"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan
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improvingdonjuan
Senior Don Juan
i believe we are still having this problems
and the damm censorship also pisses me off
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Confidence is the key to women
THE DJ BIBLE
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Take No Dirt
Master Don Juan
Also, it would be easier to read the posts if the DJs would use multiple paragraphs instead of one long paragraph.
stockholder
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roadwarrior
Don Juan
I'm saddened by this post. What is this forum about anyways????????????????????
Are we all such knowledgeable DJ's that we can ignore pleas for help?????????????
Shame on sosauve.com...sure, many helpful posts are available to those who are familiar with this board. Many people looking for help, howvever, are first time posters and much of the so called 'good advice' on this board is debatable, to say the least.
To have an administrator belittle honest pleas for assistance(you can't post the entire jist of your post in it's title) sickens me to no end. I agree with Dizzy totally on this. Pleas for help get my attention first. Of course some of them are juvenile and unwarranted. So what!!!!...are we so called DJ's so knowledgeable we can ignore or sluff off posts titled 'Help, Please'. If so, then please tell me the purpose of this board. We already know it all so we might as well shut it down...get the drift.
Grow up or stop calling yourselves DJ's...we are here to learn from others and to help each other...not to belittle each other, no matter what the title of our post is or what its content may be...it's as simple as that!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sosuave, I think I understand what you are trying to say...let's try to weed out the 'bad' posts from the 'good' posts before we even read them...I disagree.
Tongue in cheek....all posts should be entitled 'HELP'....then they would all get our equal attention...as they should!!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
misunderstood??
Master Don Juan
1)Censorship
2)Posts getting of topic and going on forever
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
But is there a way to *edit* the subject line?
I just recently posted a topic under "weird situation" that would better be described "bitten on the ass by the age issue" or somesuch, but couldn't edit it.
I'm also bugged by the deliberate butchering of language. A typo here and there is understandable, but if someone wants to be understood, they should not write their message in code.
GREAT WHITE SHARK
Master Don Juan
by the way, I need help! hahahahah
Sometimes the title is not apropriate but the story can teach you a lot. Learn with others mistakes.
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Go hunting and kill a huge deer
Go fishing and fish an enormous pike
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buy an alligator skin mocassins
write a book that sells 10.000.000 copies
buy a X5 BMW
SHout GO TO HELL B.ITCH! for those who deserve it.
Here's the reasoning. The Forum is an EXTENSION of the SITE. The site which is filled with articles, tips, newsletters, and so on. After reading through these articles and tips, a potential poster should already have a basis for how to represent his DJ character on the boards. You don't start on the boards to then move on to the site, the site comes first. Everyone posting on the boards should then already be on their road to being a DJ. Pathetic subject lines of helplessness show that they skipped that important first step of reading through the site. We are here to help, but at least ask for help in a manner showing you've begun your DJ training.
Chubbs Peterson
Senior Don Juan
High School aged people posting here instead of the High School Board!!!!!!!!!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
1) Hypocricy
2) Not taking responsibility for the part one plays in their own problems
3) Blaming one person for an argument between two people that takes a thread off on a tangent.
4) After giving specific examples of how my actions coincide with what I say, hearing comments like "women don't know what they want" and "look at what women do NOT what they say." in response to said posts. WTF is up with THAT?
5) Other posters treating "newbies" like they are retarded or something and being too protective of them.
6) DJ worship/supplication/pandering
7) Posts typed in ALL CAPS
DJintheworks
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dead_romeo
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I love this board.
I love you guys!
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"Conclusions arrived at through reasoning have very little or no influence in altering the course of our lives. Hence, the countless examples of people who have the clearest convictions and yet act diametrically against them time and time again; and have as the only explanation for their behavior the idea that to err is human." Carlos Castaneda - The Fire From Within
"It is the responsibility of the strong to help the weak become strong" - Harlan Ellison
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.