my story i need help.

[Butterfly555]

im 18 and im currently a senior in highschool and iv'e never had a girlfriend never gotten laid and i could be considered a loner at this point of my life i feel very depressed i feel like no one cares or accepts me i have a couple of friends maybe only two real friends i just feel like a really ugly lame uncool person at times i go to teen parties and i get no dances from females i just dont get it i look in the mirror and look at myself i dont look ugly but i just feel ugly and recently ive been trying to raise my confidence. basically i would like to know how to become that guy in highschool that everyone respects and likes that guy that most girls like and not some uncool loner guy that stands in corners during lunch i know things like this cant happen overnight so can some one help me out im 5"8 and 210 pounds i take care of myself despite being a little out of shape and there is this girl that I currently like and we've hung out new years eve plus the three days before that and got stoned and drunk together lol i just want to know how do i build a connection with her or any girls period i JUST NEED HELP PLEASE. :\

 

[LearningSlowly]

Hey bud! Will you turn this post into a journal please? Like you said, can't happen overnight.

If you want to read my journal, or bits and pieces of it, you'll get a strong idea of where I'm coming from, what my beliefs are. The same is true of Nino, Jaedon, NDJ, BPH and any I didn't mention. I mean, honestly, what else do you have to do with your time?

Once we're on the same wavelength, I think we can do a lot to help you. Get your mind straight, keep posting. It can only get better from here.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

Watch the Blueprint, read Generation S.L.U.T. And The Power of Now. Once you get a good mindset and start going out an trying, we'll help you with the finer points. But it's all you bud. You have to take the first step.

Your move

 

[Butterfly555]

can you tell me what you mean by turning it into a journal sorry :/

 

[BPH]

can you tell me what you mean by turning it into a journal sorry :/

Look around...

Nobody here started with a successful journal, everybody here has one because they felt they needed to improve their lives. You should be able to figure out the rest.

 

[RolandSantellan]

Alright check it out. If you want to be confident and happy, you have to feel it. This means start workin on losing the weight. I used to way 205 and since then i haven't done much working out, but dieting and a LOT of walking have helped me out. It was a huge confidence boost. Secondly, check out random tips on this site just to get a good idea of what it means to be a Don Juan, im a fairly new member myself but this site has already helped me.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

The tips here (main page) are actually ****, just read the forums especially the journals.

 

[Marina-french-girl]

courage

hello, I'm a girl and I come from France, Provence exactly. and I would tell you that you should be you and not another, there surment a girl want you as you are, just to be funny and you will you will already have more friends. so on that humor is important, I have many friends who have not a very nice appearance, but that make me laugh every day so I like them a lot! do not forget what I just told you. Marina de France. kisses

 

[LearningSlowly]

you should be you and not another, there surment a girl want you as you are, just to be funny and you will you will already have more friends. so on that humor is important, I have many friends who have not a very nice appearance, but that make me laugh every day so I like them a lot!

She was so close. Yes, be yourself and not another.

If you're just starting though, DON'T JUST BE WHO YOU ARE. It hasn't been working. Become the best you possible.

Being funny, sure, but doesn't everyone try to be funny? And I bet she's not fvcking these guys who don't look good... Make yourself look as good as you possibly can, then improve from there.

 

[ilikecharlene]

OP, some basic points here:

- Confidence is key. Everybody says it, to the point of cliche now, but it really is true. You need to develop/improve your mental health first, before you get into dating.

- You are only 18, so it cannot be the end of the world in not getting a date. I think most people's first serious partner is in the mid to late teens range anyhow (maybe 13/14 at the earliest).

- To build a connection, well simply be yourself. Yes, it's another cliche, but anybody who dates you must in some sense like you for you (whether looks or character-wise). Be confident and funny (and slightly ****y when being funny). This girl you like, well the next time you see her, talk to her and ask her out and see where it leads.