My problem is my opener (I dont want to seem awkward/creepy)

[Brighty]

I've been blessed with being 6'4 tall, having good looks, and a deep resounding voice, but the only pvssy I really get is often times handed to me and when I'm charged with going out and getting it, I often wuss out or make excuses. Prime example today: I was at this open house and this HB8 was eyeing me up the whole time, and I exchanged eye contact her several times. However, I only knew one person there (the guy who's open house it was) and I felt like I should approach her, but she was always talking to people I didn't know. There were a ton of obvious signs but long story short I didn't make a move on her and looking back on the carride home I was kicking myself for wussing out.

I don't know, part of it might be because I've had bad childhood experiences with meeting new people and being shunned, but I do need to fix that part of my life, especially as I'm heading off to college.

My main concern is my opener, once the introductions are out of the way, its generally smooth sailing, but I don't want it to be awkward or anything. How do you guys deal with that flight or fight feeling when you're deciding whether or not to talk to a girl? Furthermore, what kind of openers do you guys use and how can I get it out of my head that its not awkward to introduce yourself to someone and get to know them?

 

[Trendsetter]

*copied and pasted from my last post*

In terms of PU, it's a numbers game. I don't care who says otherwise. You want to lay 10-20% of the girls you approach. The more girls you talk to, the better your chances. Don't run those stupid opinion openers UNLESS it's really genuine. Opinion openers blow in day game, they know why you're approaching, be a man and handle your business. Need some openers for day game?
-Hi, I like your shoes/dress/purse....I can tell you have some style, what's your name?
-Hi, mind if I walk with you for a second......so how's your day going?
-Hey I noticed we made pretty strong eye contact so I wanted to see what that was all about....*girl giggles*...what's your name?
-Hey you're pretty cute, what's your name?
-I just had to come say hi or I'd be kicking myself for not saying anything to you, what's your name?
-Hey, you have a unique look to you, what's your nationality?
-Hi.

The party is such a low key environment and it is actually expected to mingle so it should be relatively easy to say hi, introduce yourself and strike up a conversation. Asking how she knows who she knows at the party would have been good as well.

The one in bold would have been perfect, even though all of those opinion openers would have worked for you. It's not what you say but how you say it.

Happy Sarging.

 

[wd40]

dude you're overthinking it. you didnt know anyone at the party... so here is what i would have done.

Walk up to the girl, stick out you hand, and say, "hi, I'm (name)." she shakes your hand and then tells you her name. Then you say "hey, i dont really know anyone here, wanna introduce me to people?" or "I dont know anyone at this party so we need to make friends fast" or something along those lines.

In most situations where you are expected to socialize (like a party) its not weird at all to just walk up and introduce yourself this way. In fact, its probably more natural than using an "opener". those openers are what you need in a situation where its not normal to introduce yourself... like at the grocery store or something.

 

[#41]

-I just had to come say hi or I'd be kicking myself for not saying anything to you, what's your name?

I've used this opener before -- I think it works because there's a real honesty to it, and as long as you can transition from it into a topic of conversation designed to get you both talking, it's gold.

 

[andy1989]

"Whad up fool" is amazing, and here's why.

1. Unlike "what's up," she has no autopilot response.

2. At the same time, it is not too outrageous or out there like "whad up *****" would be.

3. Additionally, it conveys confidence.

You can follow it up with something like "you have... the cutest... eyebrows I have ever seen."

Remember, the words you say are only 7% of the communication. Focus your attention more on your strong eye contact, open body language and neutral-breaking rapport vocal tonality.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Check my thread about opening on the tips section.
It might help you.

 

[worship]

Remember, the words you say are only 7% of the communication.

Umm I thought it was 8.3217354352%