Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have read your rules and one of your best rules was 2. If a newbie posts, do NOT flame them, harass them, insult them, ect. That is my job. But no, just leave them alone. If you have helpful advice, post it. Otherwise, shut up.TheVirtualMind said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hmm I see what your saying,I agree with you.I will defintely need to start making threads more helpful to people.Can you do me a favor lock this thread before the other memebers post childish comments, and thanks for comments!TheVirtualMind said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Please don't post anything in a public board, in which you know you will receive feedback.dreamx said:
Obviously you need to read my posts correctly you idiot. I did post a thread that said im going to change and i did change i approached couple girls at the mall.Well my posts are real and i don't give a **** if you don't believe me.Dont come here in my thread posting some bull**** and insulting me you know what get the **** out of here I hope you read one of the moderators rule in sticky:Dude2Stud said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
lease do me a favor everyone stop posting on this thread,its for me and the moderators to post and discuss.