StoodAbove
New Member
Hello, first off, I'm 33, going through a divorce, realize all of my mistakes throughout my life. and I'm HAPPY as hell with my life right now!
My Story
I was always the fat kid in school and your normal AFC. Never approaching the girls I liked, shy, and making excuses and blaming them. Never had a girlfriend, until S. I met her when I was twenty one, and she was really into me, even though I did all the standard AFC sh*t. Finally lost my virginity at twenty one to her, and she was my "one". She cheated on me a few months into our "relationship", made it out to be like a "date rape" thing, telling me she was saying she loved me the entire time. I stayed, the fat, shy, no confidence guy, who thought he could do no better, stayed. And, still doing all the AFC standard sh*t.
We moved in together, yes I piad all the bills, treated her like a queen, "yes dear, what do you want dear, what can I do for you, dear?" We broke up for three months during the summer, she was f*cking who she wanted, when she wanted, I knew it, but wouldn't let myself believe it, I acted like a little girl trying to get her back, cried, called, pleaded, begged! She came back(Hooray, me!), my sex drive for her diminished(the man part of me fighting for control), but, as an AFC would, I put her back on that pedestal(she was still the one, and I couldn't do better, not fat, shy, no confidence, little ole' me). So what else was I supposed to do? Bought the ring and asked her to marry me, obviously I couldn't lose this "gem" again, could I?
We got married(the perfect little life I always dreamed of), and she went back to school. Well, there's a new guy she's talking with, even talked with him for an hour and a half, while I was there(poor pathetic me!). I started to get suspicious(yes, started), found a voicemail from him to her saying they would go to the movies on a certain day. Did I bring it up to her, no, just left the phone on the nightstand with his missed call showing(what a P*ssy I was).
FOUR MONTHS after we were married, I was at work training for two weeks out of town. I come home the weekend between, and find a note she had written, detailing her affair with this guy from school. I lost it, destroyed the house(never put a finger on her, I would have lost my job), punched the wall, broke two knuckles, went back down to school, and decided we could work this out(Great Job AFC, she obviously loves and cares for you so much). Well, at school is when I decided to start thinking of myself. I started to work out, went from 6' 1" 235lbs, pure fat, to now at 185lbs working out, eating healthy!
We started counselling(we could work this out, she is so great!), and I started talking, I talked throughout the entire sessions, I was breaking my shyness, releasing all the pent up anger and emotions, I needed to talk. During this time, I changed, not we(thats all that matters at that point, its starting to become about me, not her).
I still continue with all the AFC sh*t, she's my princess, there is no other as great as her, yada, yada, yada. We fight again, I see she is talking with another guy from class, and yet again, I DO NOT confront her on this. On her birthday, I buy her $400 worth of gifts, and she spends the night with this guy, didn't hear from her until 1 pm the next day(she didn't cheat on me, she loves me!), and she provides all the normal excuses.
A week later, she stays out all night again, and I catch her lying about where she is at(with him, of course). That is it for me, I hit that point, I hit that brick F*CKING wall. I didn't destroy the house, I drove to another state, caught the waitress at Denny's checking me out, and walked out of that Denny's a new man!
She moved out that day, and I filed for divorce!!!!!!!!!!! It took a while, I drank a lot and listened to a lot of music, but I was DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!! I went to Vegas with friends for a weekend, and on the flight home, sat next to a very attractive girl. For some reason, ****y/Funny came natural during this flight, started making out with her on the flight, had her back at my place, and definitely the best f*ck I've had(what I needed at that point in my life).
So, I look at all the advice from Maxim, askmen, etc, and I find this site(godsend). SoSauve is packed with information, and I lurked and read for a few weeks, and had to join!
At this point in my life(seven months from the end of my "perfect lil' relationship"), I'm confident, I look and feel good, I have a great career(an attractive one to women) and I'm learning. I'm taking the time to learn to make myself happy, l'm learning what I like, what I want and feeling great about myself. I see the women that want me, I see the IOIs, and I'm making steps each day, at my pace. I see the world different now, I see my mistakes, but it took all that sh*t, to make me the person I am today. It's not just about attracting women, its about enjoying life, being successful and realizing who you are.
To the members of the forum, thanks in advance for your support and wisdom, and I hope I can be of help in the future!
To the girl at Starbucks, your next on my radar, when I'm ready!!!!
