MY PUSH PULL vs HER PUSH PULL

[thekhris]

ok guys.. i have this new class... 3 of my friends spread the news that ive been to a lot of hot woman..and after 2 days od that class all of the girls are trying to get my attention so i talk and jam to all of them ming;e to all the circles on that room.. all of the guys is my friend and all of the girls is close to me...but there is this hot chick she is the only one that i didnt initiate any contact or what so ever....( i did it with a purpose)..


so at day 7 of that class she initiate a convo with me and i was suprised that she already had my email add and my myspace..so i was flattered and excited... then i put a comnt on her my space...but i think its too romantic.. and after that the next day all of the girls is asking me if i have a crush on this chick it spreaded like a bonfire that im onto her..

so i played it cool... bcoz when i text her she did not respond so i said to my self I gadamn blew it.. so i move on.. I try to hit a girl in the other class and all my girl class mates see it and im ignoring the hot chick that im tal;king about and one of my wingman talk to me and let other girls on the room hear what he was saying when he ask hows the girl that im dating with?

and all of u suden one day the hot chick text me out the blew she want us to study togeter on the class and she is really throwing her self to me so i sit beside her all the day studying togher on the class... but every time i tried to talk to her she is saying"later were in the class" so i think she is just using me to upgrade her social value to the class..so i said to my self f@ck it! by tomorow i will totaly ignore this chick but i still play cool on that day making hjer luagh and stuff so that by tomorow if i ignore her she will be so suprised.

so tomorow came i didnt sit beside her i ganji her all day... i didnt veven bother to look her to her eyes i just freaking ignore her and i just talk and have a luagh and crack a joke on the rest of the class except her..so before the class ends , she cant help it while i was talking to someone and were having few luaghs i hear her laugh at my back and she is trying to but in on the convo.. i talk to her a little but i saw on her eyes that she is hurt...

when i went home i realized that i will hit her again tomorow and test the push pull theory... i sit next to her and she is ignoring me... she just crack a smile and ignore me... i text her she replied but she said she have to go back to sleep...

now i dont know if she is just playing hard to get now or she is giving me red flags already and totaly i blew my chance...

she is making the push pull now... so guys what can u advise me thanx..have a great day

 

[dynamicallyidle]

If you're going to be aggressive, you can't do so with reservation. You are aggressive but also need her approval while doing so. For example, you talked to her during class and she kept saying "later, we're in class." That means, first of all, you were trying to talk to much to her. But secondly, you didn't defend yourself against this comments. She's lowering YOUR value. You need to respond to her in a way that SUBTLY raises your value again, or lowers hers.

Most guys choose to NEG because it's easier than raising your value on the fly.

I think you have a mindset that could work if you controlled it a little bit. The "outer game" has worked itself out with all your wingmen and girls talking you up. It's a matter of your inner game now.

 

[TruthHurts]

yo... too many games man... too many games... I would try to get alone time.. i.e. ask her to meet you somewhere after school, take her to icecream shop and go for a big kiss, then you will know whats up...

also, I thaught the push pull theory is something like this..

"Wow, your hair looks really funny today..... It is turning me on" i.e. you push her away by clowning on her hair, and then pull her back by reasuring her that is in fact the style you like

 

[thekhris]

ok guys heres the update... i text het last night and after an hour or two she text me back asking if i want to join her on her church..so i said ok ill try bcoz im not sure if I will be waking up by 7am in the morning and I asked her if she could text me so that I could wake up...then she she did not replied... I text her again and she never replied..

so the mroning came and she did not text me...

so the question is she is playing her games and somtimes she playing hard to get... on the other hand im acting like a challenge... I dont know... am i blowing my chances for being hard to get? am i creating too much tension?

I dont talk to her at class because of the reason that ournteacher might scold us.. I could not talk to her outside the school because she is always with her friends... when i tried to text her at home she dont respond right away.. and she is bit hate because i ignore her somtimes and when I talk to her she is lowering my social value...

(recalling the precuel)...

I also think that she is just using me to raise her social value.when the news spread on the class that i have a thing to her she is alaways smiling and happy..then i triued to make my move she started to ignore me... I move on and make the impression that i move on and that is the time that she is trying to get my attention back..andf after that... completely she is throwing mix signals all the time... and im also throwing all the mix signals all the time trying to be a challenge..

so guys what do you think? could you give me a complete step step by step on how to score on this chick? i must admit my judgemnt is being clouded bcoz i really like this chick thats why i have a poor judgment right now..so guys I hope you could help me..thanx

 

[nosmirk]

its either you play games, or she plays games.

if both of you play, which appears to be the case, there can be no winner.

either you drop her and move on; or compromise yourself, which i feel is undesirable because you ultimately lose becoming a Challenge to her.

i suggest lowering her priority. you appear to have other options, so why not use them? if this particular girl really is interested in you, this would serve to raise her interest and at best, make her drop her games.

remember, you have other options. dont risk losing yourself over this girl.
cheers mate

 

[I-am-someone]

I did something very similar once...
The girl ended up going home crying after I had ignored her and after I started flirting with other women. Never got anywhere with her.

You have to remember that women want to feel emotionally safe as well. If you're going to pull sh¡t like this, it's not going to make her feel safe at all.

As for the statement you made "i must admit my judgemnt is being clouded bcoz i really like this chick thats why i have a poor judgment right now", that's a bad thing! This means she has control over you...

 

[thekhris]

I did something very similar once...
The girl ended up going home crying after I had ignored her and after I started flirting with other women. Never got anywhere with her.

You have to remember that women want to feel emotionally safe as well. If you're going to pull sh¡t like this, it's not going to make her feel safe at all.

As for the statement you made "i must admit my judgemnt is being clouded bcoz i really like this chick thats why i have a poor judgment right now", that's a bad thing! This means she has control over you...

ok guys i think youre giving me totaly differnt directions here and became more confuced... 1st some of you says that i have to ignore her, for her to drop her games and you, youre teling me to drop the being challenging or saying dont ignore her because she might feel not emotionally safe with me...

whats what guys?... thanx