For me the mindset has many aspects. I find that for me when I set out to meet girls I must actually plan for it. This allows me to focus. Also I don’t get caught off guard as easily. For example I will plan to go to school 3 or 4 hours earlier than my class to specifically meet women. Often I will even go on a day that I do not have class and spend that entire day doing one thing, meet girls. In other words I get really focused on the task at hand. You could say I'm "In the Zone". Second I don’t get caught up in the fact that many of these women are simply not going to be interested. So when I get the turn down for whatever reason I politely say nice talking to you and leave. I never argue or try to convince a girl once I see its going bad, I just get outa there and on to the next one. Another thing for me is I only accept phone numbers or make the date right there. Emails are not acceptable. Making the "date" right on the spot is something that I just caught on to, and wish I had figured out sooner. It allows you to cut the bull (like phone games) and find out the real interest level of the girl. Plus you get to see her again faster. A few times I even got the girl to go do something like coffee right there on the spot. With one I was making out with her an hour later. Another I took to the beach and had a serious make out session. Two days later I banged her. I am a big believer in making dates with girls on the spot. I never leave a date or meeting with a girl without setting up another. Some say its anti challenge but it works for me and allows me to gauge interest level. I hate wasting time with women, I guess I’m a little impatient and admit I probably have lost a few because of it.
When I approach I keep the conversation really basic at first. I take notice of something that she is doing and bring it up. “What are you studying”? “Did you make that purse”? After I see she might be friendly I might tease her a little. Build a little rapport. I’ll than say, “Sara, can you write your number down?” I than say that I have to go and excuse myself. I will then write on the paper with her number some info about the conversation.
Here are a few of the things I have learned: Please keep in mind this is my experience and may differ from other people.
Approaches from behind rarely work.
If she will only give her email but no number, forget it, your just wasting time.
“Hi” only seems to work if you have established eye contact, otherwise it’s kinda silly.
If there is no eye contact better to ask some kind of question.
Just because there is no eye contact doesn’t mean shes not interested. Many girls are purposefully avoiding eye contact with guys and you may have to break through the shell a little.
Going for the kiss without the proper kino and buildup usually ends in failure. In other words you cant just all of a sudden, out of the blue, try to kiss a girl, you have to work up to it. I made this mistake more than once and felt a little foolish. So now the kino starts right away.
