"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm wish I knew how to improve my rep. It's just something in me that likes it when I'm in an environment where everyone knows me and where I get alot of attention. I'd love to be able to actually go out on the weekends but the only time I do that is when I find a girl to go somewhere with me. I never actually have out wit boys unless it's playing basketball. I hate going to our school's games, looking for people to hang with. When I do find a few, I don't act really hype at all. I let them talk instead speaking up and getting some attention. Seems like I'm a follower mostly

I know a decent amount of people at school. I know everyone in my classes. blah, enough of my blabbering and sh*t lemme get to the real problem.

I have a bad habit of acting stupid to get people to laugh. I used to think they were laughing with me but now it seems that people just have no respect for me at all. People that aren't really at all big and bad act all big and bad at me. But they are the few guys that I call friends so I don't say nothin back because I'm scared to hurt their feelings or something.

I'm a cool kat. I just don't know where the hell how to build a group of friends (or get in a group or whatever). I don't know what the hell I'm asking here, there is just so much wrong. I guess I can say , I need respect, fame, attention, and a crew. How can I obtain this? I'm adventurous, funny, smart(and street smart), I'm just not very outgoing. But I want to be. bah soemone help me get my head on straight PLEASE

P.S. One of the main reasons for this is now that I have a DIME girlfriend, I don't want her to feel like she's with a lame. I mean, she probably already knows that I'm not at all popular but she still loves me to death (She goes to another school).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'd like to add that I am scared to suddenly change my attitude. People'll probably look at me all weird for trying to be someone different. I'm afraid to start talking outloud in class because people already see me as a quiet person. But I dont wanna be just a quiet person! I don't want to be quiet at all!
 

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If you got the girl to begin with, she obviously liked what you were doing...why would you change it now?
 

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Bigg Boss said:
I'd like to add that I am scared to suddenly change my attitude. People'll probably look at me all weird for trying to be someone different. I'm afraid to start talking outloud in class because people already see me as a quiet person. But I dont wanna be just a quiet person! I don't want to be quiet at all!
omfg... I feel like I typed this. I have the same problem.
 

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There's your answer.

We always answer our questions without noticing it.

Bigg Boss said:
I'm adventurous, funny, smart(and street smart),
Girls love those qualities, they always want something new, and not that old same type of guy.

I'm just not very outgoing. But I want to be.
You said it, be more outgoing. How? Don't care what people say, say what you think, its your world, YOUR reality, YOU choose the rules, The world spins for YOU. Positive attitude. If you ever think of something like "damn I can't change" or sh!t like that, just get rid of it everytime this happens, and see it as "DAMN I'm becoming a better guy!" How you feel, is how you show yourself to others. So always be positive.

Bigg Boss said:
P.S. One of the main reasons for this is now that I have a DIME girlfriend, I don't want her to feel like she's with a lame. I mean, she probably already knows that I'm not at all popular but she still loves me to death (She goes to another school).

Again, who gives a sh!t about if you are lame or not. Only you. So stop having that mindset and care for yourself. YOU are unique. Care about how you feel, and then care about making her feel, how you want her to feel.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bigg Boss, I feel the same way as you; I want to be more outgoing and I'm not sure how to do it.

As for acting stupid to get laughs, I would tone it down a bit. Sure you can act silly once in a while to get laughs, but it shouldn't degrade you. As for your friends, you guys should be on an even level. You shouldn't be the butt of their jokes all the time. Demand respect by acting 'big and bad' back.

Bigg Boss, you said:
I'd like to add that I am scared to suddenly change my attitude. People'll probably look at me all weird for trying to be someone different.
Do you know what? You're probably right. People will be surprised and look at you differently. Regardless of how they feel about the 'new' you, they are going to get used to the 'new' you. (Think of every school year; at first everything was new, but as the year passed you got used to it).

I guess what I'm trying to say here is that people will look at you differently when you change, but they will get used to it soon enough. Sure, it may be awkward at the starting, but then again, isn't it worth it?

Unrelated: By DIME you mean a perfect 10, right?
 

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people will look at you better when you change. Think about it. A shy person you know becomes more outgoing. Somone who used to be a complete d.ick starts being nice. A fat girl looses weight. Would you think these people were bad for changing?
 
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