"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've noticed this difference in reactions, I don't know if it's specific to me or if it's a men vs. women thing. But according to SoSuave, this is how a female reacts:

"I kind of find Steve attractive. Oh, look, there he is now. He is with Annabelle. Why is he with Annabelle? I must qualify myself to Steve and prove to him I am better than Annabelle."

This is the way I've noticed that I react:

"I kind of find Annabelle attractive. Oh, look, there she is now. She is with Steve. Why is she with Steve. Oh well, fvck that b!tch Annabelle, I'll find somebody else".

So is that a typical male response, or is it just my own? Which is healthier?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko said:
I've noticed this difference in reactions, I don't know if it's specific to me or if it's a men vs. women thing. But according to SoSuave, this is how a female reacts:

"I kind of find Steve attractive. Oh, look, there he is now. He is with Annabelle. Why is he with Annabelle? I must qualify myself to Steve and prove to him I am better than Annabelle."

This is the way I've noticed that I react:

"I kind of find Annabelle attractive. Oh, look, there she is now. She is with Steve. Why is she with Steve. Oh well, fvck that b!tch Annabelle, I'll find somebody else".

So is that a typical male response, or is it just my own? Which is healthier?
Annabelle has done all the work to vet Steve, therefore it is LESS work for a woman to steal Steve away and secure his resources from Annabelle than it is for her to find a single man and go through all the vetting processes herself. Steve is pre-qualified. Men with women have already proved they are able to provide resources. Women want those resources. It's an evolutionary thing.

Men instantly know if they want a woman or not. Men don't have to get to know a woman to know if they want to have sex with her. But women need to know a man can provide her with resources before she wants to have sex with the man.
 

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Good posts, y'all.

Another factor I notice about this sort of situation is if a woman as the "stink" of another man on her, I actually find it repulsive, or a turn-off.

I suppose it's the old evolutionary idea of the more men's sperm that is going into her, the lesser the chance of your DNA surviving. Same reason virgins are so prized, if you think about it.
 
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