My Social Networking SUCKS!

[The Mad Ghost]

Apart from my old good buddies, I can't help but get tired of the same old thing with them. I can't express some things to them like going on Boys Holidays, Museums, Art Gallerys, Sight Seeing etc.

All these are out the of the Social norm for them. I do think that alot of them would enjoy these things, but because of their lethargic and potheaded mentality, they just discard it. Some of them are evn hanging out with youths 3-4 years are junior.

I'm trying to get involved in multiple Social Circles, but its a mission, since those are not used to what me and my buddies are used too. I'm all for going out of my Comfort Zone, but I always wonder and say to myself "What if So-and-So was here, we'll have such a laugh" which makes me want to include them in this NEW social circle, but I can't because they're so disconnected from reality, that'll embarass me.

I can pretty much be a Loner, do things by myself, but I'm much better as PERSON within my Social Circle of Hard-drinking, Pot smoking Goblins. This is when I'm truelly in my "aura", fact is, it shouldn't just be limited to that. I want to expand and infiltrate other social circles. I'll be honest with myself, I haven't WORKED MY BUTT OFF atall to get the things I want out of life, somehow I've always been a "Life of every party", but little do people know that I actually have other facets of life that I'm unhappy with. I especially want to STUDY in REI, but have no fvcking clue of doing-so! Have no background in that and have basic postgraduate qualifications. I want the satisfaction of workin my butt off.

What are some serious tips on becoming a better person with others and being wanted within a new social circle, without changing who you are to fit in? I've tried out the Grow Model goals-setting, can't remember who recommended it, but if you're viewing this can you give an example of how the Grow Model should look?

 

[The Mad Ghost]

Wow.. my SoSuave Networking SUCKS. LOL

 

[Gears of Led Zep]

No I read that and I felt kinda bad. Maybe you should have certain friends reserved for certain areas of your life, you're a diverse person so why not have a diverse variety of people you know? Sorry if I didn't really target your OP madghost

 

[Warrior74]

You have to have several circles. I have my old computer geek friends who when they get to gether they still talk about video games and WoW.

I have my old stoner/raver/dj/club friends, but they all graduated to hard drugs, crime, petty drama and crappy jobs so I don't hang out with them much anymore once I quit djing and throwing shows.

I have my college friends, we hang out when we can. Kids, businesses, careers tend to get in the way.

I have my coworkers and business associates who I go to business mixers and events with.

I even have a single parent circle, people I know who have daughters the same age as my daughter, that way she has kids to play with when she comes to see me.

I'm trying to expand into new areas, mainly the circles of power and influence in the city and to those social circles, which is why I'm about to step up my dancing, golf and clothing game. I need to get to the next level on my clientel.

So keep your circles separated except for the few you know can cross over. YOur friends probably do it to you as well. It's not a diss...its just what is. When starting a new circle, be positive, outgoing and don't rock boats, see the lay of hte land and who is who before trying to assert yourself in a group, unless of course you have the charisma and skill to pull that sort of thing off. The key is to get known and accepted in the group and then recognized as valuable to the circle. Eventually, you may lead the group, but if you jump in trying to oust the current ruling administration, expect problems.

As you can see I've been doing a lot of thinking on this lately as it's been on my mind. Good luck.

 

[zekko]

If you don't think you got enough replies, it's probably because the answer is in your own post. I read it and thought that you pretty much answered your own question, that was one reason I didn't respond.

You know that you have to get out of your Comfort Zone, go out to these places that interest you, and try to build up rapport with some of these people. This is something I should probably be doing myself, but I really don't have time for more friends right now. Remember, guy friendships tend to center around activities (and I don't mean just smoking pot). So if you can find a hobby, sport, or something you want to do, and get involved with other people doing the same thing, you should find your social network expanding.

 

[nismo-4]

There are secrets where fairies don't live.

Break out of your norm! You can also photoshop yourself, but try real world approaches. Internet dating ain't for everybody. That's my verdict.

Case closed. Follow up with a FR.

 

[combustiont]

You have to have several circles. I have my old computer geek friends who when they get to gether they still talk about video games and WoW.

I have my old stoner/raver/dj/club friends, but they all graduated to hard drugs, crime, petty drama and crappy jobs so I don't hang out with them much anymore once I quit djing and throwing shows.

I have my college friends, we hang out when we can. Kids, businesses, careers tend to get in the way.

I have my coworkers and business associates who I go to business mixers and events with.

I even have a single parent circle, people I know who have daughters the same age as my daughter, that way she has kids to play with when she comes to see me.

I'm trying to expand into new areas, mainly the circles of power and influence in the city and to those social circles, which is why I'm about to step up my dancing, golf and clothing game. I need to get to the next level on my clientel.

So keep your circles separated except for the few you know can cross over. YOur friends probably do it to you as well. It's not a diss...its just what is. When starting a new circle, be positive, outgoing and don't rock boats, see the lay of hte land and who is who before trying to assert yourself in a group, unless of course you have the charisma and skill to pull that sort of thing off. The key is to get known and accepted in the group and then recognized as valuable to the circle. Eventually, you may lead the group, but if you jump in trying to oust the current ruling administration, expect problems.

As you can see I've been doing a lot of thinking on this lately as it's been on my mind. Good luck.

Well done my friend. This guy has the right idea.

 

[The Mad Ghost]

Warrior74, you're a badazz. Thanks man.

Break out of your norm! You can also photoshop yourself, but try real world approaches. Internet dating ain't for everybody. That's my verdict.

Case closed. Follow up with a FR

Haha, Nismo. I think you forgot to put your TLDR acronym up. Its not about Social Online Networking or Dating. I was talking about my Social Circles and how I might be able to improve on that. I've got the ticket now as Warrior provided sound advice on the options.

I think its best if I seperate groups. Have one group for one activity and so on. I'll have my Clubbing/Raving/Sarging buddies and my Hard-Drinking-potsmoking boys and just regulate from there. Thats pretty much how realistic as it gets.

 

[nismo-4]

Warrior74, you're a badazz. Thanks man.



Haha, Nismo. I think you forgot to put your TLDR acronym up. Its not about Social Online Networking or Dating. I was talking about my Social Circles and how I might be able to improve on that. I've got the ticket now as Warrior provided sound advice on the options.

I think its best if I seperate groups. Have one group for one activity and so on. I'll have my Clubbing/Raving/Sarging buddies and my Hard-Drinking-potsmoking boys and just regulate from there. Thats pretty much how realistic as it gets.

There was no need for a TL;DR. The post was short enough for me to analyze appropriately. Recently there was a post by Ice882 which was so damn long, yet I found way more incriminating evidence there. And I didn't even read half of it!

See that part I put in bold? Practice that sh*t. Sometimes you gotta go clubbing alone. And go to have fun, not meet a girl. You won't be disappointed.