Hey guys. This is my first post on these forums, but I've been reading the content for a while. Three things inspired me to join in with my own little personal (and possibly annoying to the rest of you) thread:
First, I have started re-reading Stephen Covey's book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective people and in the first few chapters became aware of something I (and I think all of us to different degrees) are guilty of: faking it.
Not only with women, but in all areas of life, we tend to focus on "techniques" and quick fixes to improve things and get what we want out of life. In the end it doesn't work and we are seen as the phonies that we really are because we didn't have the guts to go through the process of authentic (and difficult) change.
I, for one, am sick of it. I don't want to pretend to be a confident man anymore, even though it works really well at times. I need to actually become the confident man that I want to be (and that the ladies want me to be ofcourse
) That is what this thread is about.
Second, I read this thread by squirrels. It talks about a lot of the same things, ie: how we can't fake being a real man. We can get around a lot of women's tests by putting up a smokescreen and using all sorts of techniques and lines, but in the end we are still AFCs with masks on.
Third, to put it all together I read this thread by snowdog and thought that it wouldn't be a bad thing to do myself. I am very good at wanting change, and starting to change, but the transition phase between the start and finish line is a different story. This will keep me accountable (I hope).
All that being said, the first area I really want to focus on is my physical well-being. After all, what better way to promote authentic confidence and masculinity than getting in great shape and feeling comfortable in my own skin? But I do need some major overhauls in my social life though, I am typically a loner and have trouble in social settings.
Thanks for reading atleast this far. Will be heading to the gym in a few hours for leg day. It's the first time I've done legs in a while, so it is sure to be pitiful
First, I have started re-reading Stephen Covey's book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective people and in the first few chapters became aware of something I (and I think all of us to different degrees) are guilty of: faking it.
Not only with women, but in all areas of life, we tend to focus on "techniques" and quick fixes to improve things and get what we want out of life. In the end it doesn't work and we are seen as the phonies that we really are because we didn't have the guts to go through the process of authentic (and difficult) change.
I, for one, am sick of it. I don't want to pretend to be a confident man anymore, even though it works really well at times. I need to actually become the confident man that I want to be (and that the ladies want me to be ofcourse
) That is what this thread is about.Second, I read this thread by squirrels. It talks about a lot of the same things, ie: how we can't fake being a real man. We can get around a lot of women's tests by putting up a smokescreen and using all sorts of techniques and lines, but in the end we are still AFCs with masks on.
Third, to put it all together I read this thread by snowdog and thought that it wouldn't be a bad thing to do myself. I am very good at wanting change, and starting to change, but the transition phase between the start and finish line is a different story. This will keep me accountable (I hope).
All that being said, the first area I really want to focus on is my physical well-being. After all, what better way to promote authentic confidence and masculinity than getting in great shape and feeling comfortable in my own skin? But I do need some major overhauls in my social life though, I am typically a loner and have trouble in social settings.
Thanks for reading atleast this far. Will be heading to the gym in a few hours for leg day. It's the first time I've done legs in a while, so it is sure to be pitiful