"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hello fellow DJ's, i would like to share my first progress log.

To start off, i was a true AFC. I did almost every mistake possible, i was clingy, fat, had no self-confidence and etc'. Once i even said to a chick wich had to sit next me that i knew she hated me because i was scared of her (she weighs max 40kg's...).

I started my change last year in April when i flew to a hockey camp in the chezch republic. i lost around 5kg's there, after that i kept loosing weight until i lost 20 kg's after 6 months and kept my weight since then the same.
I still was a true AFC but i was getting into the right way (no chicks for me).
I tried still but i got rejected.

October 2006, i "discoverd" Sosuave and after a week i started reading the bible. I was overwhelmed with the information that the bible stored. My first shine of dj action was when i went to a trip before 3 months. I gamed this cute blond chick (hb9) for a while untill i gave to much too soon and she wasn't intrested anymore. I asked a girl out and got rejected, my first REAL rejection

Last month i had a 2-days trip, after wrestling with a chick (hb7) i went with a chick the had the hotties for me and i layed on her (with my head).i kept in touch with this chick.

last week i decieded that i am doing it and i just grabbed her had and took it.
ever since we walk hand in hand when we see each other.

Rember the hb9 that i gamed and lost? she now comes near me and in math class(my class learns with 2 other classes once a week) she told me to come to help her, i said:"No, but you can come here" she tried to do faces to me but she came. a girl i was sitting next to said:"Isn't she in our class?" i said:"No way i would miss a cute blonde chick" and the blond chick blushed.

And also today there is this a girl who is a year older than me that likes me and she saw me with a girl and asked me if i have a gf. i said no and then she said:"so who was the chick you walked hand in hand with?" i said:"which one?" and smiled. all the girls near her cracked.

THANKS SOSUAVE.
(sorry for my grammar, i am from israel).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kiko-

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There's nothing much to say except congratulations.
Well done on changing your AFC ways.
 

BRUCEWAYNE

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hey thats pretty cool you started to improve. I never really took the game seriously but I realized better to start now than never. I have a friend that is really good in the game and always has somthing slick to say. So he talks and ends up gaming the chicks while i just stand around and observe. He said im hopeless to learn it because I can't act more outgoing. I could be more outgoing but im to used to being in my clique and reserve to me and my friends. I've been reading but nothing is happening.

HOW DO YOU START ON THE ROAD TO SUCCESS??

(My friend recomended finding Canned Openers and Stories so you always develop good conversation. Only problem is I don't know any interesting topics.)
 

Plec07

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BRUCEWAYNE said:
hey thats pretty cool you started to improve. I never really took the game seriously but I realized better to start now than never. I have a friend that is really good in the game and always has somthing slick to say. So he talks and ends up gaming the chicks while i just stand around and observe. He said im hopeless to learn it because I can't act more outgoing. I could be more outgoing but im to used to being in my clique and reserve to me and my friends. I've been reading but nothing is happening.

HOW DO YOU START ON THE ROAD TO SUCCESS??

(My friend recomended finding Canned Openers and Stories so you always develop good conversation. Only problem is I don't know any interesting topics.)

You may have been reading but you having been doing. You need to now put yourself out there. It's like a sport, just knowing the rules by heart doesn't make you an amazing player, you need the experience aswell.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Infraction

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BRUCEWAYNE said:
hey thats pretty cool you started to improve. I never really took the game seriously but I realized better to start now than never. I have a friend that is really good in the game and always has somthing slick to say. So he talks and ends up gaming the chicks while i just stand around and observe. He said im hopeless to learn it because I can't act more outgoing. I could be more outgoing but im to used to being in my clique and reserve to me and my friends. I've been reading but nothing is happening.

HOW DO YOU START ON THE ROAD TO SUCCESS??

(My friend recomended finding Canned Openers and Stories so you always develop good conversation. Only problem is I don't know any interesting topics.)
When you start doing it's much more comfortable.
The first time when i asked someone out i was trimbling. When i grabbed the girls hand for the first time i enjoyed it.
Start to do and your not hopeless.
 
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