"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hi All,

Coming from a self confessed player who always keeps girls at arms length I have just met the girl i want to marry.

I am 27 and on the weekend i spent allnight with this girl laughing and dancing and lost myself into her eyes for hours. Now i know i have to be careful because i know how it goes. Too much interest and its all over.

I know this because I have one other poor girl who loves me to death who i pay no attention to.

Anyway I went back to her house and we cuddled till 6am until her parents woke up and i ran away.

Now saturday i smsed her saying oh i hope i didnt get you into trouble.. It took her 5 hours to reply but she replied and sent me a long warm message to which i replied oh im just heading out talk to you soon mwa..

I did this to show her I am still going out and if she wants me she better grab me.

Anyway sunday comes around and i thought oh fu.k i cant control myself so i called her at 5pm for a chat.. 25 minutes later she invited me to her house.

I went over at 7 and met her whole extended family. It was really ncie and everyone liked me i think and when i left at 930 while everyone was still happy she walked me to my car and we cuddled and kissed and i left her with a bunch of roses to run inside with.

Now she is 21 and comes from a sheltered italian home perhaps thats why i had to meet the whole family.

anyway now its monday and im wondering should i call her or have i done enough to let her come to me. And if she doesnt call me do i ring her tuesday.

Remembering i only met her friday night and this thursday shes going to italy for 6 weeks so what do i do to secure her while shes gone.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Troll alert!!

You don't make sense!!
 

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How the Fu K am i a troll i am here askin for advice if i shuld ring this girl for the 3rd day in a row or to let her go..


do you even know what a troll is besides your face
 
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biglex said:
How the Fu K am i a troll i am here askin for advice if i shuld ring this girl for the 3rd day in a row or to let her go..


do you even know what a troll is besides your face
You just met a girl and you spend the night with her, unknowingly to her parents who are sleeping in the same house, and she invites you to meet her parents so suddenly without knowing you??? HUH??
 

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ok ill say it slower.

I had chatted to this girl on msn in 2004.
The we lost contact and last week we started speaking again.

We agreed to meet on friday night. I stayed with her from 7pm till 6am. Yes i was in her house with her sister and her sisters boyfriend we just cuddled and kissed. She is anything but a ho.

Anyway then sunday night she invited me over and i met her whole family..

what i want to know is why am i calling her and why am i waitin for her to call me
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So a girl who you do NOT know contacts you, or you contact her, three years later - how did she remember you from such a long period of separation? And why does she introduce you to her family so quickly?
 

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lol ..

Ok we met on a chat room and i added her to MSN. Then she must have blocked me and 3 yrs later i went on an old msn and found her still online on one of my "fake" msns.

Anyway we started chatting and rememeber each other. thats why we met


I dont know why i met the whole family i assume she likes me but why wont she call me now
 

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biglex said:
so can anyone help as to why she isnt calling.
1) Her family have told her not to.
2) She isn't that into you.
3) She has been kidnapped by alien terrorists.

Pick 1 of the above.
 

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Just wait her out dude............
The flowers were a bit too much...
Personally I think you played too easy to get\too affectionate.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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well i truly ruined it guys

she came onto msn so i unblocked her and basically it old her how i felt to which she replied.

to be completly honest with u as well i
have made a promise with myself and i also told damian
that im goin to be bf free for a while, just so that i
can have sometime for me to figure out a few things, as
u no im pretty mixed up in the head, and want to hurt
anyone unintentionsly cos im not over my personal


After this i resuced it by saying how i hate playing girls and wanted to feel the other side of the stick. I told her i lead girls on to which she said

im glad u said wat u have, because i kinda
have a bad habit of doing that too. mel said i beta set
u straight. so im gald we have had this convosation. cos
we both seem to be on the same page

So now i recused myself somewhat and the conversation went on to say basically who can get who to fall in love with the other more. Anyway we decided to meet up tomorrow again so i know she must like me a bit after i told her about other girls who like me and stuff..


In the end i decided to go for broke and i said

i remeebr u tellin me u wanted sum1 to wake up to in the morning. sum1 to listen to u. someone to ask u how ur day was
looks like little jessy is fallin for petey

jess doesnt like guys chasin her tho it makes her feel like she has to live up to something. jess would rather chase a guy to make her feel worthless
_- JES -_: omg
Pete: :)
Pete: goodbi my love ill see u at 7 tomorrow xx
[12:21:15 AM] * _- JES -_ has been blocked


Now tell me was that too harsh or could that make her want me more.
 

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wow you guys sure do not like helping much. Can i get some advice please.

I am seeing her today and thinking of not showing up
 

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STOP TALKING TO HER so much- women (especially young women) are "testing their stuff" . They need to do thier apprenticeship..
Let her chase you and NEVER give her everything that she wants. Keep her wondering and longing and be unpredictable. I know this is not what your MOm taught you to do about women BUT I am old enough to be your Dad and I have played this dating game for 30 old years. Some things never change ,my son.
 

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so what of tonight when i am supposed to meet her?

do i send a friendly sms or just dog her entirely
 

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biglex said:
so what of tonight when i am supposed to meet her?

do i send a friendly sms or just dog her entirely
Personally i'd not go, and when asked say you were seeing a "friend".
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hi guys


well i did dog her that night i said i couldnt go , but i made plans to c her tonight lol and i did c her and we spent all night together again and she held me and wouldnt let me go ( no shes under the impression i have other girls).

Shes leavin for italy tomorrow and i do think we can date once she gets back..

she mentioned how we could meet up wen she got back and im like ohh dont get mushy on me..

Basically i went from talkin about relationships to being turned off by it and now i think shes realises she needs to take me off the market.

I told her before i left id leave my other girl before she gets back and shes like oh u bastard and im like well im single arent i, im not gona stop dating when i dont have a girlfriend so i think all is well.

The only worry i have is nw she doesnt call me or sms me much.. maybe shes just not a clingy kind of girl
 
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