"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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my problem is meeting girls in the summer

neonlimited

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Its summer, and that means there is no school, school was just about the only place I felt confident approaching random girls, I have a new job and met a few there, but I am not confident approaching girls in spots such as the mall, and its driving me nuts... Ive read everything on this site about confidence and somehow ITS NOT ENOUGH.. what is wrong with me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Marf

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Just hang out around town and pick up on the ladies... join some kind of activity/class (preferably with females...) where you can meet new people.
 

oakraiderz2

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Parties my son.
 

trucko

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why?girls are all the same.. whether they're in home clothes or not it doesnt matter..GO for it! whats wrong? You lacked nuts...........for now.Thats whats wrong with you :) all the best
 

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You gain confidence by overcoming your fears (appoarching).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Patrick124

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I don't usually do cold approaches either, but i STILL manage to meet tons of girls. I guess with my lucky with girls infront of guys, i've portrayed a "player" image...so guess who my friends call when they need a wingman for a date? I literally have 3-4 guys who ONLY call me to be their wingmanif need be.
 
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