"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My take on eye contact

BannedGod

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Everyone here will agree that eye contact is a very important aspect in seduction and when you meet someone, but it is my belief that most of you guys think it's important for the wrong reasons. Now, I'm not talking about eye contact in an intimate context, but in a random, social context, where you just met a chick, or haven't even talked to her yet.

From what I gathered, almost everyone thinks eye contact serves to show that you are interested in a girl. I won't deny that, it holds some truth, but I don't think it's only that. I hold eye contact with ugly chicks out of politeness, with other guys for same reason, etc.

No I think that eye contact is way more than just to show interest. I think it works deep down with our primitive/instinct mechanisms. If you look in nature, in about 99% of the cases, the male of the species is dominant. Heck, even if you look in the human species, males have almost always been dominant. Take prehistoric era. Women were gatherers and care-takers, men were hunters and fighters. Men were therefore naturally leaders, and women were naturally submissive.

My point about this is that I think that eye contact is not only to show interest (on some degree), but it is also one of the most powerful tool to show your alphaness. Once again, look in the animal kingdom (take for example wolves). A wolf that maintain eye contact with another wolf will be seemed as a sign of challenge (ie: a lone wolf maintening eye contact with the leader of the pack would be the lone wolf challenging the leader). Or, taken from wikipedia: Young children may be more likely to fall victim to dog attacks because they maintain eye contact, which the dog perceives as aggression, according to a report in the New Zealand Medical Journal.[14].

Basically, what I'm saying is that eye contact is, simply put, a way to prove your dominance. Women are naturally dominated, male naturally dominate. By keeping eye contact with a woman and not looking away (and making her look away first), you are simply perpetuating the role that nature has for all of us, and deep down, subconsciously, women will be all the more attracted to you because of the sign of dominance that you show. It's animal, it's primitive, but it's also true.

Yeah I know, lengthy post. Now, discuss
 

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betterthandead

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if i'm in a friendly atmosphere and there's a guy giving me there staredown and learned from retards like yourself that this is a sign of dominance. i can only say you are gay
 

ready123

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GOOD eye contact subcommunicates a lot of things
- confidence/lack of weakness (what you're getting at)
- that you're interested in the conversation
- that you're trustworthy and genuine

and like everything else, there's a sweet spot where you don't look weak, but don't creep the girl out either. your goal is to further the interaction, not have a random staring contest
 
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