my soon to be step dad

[backbreaker]

i'm in little rock for my grandmothers funeral and for thanksgiving/football game tomorrow, etc. my mom got re married about a week after i turned 21 to a total AFC that she wasn't attracted to. she got divorced 3 years later, he still (literarlly) stalks her. she's been dating a man for about what. .a year now, and you know what... I really like this dude alot. he rmeinded me of this forum. i met him for hte first time today and the first thing that jumps out at you, i mean, he's decent looking, he's retired military, is that, his presence demands respect if that makes any sense. I don't even get that feeling around my dad.

and mom is crazy about the man. my wife likes him alot too. he's very nice, very respectful, but at the same time, you get the feeling he doesn't and won't put up with any BS.

got me thinking about this forum and there is hope for all men. this man, is waht.. 45 years old, retired, in shape, drives a beemer.. take care of what you need to talk care of in life, women aren't going anywhere.

if my mom acts right or if she flakes for any reason, he knows, you know what, it's not my problem,wahtever she ants to do is on her. he still is going to have his life.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Bsquared,
If he has an interest in History it will be a match made in Heaven for both you and your Old Lady.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

BB;

I hear you man, especially on demanding respect. And a person can't really expect to demand any respect until they are, as you say, taking care of their sh!t.

I struggle with that fine line of trying to be 'understanding' in reference to people. For example the woman I live with who I was praising and then griping about. I have genuine enjoyment with some of these people - but other times I am driven to absolute madness. I have for the last years almost always lived alone, and having moved here wanted to try a roommate situation. Man people love to be in other's business don't they? Part of me wants to pull the plug and setup solo and not deal with their sh!t -- the other part of me wants to see the positives and ride out the good deal I have going here (very very low rent and music/pot tolerant roommates -- not always similar everywhere).

I just get to a point where I ask myself -- how far do you react when you have to stand up for yourself? At what point do you risk being an impulsive @sshole? IE, the moment someone faulters, losing your sh!t on them -- or torching a bridge (sort of like NEXTING a chick for minor infractions...do we NEXT people also for small infractions? To what level can we tolerate a fault? (And don't we all have them?) It just seems like sometimes patience is important -- I don't feel disrespected here, but in a sense, I just like to have my space and for people to stay out of my business.

This is a ramble but it relates to some of my current experience.

We all want to be men who have respect and are treated well. Probably in some ways we have to give those same things to receive them.

I'm hope your mom has a good dude in her life man -- he sounds like a guy who gets his sh!t done and maintains self-respect.

 

[Atom Smasher]

BB, wouldn't it be something if he turned out to be one of us in this forum?!