And to S, thanks for finally making me achieve my potential, your loss............
My Story
I was always the fat kid in school and your normal AFC. Never approaching the girls I liked, shy, and making excuses and blaming them. Never had a girlfriend, until S. I met her when I was twenty one, and she was really into me, even though I did all the standard AFC sh*t. Finally lost my virginity at twenty one to her, and she was my "one". She cheated on me a few months into our "relationship", made it out to be like a "date rape" thing, telling me she was saying she loved me the entire time. I stayed, the fat, shy, no confidence guy, who thought he could do no better, stayed. And, still doing all the AFC standard sh*t.
We moved in together, yes I piad all the bills, treated her like a queen, "yes dear, what do you want dear, what can I do for you, dear?" We broke up for three months during the summer, she was f*cking who she wanted, when she wanted, I knew it, but wouldn't let myself believe it, I acted like a little girl trying to get her back, cried, called, pleaded, begged! She came back(Hooray, me!), my sex drive for her diminished(the man part of me fighting for control), but, as an AFC would, I put her back on that pedestal(she was still the one, and I couldn't do better, not fat, shy, no confidence, little ole' me). So what else was I supposed to do? Bought the ring and asked her to marry me, obviously I couldn't lose this "gem" again, could I?
We got married(the perfect little life I always dreamed of), and she went back to school. Well, there's a new guy she's talking with, even talked with him for an hour and a half, while I was there(poor pathetic me!). I started to get suspicious(yes, started), found a voicemail from him to her saying they would go to the movies on a certain day. Did I bring it up to her, no, just left the phone on the nightstand with his missed call showing(what a P*ssy I was).
FOUR MONTHS after we were married, I was at work training for two weeks out of town. I come home the weekend between, and find a note she had written, detailing her affair with this guy from school. I lost it, destroyed the house(never put a finger on her, I would have lost my job), punched the wall, broke two knuckles, went back down to school, and decided we could work this out(Great Job AFC, she obviously loves and cares for you so much). Well, at school is when I decided to start thinking of myself. I started to work out, went from 6' 1" 235lbs, pure fat, to now at 185lbs working out, eating healthy!
We started counselling(we could work this out, she is so great!), and I started talking, I talked throughout the entire sessions, I was breaking my shyness, releasing all the pent up anger and emotions, I needed to talk. During this time, I changed, not we(thats all that matters at that point, its starting to become about me, not her).
I still continue with all the AFC sh*t, she's my princess, there is no other as great as her, yada, yada, yada. We fight again, I see she is talking with another guy from class, and yet again, I DO NOT confront her on this. On her birthday, I buy her $400 worth of gifts, and she spends the night with this guy, didn't hear from her until 1 pm the next day(she didn't cheat on me, she loves me!), and she provides all the normal excuses.
A week later, she stays out all night again, and I catch her lying about where she is at(with him, of course). That is it for me, I hit that point, I hit that brick F*CKING wall. I didn't destroy the house, I drove to another state, caught the waitress at Denny's checking me out, and walked out of that Denny's a new man!
She moved out that day, and I filed for divorce!!!!!!!!!!! It took a while, I drank a lot and listened to a lot of music, but I was DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!! I went to Vegas with friends for a weekend, and on the flight home, sat next to a very attractive girl. For some reason, ****y/Funny came natural during this flight, started making out with her on the flight, had her back at my place, and definitely the best f*ck I've had(what I needed at that point in my life).
So, I look at all the advice from Maxim, askmen, etc, and I find this site(godsend). SoSauve is packed with information, and I lurked and read for a few weeks, and had to join!
At this point in my life(seven months from the end of my "perfect lil' relationship"), I'm confident, I look and feel good, I have a great career(an attractive one to women) and I'm learning. I'm taking the time to learn to make myself happy, l'm learning what I like, what I want and feeling great about myself. I see the women that want me, I see the IOIs, and I'm making steps each day, at my pace. I see the world different now, I see my mistakes, but it took all that sh*t, to make me the person I am today. It's not just about attracting women, its about enjoying life, being successful and realizing who you are.
To the members of the forum, thanks in advance for your support and wisdom, and I hope I can be of help in the future!
To the girl at Starbucks, your next on my radar, when I'm ready!!!!
And to S, thanks for finally making me achieve my potential, your loss............
