"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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my shallowness

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so i met this girl...who is one step from being perfect to me. awsome personality and good looks...except there is one thing.

she isn't the body type i'm going for...she's in the middle of fat and average...she could lose like 10-20lbs and look like a 8.5 for sure. she has dozens of pictures in her room to prove that....that were taking this past summer.

she just got out of a stressful relationship almost 2 months ago...and i'm guessing that was the cause.

great girl...i'm just being really shallow about all of this...but put yourself in my shoes, what would you do?

serious inquiries only.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Start courting her but take your time and don't rush. If she is interested, she will try to get in shape asap. When she's thin enough for you, ask her out.

I'm serious.
 

Kings_royalty

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You are not being shallow bro, she's a nice girl, but there is no real attraction there, it happens all the time. It doesn't make you a shallow person.

She can treat you like a KING, but if there is no spark there physically, your relationship won't amount to much. You will start trying to talk yourself into being with her $exually, instead of it being natural.

I would not bother with it. Consider finding a girl that you are attracted to on all levels.
 

Luveno

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If shes not the body type you enjoy, then don't involve yourself with her.
No relationship will last unless there is physical attraction.
 

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she looked like a normal girl in those pictures...and then gained 10-20lbs in the past few months. maybe we should do athletic dates and what not.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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