
rarely say HI.
They key is to remember this is about you. This is about getting those feelings of regret you have for not approaching women out. That feeling is more a result of being pissed at yourself for not trying something than it is for not having a woman on your arm. You must say **** it, this isn't about her, this is about me! If she ignores you, good! Just keep saying hi. I've noticed that once you say HI to a few people, women see you being friendly and some will begin to smile as you pass them, hoping you'll say Hi to them as well. I swear, I felt so stupid when I first began the HI program, but if you give it time and just keep moving forward it becomes very easy. This is the first step in learning how to interupt women. For me, this was the hardest part by far.
IB. Complimenting Women
Once you have mustered up the strength to say HI, it is time to begin complimenting women. Here's what you do: Go to a crowded store. Say HI to ten women. Go to the checkout lane with your stuff. Do NOT go in line until you will be behind a woman you want to talk to. The lane must also have an attractive cashier.You must have at least one piece of trash paper in your pocket. It must be wadded up and not large. If you don't have one, go get it now. Find something on the floor. Wad up a donut wrapper. No excuses, Mr. Clean.
Find a reason to interupt the woman a head of you. I don't give a rat's bare butt why. If it's hot and she has on long sleeves say something like, "You must be hot in long sleeves, because I'm burning up in shorts! I mean that shirt looks really nice on you, but
wow is it hot in here". I used this one today to start a conversation at the grocery store line. Next, when you approach the counter,
I want you to take some trash out of your pocket and ask the cashier if she has a trash can. When you hand her the trash, you're to brush her soft hands just a little bit. Be sure to smile and make eye contact just before doing so. Don't ask her out, just give her kino, eye contact, and a smile for right now. It is very easy I promise. I did this just today and you can too.
Continue this program until you're totally comfortable interupting women. Trust me, they love to be flirted with by a whitty guy. Just keep pressing a head no matter what happens. It will eventually feel natural and you'll become much better at this. This is about you, not her. If you don't do this you're going to be reading sosuave for life and never see much change.
Optional but recommended:
If you're still strugling with this, I suggest you check out Anthony Robbin's Personal Power Series. It is an audio course that really helped me get started taking action before I knew about sosuave. It is an excellent resource in general. You can also read it, as I did, with the intention of using his motivational style to push you in the right direction with women. I saw a HUGE improvement in my love life once I started using his methods to motivate myself to take risks with women.
Section II: Self-Improvement
Let's face it sunshine, you aren't going to impress any women as a 35 year old janitor with 3 dope smoking roomates. You need to set yourself up for a descent job, a car, a nice body, and a good pad. You want to be a sharp dressed, well groomed, highly desireable guy that all her friend's will swoon for and be jealous she got to first.
Accept the fact that women don't really go for *******s, but they would rather have ANYONE than some anti-social creep who sits around and NEVER looks like he is having any fun, who is poorly dressed, laughed at by her friend's, or who is so self-concious he won't ever dare make a fashion statement.
2A. Become a man of the world
If you're in college, I want you to sign up for a semister abroad. I prefer you choose a Central or South American country. I prefer you choose Buenos Aires as your first city. There is tons of beautiful women there. The circle by Honduras Street is lined with women and clubs. You're to learn as much Spanish as possible, then go there and try picking up women. For some reason, it is always easier for me to approach women in a foriegn culture. Try it and see for yourself. Hint: If you strike out, you can always go to Cafe Excedra or Club Newport to select from one of the many women there. Go sign up now, you hear me college?
If you cannot do this, just learn a foriegn language. I prefer Spanish since I am from the USA and the language is very useful here. You can use this to communicare with a wider variety of women and to impress women you can already communicate with. Trust me, this is the kind of stuff that does impress women without making you look like a nerd or jerk.
2B. Learn how to dress
Take ten minutes ina busy mall and watch how people are dressed. You can instantely pick out the sharp-dressed guys. They are a cut above the rest. Women will put you above them if you're dressed better than any guy she has ever dated. This is where you want to be.
Watch modern styles. Get a book, such as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy's Style guide, or preferably a much larger resource. If you're short on time, you may even hire a fashion coordinator. For god's sake do something now! I don't care if you have five starving kids, you absolutely must have in fashion, clean, nice clothing that GOES TOGETHER.
I want you to promise me right now that you'll never again buy just a top or bottom. OK??? I want you to think OUTFITS. They don't have to be packaged as such, as you can find matching clothes, right? Never take anything to the counter until you have entire outfits that go together. It must look sharp. It must look as good or better than the best dressed guys you saw earlier. You're also allowed to have some laid back dress materials, too. T-shirts can be made to look good. If you don't believe me, you better consult those reference books or fashion coordinators we discussed earlier.
