The game ultimately boils down INDIFFERENCE. THE message indifference sends is : abundance , happiness & confidence.
Best way I found to practice INDIFFERENCE is to be REAL with your self and adopt a Buddha type mindset.
I joined this forum after a failed 4 year relationship with a girl I thought was the "one".
For the most part I found not all but most of the advice giving was generic and sorta required me to transform into a bit of a robot .
Don't get me wrong the NC thread is pure gold ad filled with valuable information. However , the main trend in society is to turn men into this ultimate fighting machine and killed their emotional side - but I strongly go against this as we men are humans too. There are a lot of men with issues they are scared to discuss because it will be seen as unmanly thus causing nothing but emotional trauma to themselves.
My goal then was to find the perfect balance , the state of indifference. I put her in NC to clear my mind then I had a bit of deep thinking on the things I did wrong and what she did & ultimately decided to accept things for what they are. During times of pain and confusion, I would reflect deeply on WHY I'm feeling such a sensation then make sense out of it rather than repress it.
After about 6 months everything started to become a habit.
If a girl rejected me , I would simply not care or over think , I rationalized this as " Everyone has preferred taste and I just happened to not be on the menu at the given time ..on to the next restaurant "
It went deep into my lifestyle as well , I simply started standing my ground on everything , stopped doing things for people and did things that made me happy ( Close friends and Co workers noticed and even made comments ) after ignoring the comments ..guess what ? Some friendship become better and some got cut loose.
Dating wise , I have no issues meeting new girls. Currently at a point where I reject girls who want a relationship or have nothing to offer. Back to the ex , I found that as I got better I simply didn't feel nothing. One of the worst things is forced long NC. As it stands I can call or text her but it's one of those where I have no desire to do so ; I can take 2 weeks to reply to her text messages and not because I'm forcing NC , simply because I have options and don't care as much.
Overall I will say it's been an amazing journey , one I will surely pass on to my kids. I usually don't post such long threads but I was prompted after a more in conversation with a beautiful Asian girl at the gas station. I didn't even feel the need to take a number when she was clearly indicating me to do so. Kinda like the fisherman who catches a fish and let's it back in the water just for the fun.
For those who took their time to read or have any questions , you are welcome to ask.
Thank you !
Best way I found to practice INDIFFERENCE is to be REAL with your self and adopt a Buddha type mindset.
I joined this forum after a failed 4 year relationship with a girl I thought was the "one".
For the most part I found not all but most of the advice giving was generic and sorta required me to transform into a bit of a robot .
Don't get me wrong the NC thread is pure gold ad filled with valuable information. However , the main trend in society is to turn men into this ultimate fighting machine and killed their emotional side - but I strongly go against this as we men are humans too. There are a lot of men with issues they are scared to discuss because it will be seen as unmanly thus causing nothing but emotional trauma to themselves.
My goal then was to find the perfect balance , the state of indifference. I put her in NC to clear my mind then I had a bit of deep thinking on the things I did wrong and what she did & ultimately decided to accept things for what they are. During times of pain and confusion, I would reflect deeply on WHY I'm feeling such a sensation then make sense out of it rather than repress it.
After about 6 months everything started to become a habit.
If a girl rejected me , I would simply not care or over think , I rationalized this as " Everyone has preferred taste and I just happened to not be on the menu at the given time ..on to the next restaurant "
It went deep into my lifestyle as well , I simply started standing my ground on everything , stopped doing things for people and did things that made me happy ( Close friends and Co workers noticed and even made comments ) after ignoring the comments ..guess what ? Some friendship become better and some got cut loose.
Dating wise , I have no issues meeting new girls. Currently at a point where I reject girls who want a relationship or have nothing to offer. Back to the ex , I found that as I got better I simply didn't feel nothing. One of the worst things is forced long NC. As it stands I can call or text her but it's one of those where I have no desire to do so ; I can take 2 weeks to reply to her text messages and not because I'm forcing NC , simply because I have options and don't care as much.
Overall I will say it's been an amazing journey , one I will surely pass on to my kids. I usually don't post such long threads but I was prompted after a more in conversation with a beautiful Asian girl at the gas station. I didn't even feel the need to take a number when she was clearly indicating me to do so. Kinda like the fisherman who catches a fish and let's it back in the water just for the fun.
For those who took their time to read or have any questions , you are welcome to ask.
Thank you !
