"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My prom date might have an STD! wtf do I do!??!

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Hey all. I wanted to post this in the normal discussion just so that I get some better, more constructive advice as opposed to the hs forum.

Anyways, Im goin to prom with this girl (Ill call her Sarah), and at her birthday party last night, I found out some pretty sh*tty news. Apparently some guy she gave head to a month ago has an STD. Im still not sure if this is complete fact, but everyone around the school is saying its true, and i wouldnt be surprised if it is true because this kid has been known to get A LOT of girls. Not only that, but Sarah is like a big time slvt lol (shes legitimately given head to well over 20 guys I kid you not).

I was plannin on goin to prom, having fun at the party, and easily getting head and maybe even a lay but now im like scared sh*tless that Sarah may have something. Even she is fvcking worried!

At this point i've decided that im not going to hook to up with her or do anything with her just to play it safe. But im really pissed at this cuz I was so excited about hookin up with her. I really dont wanna have to work for ass now when it could just be easily handed to me.

I really need some advice on how to handle this. I obviously cant go to Sarah and just ask her if she has an STD, so all i've done so far is just go to one of my friends who is friends with that guy (the one that Sarah gave head to) to try and find out if this thing is true.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You need to ask her privately that you have been hearing rumors that she has a STD, and you want want to see if you can help her, and if true maybe take her to the clinic to get checked.
 

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eaglez1177 said:
I obviously cant go to Sarah and just ask her if she has an STD...
Seriously? If you can't talk to someone about these things then you aren't mature enough to be engaging in sex. Talk to her about it, there is nothing for YOU to be ashamed of! Lest you want to be the NEXT one rumored to have an STD, and that, my friend, will KILL your game, true or not.
 

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Even if you hadn't heard about the STD news, you should ALWAYS wear a condom.

If a girl is willing to have unprotected sex with you (oral included), she would have been willing to do the same to any other guy she's been with.

This "Sarah" is one of the people at an extremely high risk of having an STD.


She may not know that the guy she gave head to has something. Tell her to get herself tested.

If her test comes back clean and you still want to have sex on prom night, wear a condom anyway. People lie about their sexual health and test results, and HIV can take 3 months to appear in tests.

Always wear a condom.
 
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she gave head to a month ago has an STD.


What STD?

Don't panic, I was married to a girl with herpes for seven years and never caught it. And we had a lot of sex without ever using a condom.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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Bible_Belt said:
she gave head to a month ago has an STD.


What STD?

Don't panic, I was married to a girl with herpes for seven years and never caught it. And we had a lot of sex without ever using a condom.
because you're a lucky son of a b|tch! but it doesn't mean he will be as lucky, don't be stupid.

It's bad enough having to worry about having sex and contracting an std which is always on people's mind even with a condom, but doing it with a woman everyone is talking about already having an std? are you stupid? is your game that weak that you have no other options and are you that desperate?
 

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Instead of living in an a cycle of doubt and fear why not the two of you go to a clinic and have the both of you checked out. When the facts do come out then make a rational decision based on what you know rather then on what you don't.

eaglez1177 said:
this kid has been known to get A LOT of girls. Not only that, but Sarah is like a big time slvt lol (shes legitimately given head to well over 20 guys I kid you not).
If that kid had gotten alot of girls, chances are good that he may have picked up the STD before he met this girl but it took quite some time for the outbreak to occur. By the way that kid sounds like a fvcking idiot, I mean why advertise to the whole school you got an STD?!

Also why are you taking a big time slvt to the prom?! do you really have to spend money on her to impress her that she would be willing to suck you off?! raise your standards and game son!
 

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DJDamage said:
Instead of living in an a cycle of doubt and fear why not the two of you go to a clinic and have the both of you checked out. When the facts do come out then make a rational decision based on what you know rather then on what you don't.



If that kid had gotten alot of girls, chances are good that he may have picked up the STD before he met this girl but it took quite some time for the outbreak to occur. By the way that kid sounds like a fvcking idiot, I mean why advertise to the whole school you got an STD?!

Also why are you taking a big time slvt to the prom?! do you really have to spend money on her to impress her that she would be willing to suck you off?! raise your standards and game son!
Knowing how highschool works its just as likely that the kid is just hated by guys because he gets girls.. And no idiot would tell a soul that he had an std unless it was appropriate, If she gave head to the guy how the hell did she get a STD. and it not be noticable
 

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be warned. whether she has an std or not, you might go down as the "guy that got an std from the school slut".
 

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Don't panic, I was married to a girl with herpes for seven years and never caught it. And we had a lot of sex without ever using a condom.
WTF ????? you did not know she had herpes all this time ?

I once had sex with a girl I suspected had herpes, but in the end I think it was just some skin problems in her privates.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've always been a "it's better to be safe than sorry" kind of guy. Even when I hear rumors, I take them into extreme consideration. Rumors like that don't just start from nothing, they obviously must be sexually active or poking around the wrong people. I've been with around 16 girls and I've been dodging bullets the whole time. I've only caught one STD and it went away after 6 months, so I've never caught anything too serious. I would just take her to prom but don't have sex with her until you both can get tested.
 

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Well I wasnt definitely planning on having sex but I pretty much guaranteed a hookup and bj. But last thing I want is some STD on my fvcking mouth or ****.

And I cant ask her straight to her face otherwise i think shes going to be really insulted and pissed off. I think the best bet wud be to just ask her close friends and hope that they dont rat on me and tell her that I asked.
 

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eaglez1177 said:
Well I wasnt definitely planning on having sex but I pretty much guaranteed a hookup and bj. But last thing I want is some STD on my fvcking mouth or ****.

And I cant ask her straight to her face otherwise i think shes going to be really insulted and pissed off. I think the best bet wud be to just ask her close friends and hope that they dont rat on me and tell her that I asked.
Her friends will tell her. Two choices:

1. Ask her about it. Whatever her answer is, don't do anything unprotected with her.

2. Don't ask her, and don't do anything unprotected with her.

If you ask, and she says she doesn't have anything, or that she was tested and doesn't have anything, or she did have something, but got treated, it doesn't matter. Still use protection.
 

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Well I mean regardless if she had something or not I would always use protection. But that wud only be for sex im not gonna put a condom on my d*ck if im gettin a bj lol.

And I talked to one of my friends at lunch (who is going out with one of my prom dates best friends) and he asked his gf if my prom date was clean and she said that she got tested and was. I think this is somewhat reliable since it is his gf and he told me that she wudnt lie and wud say she wasnt clean if she really wasnt.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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