This situation just seems so stupid but I need to make sure I get over this quickly and move the hell on because it's bothering me when I really think it shouldn't. As you read on I can understand it might come off in a "wussified" tone but I'm just going off of my recent emotional memory here.
The story is that there is a girl I know through a female friend who I've been mutually flirty with over the past month and it seemed like something was bound to happen between us but I thought I didn't care too much until last Friday. We went out with some other friends to a bar and had fun drinking, flirting and having a good time and my roommate was there. We're cool with each other but at some point in the night she started flirting with him as well.
Later in the night we all decided to go to another club and instead of riding over with me she decided to ride with my roommate. Well I was upset by this but tried to shake it off and focus on having fun. At the next club we had more drinks and I ended up going home early and alone and my roommate left with this girl.
I got home and went to bed but at about 3:00am I come downstairs to get some water and she is over on the couch with my roommate. At this point I'm just really pissed and say nothing as I get my water and go to bed. She stayed the night and it was like I spend the next day running errands while this situation just ate me up inside.
That evening my roommate wanted to talk to me about the situation because he realized what had happened because the girl told him something about "I think he liked me." I told him I was pissed but there is nothing I could do because I never dated her and she wasn't even mine to begin with so I'll have to deal with the situation the best I can.
So this week they've hung out quite a bit and she's been over a couple more times which interestingly enough I was either not home or in bed already. Last night I went across the hall to my bathroom and I could tell she was over because I heard her voice and I just became angry all over again.
I have so many negative emotions running through my mind and I feel like I don't want to see her ever again but that's almost unavoidable and running away from her isn't how I want to live my life at the moment. As for my roommate part of me thinks he's an as$hole for continuing to see her but how can I blame him because if the situation was reversed I would talk to him and still continue dating a girl that I thought was great for me.
So have any of you guys been in a situation like this and what is the best way to deal with it? How should I think about it and move on in a mature way? Thanks.
The story is that there is a girl I know through a female friend who I've been mutually flirty with over the past month and it seemed like something was bound to happen between us but I thought I didn't care too much until last Friday. We went out with some other friends to a bar and had fun drinking, flirting and having a good time and my roommate was there. We're cool with each other but at some point in the night she started flirting with him as well.
Later in the night we all decided to go to another club and instead of riding over with me she decided to ride with my roommate. Well I was upset by this but tried to shake it off and focus on having fun. At the next club we had more drinks and I ended up going home early and alone and my roommate left with this girl.
I got home and went to bed but at about 3:00am I come downstairs to get some water and she is over on the couch with my roommate. At this point I'm just really pissed and say nothing as I get my water and go to bed. She stayed the night and it was like I spend the next day running errands while this situation just ate me up inside.
That evening my roommate wanted to talk to me about the situation because he realized what had happened because the girl told him something about "I think he liked me." I told him I was pissed but there is nothing I could do because I never dated her and she wasn't even mine to begin with so I'll have to deal with the situation the best I can.
So this week they've hung out quite a bit and she's been over a couple more times which interestingly enough I was either not home or in bed already. Last night I went across the hall to my bathroom and I could tell she was over because I heard her voice and I just became angry all over again.
I have so many negative emotions running through my mind and I feel like I don't want to see her ever again but that's almost unavoidable and running away from her isn't how I want to live my life at the moment. As for my roommate part of me thinks he's an as$hole for continuing to see her but how can I blame him because if the situation was reversed I would talk to him and still continue dating a girl that I thought was great for me.
So have any of you guys been in a situation like this and what is the best way to deal with it? How should I think about it and move on in a mature way? Thanks.