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My So Called Date Life

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I had two successful dates with this one girl I meet over the Internet.

First date we were supposed to go for some coffee on Sunday afternoon. I was 15mins. late and changed my mind to go to Palo Alto on University Ave. (small shops and boutiques) instead go window shopping and for a quick bite to eat, which she happily agreed. We spent a couple of hours there and ended the date by dropping her off at her car. I only got a hug as I said goodbye.

Two weeks later second date, I invited her to a fashion show that I was working at the front door. I told her she would be on the guest list and she was excited to go. Saturday, I call her and she says she can’t make it since the location is in the bad part of town as told by her friends. As we were ending the conversation she mentioned that she wanted to do something after the fashion show. I reluctantly agreed to pick her up. We head to North Beach to grab a quick bite to eat and we take a stroll down Broadway while holding hands. She sees some of her classmates, who were guys, and shot the breeze for a bit. I thought it went well didn’t show signs of jealously.

I drop her off at her house and go for the kiss close since, I felt that things were going great. I move my head towards her lips but she buries her head in my chest for a hug. She said, “sorry” and I jokingly reply back saying, “brat”. As she closes the door she says, “drive safely” and I go on my marry way.

I call her a week later no answer. I wait for a couple of days no response. I called about five times in the span of three weeks and nothing. What went wrong please, analyze the situation. Should I keep her on my reserve list and call her back in a couple of months or should I just next her. But I really liked this girl.
 

sql

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Originally posted by [Rebel2]
I call her a week later no answer. I wait for a couple of days no response. I called about five times in the span of three weeks and nothing.
wow you called her that many times

=T

shes not interested. second date like that and you tried to kiss her. you didnt mention if she wanted to see you again at the end of the date. if she didnt express interest on that level, then shes probably not interested. if she did express interest before you said goobyes, then shes flaky, and has her own set of problems. either way,

next.

and delete all traces of her existence.
 

Beige

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I was 15mins. late
We spent a couple of hours there
After reading about the first date I had a strong feeling of what's going to happen next. I've got almost no experience, but man - a couple of hours? Ain't that a bit too long?

I see that you like shops and clothes - window shopping, fashion show, are those her interests too?
 

bp1974

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You didn't do anything wrong, she's just not attracted to you. Find a girl who is.
 

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sql:

No, she didn't mention she wanted to see me again at the end of the date.

It's going to be tough to let go of all of her information ie. phone, email, etc.


Beige:

How long should a first date last?


bp1974:

Thanks for the kind words.


Any other DJ have ideas how her interest level dropped?
 

Big Pappy

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Just a guess, but you altered your plans to accomodate her.

I'm not sure why you invited her to a fashion show while you have to work the door...perhaps she didn't know why either.


I reluctantly agreed to pick her up.
Maybe you should have just reassured her about her safety...or, when she wanted to back out, just say, "Ok" and then hang up.
 

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Hey, it looks to me like you did a fine job. Sometimes, even if you have mad game and don't fvck up, you will get rejected. It's just how it works. You have to take this factor into account and just accept it and to be ready to move on at any moment.

I think you should have moved on before calling her 5 times, even though the dates went well. Next her now...

Palo Alto=Stanford=Menlo=lame party scene. Avoid the college parties unless you have no where else to go.

Palo Alto=yuppie, often expensive, not a lot going on, but perfect to visit for a short time and then leave.

Peace.
 

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Originally posted by Big Pappy
Just a guess, but you altered your plans to accomodate her.
Yeah, you’re right when a chick tries to alter your date plans she’s trying to test you. Unfortunately, I didn’t pass that one. :eek:

Originally posted by honeyshark
I think you should have moved on before calling her 5 times, even though the dates went well. Next her now...
Thanks for the encouragement I’ve deleted her phone number and email address. I’ll be going out this weekend and getting some digits. :D
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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