BTL is right. Its a bad sign you are so invested.
See I will help you get your "frame" back, by helping you with your games. Most will not. But, you must understand, that is why I help.
I am not necessarily helping you get the "girl" back per say. I want to help you get your "frame" back with the girl. There is a difference.
See she wouldn’t even play such silly games as to get mad at you over something so ridiculous if she had even the inkling that you would walk away forever. And, if you are being honest, you never would. Or if she sensed that she was dealing with a MAN, who had passions and options to fill his time without her and she was easily replaced. UNTIL NOW!
See that IS what we are here for. If you get the girl back, good, great, ok, fine, whatever. But are you even ready to get her back? I would say, NO. Ill help you play your little game. And, if you listen to me, and others, you will indeed get her back.
BUT, what will you do once you have it? Will you start to believe in yourself? Will you start to say to yourself" Why am I even trying for a girl that gets mad about youtube accounts? Why do I supplicate and digress when I knew I was right in the firstplace? Will you start to see yourself as a valuable enough for her to chase and worship and behave for? I dunno, will you? Or will you begin to kiss her A$$ again in fear of her outbursts.
See that is why I want to help you. I dont want to help you get "her" back man. I want to help you get yourself back in a way that makes her die without you.
That is what BTL was hinting at. Are you a man with options and actions? Or are you HER MAN, and thats all you are? You know, we do not.
Go. Look at yourself in the mirror. See what is there. Really look. Look into your own heart. What do you see? Look into your own past, have you completed things you set out to do? Did you give the same passions to those things as you gave to her? Now, look into your future, really look. What do you see? Do you see her? Do you see her family? Do you see her as the matriarch of your family? Could she love you in a wheelchair? Could she love you if you signed into her youtube account? What do you want?
I will help you. I will help you with whatever you choose. I know the heart wants what it wants. I want help too. Ask the guys, they will tell you. We all have a weak spot that no one can cure. Well, except you. Ask yourself friend, what do you want. What does the real you, the MAN in you, want.
Let me help you with what I am coming to terms with in my tenure here. A MAN wants a future that is brighter than just tomorrow’s desire. A MAN gets himself to a point to where his desires are constantly archived and shared WITH the girl. She is not the goal, you are.
NC. Bullcrap. 1 DAY, is not NC. 1 Day is childish games that nothing is gained from. I have done 95. I have done it so long that I have even found another “oneitis”. That may sound counterproductive to you but no, it is not. I have been on at least 20 dates with different women. 3, I slept with. 3 I chose not to. The rest got categorized. Made a few decent friends along the way.
I go out alone. I meet and greet. Made real good connections. Go out on the weekends. Learned new bars. Created value in myself by making connections. I even take notes of peoples names. Places I meet them. Maybe I ll land a huge opportunity I never dreamed of? Maybe Ill meet a HB10 that waited her whole life for me. Maybe Ill meet a new client to grow my personal business? Maybe, Ill meet my wife to grow old and die next to.
I go to the gym 6 days a week. At first I did it to get away. I did it to cry where no one would notice. I did it because I felt I had nowhere else to turn. Then, I started to do it because I had already BEEN doing it. Then, I started to see results, not only in body shape, but also in mental balance. Then, it morphed, slowly, into who I AM. Fit, healthy, passionate. Girls touch me when I am around. People move out of my way. People ask me how I did it. I encourage myself when I encourage others.
I find disrespect in you calling 1 day NC. F you. Like I said, you want to play games to get your weird, feels like she is better than you, “ex-flame” back. Ask, Ill help you, I understand. But after what I have written to you, is that what you really want? One girl? A girl, who I can tell does not bring out the best in you. A girl who controls you enough to find a forum to post about it? AFTER ONE F^CKING DAY!
BTL was right. You are too invested in her and not enough in yourself. BTL will also tell you, I try to practice what I preach. But, I struggle, right along side you.
You will see, if you have the guts to listen and stick around, you will be helped, just not in the way you WANT, but in the way you need.
I get it. I would do anything for the 2 girls I now desire. Yet, to reiterate, I have learned and am learning, this is a flawed approach. Be the man that they desire! That will change your whole life dude. Its not even in the outcome of the philosophy but in its pursuit. Failure at success IS success.
BTL in one line told you what I have said in 300. Yet, the advice is still valuable. I hope you have a clearer picture now.
REAL TALK ADVICE: DO NOT RESPOND! Next time she reaches out…DO NOT RESPOND! Then, set parameters. “ Listen, I got your texts. I miss you but I have decided to work on myself for now. I am too focused to play around or discuss Youtube login accounts. You are great girl but that was just plain weird. I am available next Saturday at (whatever time) if you want to discuss anything. Ill be at (wherever, getting a whatever) . Ill see you there."
In the meantime, read and re read what I told you. Start to see yourself in the way which we, as a community, will you to be seen. Then, you can have whatever you want.
P.S Do not ever insult NC with one days effort, ever again. You have NO idea, my budding DJ, what that even begins to mean and I resent it.
Also, instead of me wasting my time and energy expanding for you the meaning of a veterans blessing you with his response, let it sink in, and if still does not resonate with you, read the DJ Bible and the read the rest of the forum, over and over, until it begins to take hold. Like, I do. Like I must continue to do.
In full disclosure of my advice; I am walking alongside you. I still must learn to internalize, yet, my advice is still good, because I know that I must.
You must too.
Will you?