Take your best clothing to be professionally cleaned. Use a non-irritating detergent for all other clothes to prevent acne or other skin disorders. I like Arm & Hammer.
2C. Hair style says a lot about you
You really want to have a good hairstyle. The right hairstyle can dramatically alter how your face looks to women. This is really one of the most important things you can do to make your face look better. Your hairstyle also makes a statement as to your personality. I recommend looking through some books, picking out four styles you might like, then ask your female friends for input. Finally, ask your stylist for input once you've narrowed it down to two choices. You should also ask for advice on how to style your hair once you get home, if you're uncertain.
I know for certain that you'll need shampoo, conditioner, a styling gel, and brushes/combs. Never use a shampoo and conditioner in one. If you have these things, please throw them out now. No matter the bottle says, you only need to leave conditioner in for about 30 seconds.
A rag held under hot water and sqeezed til just moist can be used as a compress for 30 seconds to make a cowlick lay down. It doesn't always work for me, though.
2D. While you're at it
Since you're reading posts on the Internet and we are dicsussing self-improvement, I'll need a favor from you. I want you to check out a book that teaches you speed reading techniques. You'll make up whatever time you spend reading the book. It will help you study. It will reduce the fatigue you experience while reading. It will give you an advantage over the average man. I'll suggest "Tripple Your Reading Speed" by Wade E. Cutler.
If there are mistakes, OK there are mistakes, please try to overlook them.
This is just a little primer to help one get started. There is a tons of details you'll need
to seek out for proper resources.
Who should read this?
You want girls but nothing you do seems to work.
You cannot get the courage to approach women.
You have weight/style issues that prevent you from feeling confident.
You want to embark on the exciting vouyage of self improvement
Who should not read this?
You are already highly successful and content
You come to sosauve just to be negative or make excuses why nothing will work.
If this is you, please fvck off. Naysayers just get in the way of progress by those of us who are actually going somewhere in life.
It won't be easy, but I've done this stuff. I'm including my tips that were learned the hard way by me. Tips that can put you at ease and on the fast track to "success". I can tell you how I find women and how I get them in bed. I've not been terribly successful at managing a long term relationship, so once you find them, I'd suggest you consult someone else on how to keep them.
The bottom line is this isn't theory, this is experiments that proved successful for me, and I believe will help you also.
If you naysay and make excuses why it won't work for you, then there is nothing myself or anyone sosuave can do to help you until your attitude changes. You must see that there is more pain in doing nothing than in fixing the problems you have. Until that day occurs, my friend, you're never going to see much improvement.
Section I: Taking Action
IA. Saying HI
I assume most readers have done the "HI" program promoted on this website and in numerous printed materials. I believe this is a good program. Unfortunately, it is not nearly as easy as one might imagine. Particularly, in stores and other places that strangers
rarely say HI.
They key is to remember this is about you. This is about getting those feelings of regret you have for not approaching women out. That feeling is more a result of being pissed at yourself for not trying something than it is for not having a woman on your arm. You must say **** it, this isn't about her, this is about me! If she ignores you, good! Just keep saying hi. I've noticed that once you say HI to a few people, women see you being friendly and some will begin to smile as you pass them, hoping you'll say Hi to them as well. I swear, I felt so stupid when I first began the HI program, but if you give it time and just keep moving forward it becomes very easy. This is the first step in learning how to interupt women. For me, this was the hardest part by far.
IB. Complimenting Women
Once you have mustered up the strength to say HI, it is time to begin complimenting women. Here's what you do: Go to a crowded store. Say HI to ten women. Go to the checkout lane with your stuff. Do NOT go in line until you will be behind a woman you want to talk to. The lane must also have an attractive cashier.You must have at least one piece of trash paper in your pocket. It must be wadded up and not large. If you don't have one, go get it now. Find something on the floor. Wad up a donut wrapper. No excuses, Mr. Clean.
Find a reason to interupt the woman a head of you. I don't give a rat's bare butt why. If it's hot and she has on long sleeves say something like, "You must be hot in long sleeves, because I'm burning up in shorts! I mean that shirt looks really nice on you, but
wow is it hot in here". I used this one today to start a conversation at the grocery store line. Next, when you approach the counter,
I want you to take some trash out of your pocket and ask the cashier if she has a trash can. When you hand her the trash, you're to brush her soft hands just a little bit. Be sure to smile and make eye contact just before doing so. Don't ask her out, just give her kino, eye contact, and a smile for right now. It is very easy I promise. I did this just today and you can too.
