"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Celadus

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I've been working with a trainer and this is what he came up for me. What do you guys think? I'm a little unsatisfied with the 3 x 15. Doesn't seem geared toward increasing size.

Goals: Increase overall level of fitness, size, strength and conditioning.

Assessment: Gait – Slight external rotation of femur. Slight elevation of left scapula. Severe protraction of shoulders. Overhead squat – Slight abduction of shoulders. Arms fall forward. Slight posterior pelvic tilt. Tight and weak medial glutes and hamstrings. Tight pecs..

Recommendations: 3 days strength training with hard stretching. 2 days/week non-impact cardiovascular training along with intense foam roll and stretch. Return to normal length glutes, calves, hamstrings, quads and it band. Stretch chest and shoulders. Strengthen upper and lower back, glutes and core.

Warm up: 10 minutes eliptical or bike (alternate days). Foam roll.

Day 1: Chest and Triceps 3 sets, 15 reps
Dumbell Press
Dips
Incline dumbbell fly
Dumbell pullovers
Skull crushers
Overhead rope tricep extension

Day 2: Legs and Shoulders 3 sets, 15 reps.
Single Leg Squats
Lunges (any type) driving with heal or Barbell squats
Leg Extensions
Leg Curls
Dumbell Press or behind neck smith press
Side Lateral Raise going wide
Rear Delt Rows on reverse pec deck or with dumbbell

Day 3: Back and Biceps 3 sets, 15 reps
Dumbell rows
Cable Lat pulls with indivual handles if possible
Any type of close grip row to work on scaption (pinching shoulder blades)
Straight bar curls
Alternate dumbbell curls

Focus on breathing, eccentric control and explosion at the bottom. Work to FAILURE!

Abs & Core Work (Anything. 2sets, 25 reps minimum. Get creative. Try new things)
Any Med Ball or Stability Ball work
Plank or side plank (1 min)
Prone cobra, yta, or swimmers

Stretch: Glutes, hams, calves and quads. Doorway stretch for chest. Single arm doorway stretch for shoulders and lats. Any others.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm going to give the trainer the benefit of the doubt(giving someone with your goals a routine like that is an insult to the entire personal training practice) and say he gave you that routine because of liability issues, high reps on safe exercises will reduce the chances of you getting injured and suing. That routine obviously sucks but the stretching is good. Hopefully you didn't spend money, if you did try to get a refund before its too late and follow the where to start thread.
 

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Yeah, I went in telling him I wanted to be geared toward Starting Strength or something similar and he got me onto this whole posture deal, which I think was good for a few months.

I think I'll look for another guy. I originally just got him to have someone to spot me and motivate me to get there.

Everything we do seems really random.
 

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Yeah i agree, save your money and train yourself
 

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Kerpal said:
Sometimes I feel like there's some kind of massive conspiracy to keep people from getting into shape.
There is.
As is there to get people eat a lot of carbs, as there is to keep people unhealthy, uninformed, etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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