I'll start from the very beginning. about a year ago, I first (Feb 05) met this girl, let's call her girl B (17 years old). I was already in a relationship with another girl, girl A (27 years old). Girl B was also hanging out with another girl, girl C. All four of us would go out and have a good time and doing fun thing together.
Then about 3 months later (Mai 05), I got serious with girl B, I would make out with her and even slept with her, yeah i was having sex with her. I was still with girl A tho, and girl B knew this clearly as well. She still doesnt care, said she love me, but at the same time she also said she loved girl A :X I was a bit confused but it wasnt giving me any problem I was fine with it. In return I also let her know I loved her and girl A. She tells me that its strange for a guy to love 2 girls at the same time, but doesnt make any bigger deal out of it.
It was hard and at times stressful to keep girl A from knowing about us. But I made it.
Then another 6 months past (Nov 05), I broke up with girl A. During all these times, girl A got more and more desperate for my attention, and was screaming for attention, calling me often and want to see me all the time, was annoying me in short. I find girl B to be more attractive than girl A, so I spent my time on girl B much more, this turned girl A into this craving for attention mode I guess. Then at the end, girl A even start to adopt an attitude and start to argue with me, finally I made it official and tell her its over between us. She would continue to want to be friend with me and we still do small talk.
Now its just me and girl B, and girl A still doesnt know about us. And things was great I would tell girl B how much I love her and she would do the same.
This didnt go on for very long, about a month later (Dec 05) Girl A found out about me and girl B, they were still friends, so somehow girl B was borrowing girl A her phone, with all my love sms to her. I guess girl A read the sms, and of course got mad at girl B.
Girl B told me then she was sorry she didnt deleted all her sms, and it was stupid of her.
Between me and girl B, she was still telling me how much she love me and we would still make out with each other, however we stopped having sex, she somehow got more and more busy, and it was hard to get a hold of her. She would cancel dates, because her schedule suddenly changed during the agreement to the date and the time of the date itself.
But I didnt change, I would still telling her it was ok, we will find another time, which never happened because she still is so busy, and so am I too btw, so we both were busy hard to find a time to fit for both of us.
Then I couldnt get a hold of her on the phone anymore, she said her cellphone broke, and she ran out of cash on her prepaid card. She said she will let me know when she got a new phone, she never did. So now I cant even communicate with her by phone. Later I found out she might had lied to me about this, just to keep me away phoning her. I called her number while i hid my own number from showing up, and her phone rang...So her number was still working fine...I never tell her about this.
Then I found out some guy had been kissing her. I asked her about this, and she said she didnt like that, why didnt she just tell him to stop then, she wasnt doing any resistance to him kissing her. She even says it feels better when i kiss her...
So I acted cool, and pretended like it didnt bother me, that i didnt care. But I was getting uneasy, and for sure cared about what happened.
Then it continued to be this way, she was busy, and when we meet she would tell me how much she misses me and loves me, but still would cancel dates, and didnt spend enough time with me, her words and actions are so clearly contradicting each other.
I would still see other girls in the mean time tho. But my mind was thinking about her alot, its like her ignoring me was drawing me more towards her. Its like she is loosing interest for me, and I kinda do the same I dont love her anymore, but still think about her. The relationship is getting dull maybe.
The dragged out until last week. When I decided enough is enough, I cant take this anymore and let her know that its over, we had a great time but this must end, for us to be moving on, and also clearly let her know that as a rule I never hook back up with x-girlfriends. She was sad, but agreed with me. And also wants to be friend. BTW girl A and girl B, now are friends again...I think girl B just got together with me because of girl A (girl B was bi remember?)...Anyway I have no regret breaking up with girl A. Girl B was much hotter than girl A to me, but no way im gonna put up that kind of treatment anymore. I hope i just forget about girl B asap.
I want to share you this because its good therapy for me lol. and also maybe you might learn something from this. Comments and questions are welcome.
Then about 3 months later (Mai 05), I got serious with girl B, I would make out with her and even slept with her, yeah i was having sex with her. I was still with girl A tho, and girl B knew this clearly as well. She still doesnt care, said she love me, but at the same time she also said she loved girl A :X I was a bit confused but it wasnt giving me any problem I was fine with it. In return I also let her know I loved her and girl A. She tells me that its strange for a guy to love 2 girls at the same time, but doesnt make any bigger deal out of it.
It was hard and at times stressful to keep girl A from knowing about us. But I made it.
Then another 6 months past (Nov 05), I broke up with girl A. During all these times, girl A got more and more desperate for my attention, and was screaming for attention, calling me often and want to see me all the time, was annoying me in short. I find girl B to be more attractive than girl A, so I spent my time on girl B much more, this turned girl A into this craving for attention mode I guess. Then at the end, girl A even start to adopt an attitude and start to argue with me, finally I made it official and tell her its over between us. She would continue to want to be friend with me and we still do small talk.
Now its just me and girl B, and girl A still doesnt know about us. And things was great I would tell girl B how much I love her and she would do the same.
This didnt go on for very long, about a month later (Dec 05) Girl A found out about me and girl B, they were still friends, so somehow girl B was borrowing girl A her phone, with all my love sms to her. I guess girl A read the sms, and of course got mad at girl B.
Girl B told me then she was sorry she didnt deleted all her sms, and it was stupid of her.
Between me and girl B, she was still telling me how much she love me and we would still make out with each other, however we stopped having sex, she somehow got more and more busy, and it was hard to get a hold of her. She would cancel dates, because her schedule suddenly changed during the agreement to the date and the time of the date itself.
But I didnt change, I would still telling her it was ok, we will find another time, which never happened because she still is so busy, and so am I too btw, so we both were busy hard to find a time to fit for both of us.
Then I couldnt get a hold of her on the phone anymore, she said her cellphone broke, and she ran out of cash on her prepaid card. She said she will let me know when she got a new phone, she never did. So now I cant even communicate with her by phone. Later I found out she might had lied to me about this, just to keep me away phoning her. I called her number while i hid my own number from showing up, and her phone rang...So her number was still working fine...I never tell her about this.
Then I found out some guy had been kissing her. I asked her about this, and she said she didnt like that, why didnt she just tell him to stop then, she wasnt doing any resistance to him kissing her. She even says it feels better when i kiss her...
So I acted cool, and pretended like it didnt bother me, that i didnt care. But I was getting uneasy, and for sure cared about what happened.
Then it continued to be this way, she was busy, and when we meet she would tell me how much she misses me and loves me, but still would cancel dates, and didnt spend enough time with me, her words and actions are so clearly contradicting each other.
I would still see other girls in the mean time tho. But my mind was thinking about her alot, its like her ignoring me was drawing me more towards her. Its like she is loosing interest for me, and I kinda do the same I dont love her anymore, but still think about her. The relationship is getting dull maybe.
The dragged out until last week. When I decided enough is enough, I cant take this anymore and let her know that its over, we had a great time but this must end, for us to be moving on, and also clearly let her know that as a rule I never hook back up with x-girlfriends. She was sad, but agreed with me. And also wants to be friend. BTW girl A and girl B, now are friends again...I think girl B just got together with me because of girl A (girl B was bi remember?)...Anyway I have no regret breaking up with girl A. Girl B was much hotter than girl A to me, but no way im gonna put up that kind of treatment anymore. I hope i just forget about girl B asap.
I want to share you this because its good therapy for me lol. and also maybe you might learn something from this. Comments and questions are welcome.