Continue this program until you're totally comfortable interupting women. Trust me, they love to be flirted with by a whitty guy. Just keep pressing a head no matter what happens. It will eventually feel natural and you'll become much better at this. This is about you, not her. If you don't do this you're going to be reading sosuave for life and never see much change.
Optional but recommended:
If you're still strugling with this, I suggest you check out Anthony Robbin's Personal Power Series. It is an audio course that really helped me get started taking action before I knew about sosuave. It is an excellent resource in general. You can also read it, as I did, with the intention of using his motivational style to push you in the right direction with women. I saw a HUGE improvement in my love life once I started using his methods to motivate myself to take risks with women.
Section II: Self-Improvement
Let's face it sunshine, you aren't going to impress any women as a 35 year old janitor with 3 dope smoking roomates. You need to set yourself up for a descent job, a car, a nice body, and a good pad. You want to be a sharp dressed, well groomed, highly desireable guy that all her friend's will swoon for and be jealous she got to first.
Accept the fact that women don't really go for *******s, but they would rather have ANYONE than some anti-social creep who sits around and NEVER looks like he is having any fun, who is poorly dressed, laughed at by her friend's, or who is so self-concious he won't ever dare make a fashion statement.
2A. Become a man of the world
If you're in college, I want you to sign up for a semister abroad. I prefer you choose a Central or South American country. I prefer you choose Buenos Aires as your first city. There is tons of beautiful women there. The circle by Honduras Street is lined with women and clubs. You're to learn as much Spanish as possible, then go there and try picking up women. For some reason, it is always easier for me to approach women in a foriegn culture. Try it and see for yourself. Hint: If you strike out, you can always go to Cafe Excedra or Club Newport to select from one of the many women there. Go sign up now, you hear me college?
If you cannot do this, just learn a foriegn language. I prefer Spanish since I am from the USA and the language is very useful here. You can use this to communicare with a wider variety of women and to impress women you can already communicate with. Trust me, this is the kind of stuff that does impress women without making you look like a nerd or jerk.
2B. Learn how to dress
Take ten minutes ina busy mall and watch how people are dressed. You can instantely pick out the sharp-dressed guys. They are a cut above the rest. Women will put you above them if you're dressed better than any guy she has ever dated. This is where you want to be.
Watch modern styles. Get a book, such as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy's Style guide, or preferably a much larger resource. If you're short on time, you may even hire a fashion coordinator. For god's sake do something now! I don't care if you have five starving kids, you absolutely must have in fashion, clean, nice clothing that GOES TOGETHER.
I want you to promise me right now that you'll never again buy just a top or bottom. OK??? I want you to think OUTFITS. They don't have to be packaged as such, as you can find matching clothes, right? Never take anything to the counter until you have entire outfits that go together. It must look sharp. It must look as good or better than the best dressed guys you saw earlier. You're also allowed to have some laid back dress materials, too. T-shirts can be made to look good. If you don't believe me, you better consult those reference books or fashion coordinators we discussed earlier.
Take your best clothing to be professionally cleaned. Use a non-irritating detergent for all other clothes to prevent acne or other skin disorders. I like Arm & Hammer.
2C. Hair style says a lot about you
You really want to have a good hairstyle. The right hairstyle can dramatically alter how your face looks to women. This is really one of the most important things you can do to make your face look better. Your hairstyle also makes a statement as to your personality. I recommend looking through some books, picking out four styles you might like, then ask your female friends for input. Finally, ask your stylist for input once you've narrowed it down to two choices. You should also ask for advice on how to style your hair once you get home, if you're uncertain.
I know for certain that you'll need shampoo, conditioner, a styling gel, and brushes/combs. Never use a shampoo and conditioner in one. If you have these things, please throw them out now. No matter the bottle says, you only need to leave conditioner in for about 30 seconds.
A rag held under hot water and sqeezed til just moist can be used as a compress for 30 seconds to make a cowlick lay down. It doesn't always work for me, though.
2D. While you're at it
Since you're reading posts on the Internet and we are dicsussing self-improvement, I'll need a favor from you. I want you to check out a book that teaches you speed reading techniques. You'll make up whatever time you spend reading the book. It will help you study. It will reduce the fatigue you experience while reading. It will give you an advantage over the average man. I'll suggest "Tripple Your Reading Speed" by Wade E. Cutler.
I've found some good recipes on Andrew Weil's website. His stuff actually seems to taste good, so I can stand to eat it. You can also get recipe's from most Men's magazines, American Cancer Society, or the library.