no_longer_afc
Don Juan
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Hello all,
A little bit of background. I've been reading this forum for a while now and believe that a lot of the tips set out are very useful. I do however feel that some members over analyse things too much. I am 20 years old and attend university in the UK. I have not had sex with a girl and my experience is limited. I will outline however which factors I feel are most important for other AFCs to consider.
I'm in a stage of mild oneitis/crush over someone at university. With this in mind, I have decided to put down what I feel are the most important ingredients for attracting female attention. In order to counteract this oneitis I think that getting away from the girl involved or looking at her negative aspects is essential.
I think that I am good looking but my inexperience with women is due to a lack of opportunities, until recently I have not been socialising that much at bars and clubs. Therefore, merely getting out there and trying your luck is probably the most important aspect to consider.
Next, being able to interpret signs of attraction is important but I feel that this is not an exact science and should be used as an additional component. Please do not feel that body language is that indicative alone.
Next, confidence really does matter. You have to understand that what other people think does not count for anything. What you think of yourself and being sure in your own skin is much more important.
Personality - think of people that you get on well with. There are people who are always happy and have a positive outlook in life. These people tend to get on better with the ladies. It is easy to understand this as some of my best friends are the people that I can turn to when I'm feeling a bit low to help me laugh, raise a smile or just be a shoulder to cry on.
Conversation - for me with people at university it is difficult to move the conversations away from work which I feel is a grave mistake. If you just talk about work you're like all the other AFCs - the girl has to remember you and when she thinks of you she thinks of your witty, charming and chirpy qualities not the fact that you've turned two essays in late.
Any opinions on my first post would be great!
Many thanks
A little bit of background. I've been reading this forum for a while now and believe that a lot of the tips set out are very useful. I do however feel that some members over analyse things too much. I am 20 years old and attend university in the UK. I have not had sex with a girl and my experience is limited. I will outline however which factors I feel are most important for other AFCs to consider.
I'm in a stage of mild oneitis/crush over someone at university. With this in mind, I have decided to put down what I feel are the most important ingredients for attracting female attention. In order to counteract this oneitis I think that getting away from the girl involved or looking at her negative aspects is essential.
I think that I am good looking but my inexperience with women is due to a lack of opportunities, until recently I have not been socialising that much at bars and clubs. Therefore, merely getting out there and trying your luck is probably the most important aspect to consider.
Next, being able to interpret signs of attraction is important but I feel that this is not an exact science and should be used as an additional component. Please do not feel that body language is that indicative alone.
Next, confidence really does matter. You have to understand that what other people think does not count for anything. What you think of yourself and being sure in your own skin is much more important.
Personality - think of people that you get on well with. There are people who are always happy and have a positive outlook in life. These people tend to get on better with the ladies. It is easy to understand this as some of my best friends are the people that I can turn to when I'm feeling a bit low to help me laugh, raise a smile or just be a shoulder to cry on.
Conversation - for me with people at university it is difficult to move the conversations away from work which I feel is a grave mistake. If you just talk about work you're like all the other AFCs - the girl has to remember you and when she thinks of you she thinks of your witty, charming and chirpy qualities not the fact that you've turned two essays in late.
Any opinions on my first post would be great!
Many thanks