Hey it's been while since I've been on here. Every now and then I come here to give random advise to the HS DJ's and sometimes I come on to ask for a advise. We'll everything is going great now, I've gained confidence around girl after 2 years of finding this site and I still find myself learning new techiques aswell but thats not why I'm here. But this thread actually has very little to do with girls.......
I title this thread "My quest to individuality" because thats excally whats going on. I have a brother who is 1 year older than me and goes to the same college as me. We hang around similar ppl and we are pretty close. But recently I've discovered that ppl often associated us two together. What I mean is it seems everyone sees us a one person (me being 50% and him being the other 50%) Not saying that they literally see us as a half a person(lol) it's just that it seems that I'm not seen as an true individual. Like they see me and think of him and like they see us a the same person.
It's hard for me to explain so let me use some examples. I'll be talking to some of my female friends and they always seem to mention him and they do the samething to him as times)
Girl: hey rkc09
Me: hey hows it going
Girl: im doing good
Me: thats good, so hows college treating ya?
Girl: pretty good, hey I talked to ur brother the other day.
Me: oh....thats nice (wtf does that have to do with ur conversation?) (Stuff like this happens very often with me and my bro's mutual friends)
or another example is I was text this other girl on friday, then rite when i text her she texts my brother too and then sends me a text later on in the convo
me: (I'll just be having a casual convo with her via texting and then....)
girl: LOL i was talking to ur bro earlier and he was texting me the samething lol
me: anddd??
My bro showed me his outbox and his messages were completely different than mines. me and her were just having a normal convo, he was just teasing with one liners....Classic example of ppl seeing us as one person.
one more example is a common mix up. Lets pretend my bro's name is BJ08. I'll be talking to my friends and they will accidentally call me dj08 instead of rkc09 and they won't even notice it until i correct them. It's vice-versa for my bro as well.
I hope that helped u guys understand. I understand that he's my bro and that ppl are going sometimes associated us but NOT ALL THE TIME. I just want to be seen as my own person. I what to be seen as RKC09, not BJ08's brother. Me and my bro is cool and we get along great but I don't always want to be mention/associated with him all the time and have to share the same reputation with him. If our last name was Juan. ppl will socially refer to us as the "Juan brothers".
Can anybody help out?
I title this thread "My quest to individuality" because thats excally whats going on. I have a brother who is 1 year older than me and goes to the same college as me. We hang around similar ppl and we are pretty close. But recently I've discovered that ppl often associated us two together. What I mean is it seems everyone sees us a one person (me being 50% and him being the other 50%) Not saying that they literally see us as a half a person(lol) it's just that it seems that I'm not seen as an true individual. Like they see me and think of him and like they see us a the same person.
It's hard for me to explain so let me use some examples. I'll be talking to some of my female friends and they always seem to mention him and they do the samething to him as times)
Girl: hey rkc09
Me: hey hows it going
Girl: im doing good
Me: thats good, so hows college treating ya?
Girl: pretty good, hey I talked to ur brother the other day.
Me: oh....thats nice (wtf does that have to do with ur conversation?) (Stuff like this happens very often with me and my bro's mutual friends)
or another example is I was text this other girl on friday, then rite when i text her she texts my brother too and then sends me a text later on in the convo
me: (I'll just be having a casual convo with her via texting and then....)
girl: LOL i was talking to ur bro earlier and he was texting me the samething lol
me: anddd??
My bro showed me his outbox and his messages were completely different than mines. me and her were just having a normal convo, he was just teasing with one liners....Classic example of ppl seeing us as one person.
one more example is a common mix up. Lets pretend my bro's name is BJ08. I'll be talking to my friends and they will accidentally call me dj08 instead of rkc09 and they won't even notice it until i correct them. It's vice-versa for my bro as well.
I hope that helped u guys understand. I understand that he's my bro and that ppl are going sometimes associated us but NOT ALL THE TIME. I just want to be seen as my own person. I what to be seen as RKC09, not BJ08's brother. Me and my bro is cool and we get along great but I don't always want to be mention/associated with him all the time and have to share the same reputation with him. If our last name was Juan. ppl will socially refer to us as the "Juan brothers".
Can anybody help out?