"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My reflections

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What a summer it has been. With only a day before school starts, I look back on things and reflect.

There are situations, where you are faced with a choice; to stay passive, or to look fear in the face and defeat it.

Of course you dont have to face your fear; you can think of a 1000 excuses to approve being passive. But in the end, you are only screwing yourself over. Because there WILL come a time in your life when you arent faced with your choice; when you CANT think of any excuses; you have to grab yourself by the damn balls, look fear in the eye, and act. And when such a time comes and you arent ready, you will be helpless.

Ive never in my life regretted anything Ive done against my fear. Even if I got the consequences, Ive never regretted anything. It's funny, because you regret things you HAVENT done. Arent there times in your past when you wish you could have gone back and acted differently? Faced up your fears? Time to change that. No more regrets. No more "I wish I could have done differently.."

Fear is a weird emotion; it can keep you alive, yet it can keep you from really living.

To all the people who keep complaining about how their life sucks, they have no friends, ect;

Posting about how crappy your life is, is not going to do anything. Why do you do this? You KNOW what needs to be done.

Depressed? Wake up. Some people have it 1000x worse than you. Some people dont get to do the things you freely can, but choose not to. Feeling sorry for yourself wont do a damn thing other than make your situation worse. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and ACT. You have been given so much info, on this site, about how to live a great life. Use it.

Without conflict, there can be no personal growth. You can absorb and memorize everything this site tells you about picking up women, yet you can have no mack skills with them. You can watch professional soccer players play, yet it won't make you any better. No matter how much you read and memorize, unless you go and DO, you can never become what you want.

I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with people asking for ADVICE, not approoval. If you truly dont know something, it is good that you are trying to learn. However things like "does she like me" or "should i do this-and-that" are asking for approoval.

The three most important factors in picking up women, I believe, are personality, looks and confidence. If you look good and are fun, chicks WILL pay attention to you. Just muscling up from being bony, even though I'm still not that big, got me WAY more female attention.

No matter how much you want to, you can never truly be free of society. You LIVE in a society. Learn to adapt and use society to your advantage.

Rethink everything you've ever been taught in school and by others; alot of it is bs. Learn to try new things, and think for yourself. Research about something and develop your own opinion on things you dont know before taking sides, despite what people tell you to.

That is all.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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good post, should be a wake up call to all you slackers out there :up:
 

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Originally posted by Mr. Debonaire
good post, should be a wake up call to all you slackers out there :up:
Not so.. The slackers will look at it, see how long it is, and not bother reading it just skipping to the short replies or closing it altogether. :p
 

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Originally posted by arutha
Not so.. The slackers will look at it, see how long it is, and not bother reading it just skipping to the short replies or closing it altogether. :p
...lol
 
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Originally posted by arutha
Not so.. The slackers will look at it, see how long it is, and not bother reading it just skipping to the short replies or closing it altogether. :p
damn u know exactly how us slackers do things. were u a slacker back in the days?? lol .......jkn ..... I think this is what everybody should be doin. At the end of the day you look back and reflect on the things you have done, the people you meet, the place you adventured and just laugh. Becuase everytime i look back in time thinking of all the things i could have done differently. Its histerical! Some of the **** ive done are f*ckin halerious! Good post. cant believe you typed all that i wouldve gotten bored halve way lol.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Very nice...I think I've more or less reached these same conclusions...

There's a quote by Albert Einstein...he says something like people who don't think for themselves don't deserve to have a brain...you mentioned something along those lines, and I think that's important.

Although I do have one question...you mentioned in that part about depression...about how to get over your depression, you just have to think about the people who have it 1000x worse than you. I'm assuming you're referring to people who grew up in poverty/starvation, or were abused and used for slave labor or that kind of stuff. So...how do you think that THOSE people get over their depression, the people who have it the worst?

Good post, nonetheless.
 

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Originally posted by MVP¤¥¤JI€GALO
damn u know exactly how us slackers do things. were u a slacker back in the days?? lol .......jkn .....
Nah its because its the exact thing I did when I opened this thread. In fact, I still haven't read the first post.:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by October
Although I do have one question...you mentioned in that part about depression...about how to get over your depression, you just have to think about the people who have it 1000x worse than you. I'm assuming you're referring to people who grew up in poverty/starvation, or were abused and used for slave labor or that kind of stuff. So...how do you think that THOSE people get over their depression, the people who have it the worst?
Well, this wasn't really ment to say how to get rid of depression. My point was that all the people ,who complain and don't do anything about their situation, need to wake the hell up.

As to your question.. I was never in poverty, abused or anything of that sort growing up, so I can't realy say. There is a quote by Winston Churchill, however;

"If youre going through hell, keep going".
 
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