"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My secret reason for failing.

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What is your reason for failing? Myn is my looks, more specifically my face. I have bad acne and have been trying to cure it for four years and have tried everything under the sun (including laser treatment) but i've been grinding away and it's gettign better.

Sometimes I'm feeling really great and confident and just happy with everything... then I look in a mirrior and its like why would a girl ever like me (which I know is bad reasoning beacuse I have gotten hot chicks before).

So now I think it's just what I blame failure on, it's easy to do. I would like to think that when my acne goes all my problems with girls goes with it, but I know that won't be true.

It's something in my head holding me back. Something i can fix in time. It's just I can't see my self doing what I want to do or being as succsesfull as I want to be.

I know their was no real questions in their but any feedback would be appreciated... thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Smooth Player 056

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I used to have bad acne. Its NOT your acne thats holding you back. Your just finding reasons not to approach. ONce u fix ur acne...youll want to fix your delts...then onoce thats done ull want to get a 6 pack....youll never feel confident enough unless you understand that its in yoiur head
 

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Best friends? NAY I have the same problem with you bad acme. Everytime I check my self in the mirror my confidence level decreases and I have braces aswell... I think looks are important when you're gaming chicks. People who say looks don't matter they're full of **** looks do matter and are very important, for example go to a club and check out the ugly guys and the good looking guys, ugly guys get rejected alot rather than the good looking guys. In my opinion if anyone wants to become a don juan, player he needs to fix his outer looks and then gradually his gonna fix his game and inner self.
 

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blame your failure on your abilities. you knowledge and your discipline. nothing else
 

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Guidance or techniques... I cannot, and even refuse to offer you... All i can tell you is I can relate and here is my story.

When I was younger, I had huge acne problems. Started to eat right, try all these acne curing techniques... bla bla bla. Years and years it was there, and it was really tough and irritating, and unfair. I prayed to God and believed I was healed, and it just cleared up... and I have a clear face to this day. Now to reproduce those results takes a lot of work, spiritually, but Good Luck & God Bless
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This is true. I used to attribute my lack of success to acne, and then I realized that it was my attitude. Well actually, I have always been pretty good with chicks, just some bad spots showing through.

I can just tell you not to look in the mirror.
 

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or, you can look at them like this.

I am a sex-driven teenager because I got acne. It means that I am becoming more manly day by day. So what I should do instead of thinking about how bad it looks, I should look at them like sex appeal. The more I get, the more manly I am. The more sex I can take and the more pleasure I can give.

Is that incentive enough for you to go out and find some people, improve the attitude at the same time and let time do it's thing?
 

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wash ur face 3 times a day.. during classes and and so on. i constantly wash my face all the time.. and also sleep with a clean pillow case.
 

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Thats my problem is I know I'm just using it as an excuse to what my real problem is, which is inner game, really I just want to learn to ignore my acne so I can focus on my inner game and not keep falling back to the acne excuse.

I sitll aproach and talk to chicks, etc. I usually get the number too, it's just after that they never want to do anything with me.

It's odd beacuse I know it's not my acne but I still just keep falling back on it. I guess beacuse I don't want to admit to myself that their might be a problem with my inner game. But i'm going to have to and get over my acne and accept I need to work on my inner game if I ever want to moove on.

Really looking for advice on how to ignore that thoguht in my head that my only problem is my acne and wihtout it I would be great.
 

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Did anyone mention it yet? One word: accutane.
Unless of course you already tried that. It cures most people's severe acne, although a lot of people think it is "controlled poison" which is basically is, lol.

Whoever mentioned it's all in your head is right. You'll always find SOMETHING to be unhappy about. Many hot women have low self esteem. Be a man.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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