My personal beliefs about compliments.

[Febreze]

Hi,

There has been a lot said on complimenting a womans beauty. Some say hold back and do not make it obvious you admire her looks, and i would have to agree with this to some extend, but i peronally believe if you are experienced, truly confident, and know how to deliver well then you can mention it whenever you want.

Words are important. Some on here say "what you say doesnt matter" and i see where they are coming from and why they believe that, but i think they are making a grave mistake. Word selection is crucial. You do not have to go out and read a dictionary to improve how you deliver things. You can compliment a womans beauty without lowering your value, looking needy, annoying her etc if you know how to deliver it in conversation. Implication is KING here. Let me give a good example.

An AFC or someone ineperienced might say this to a beautiful woman they have just approached :

'You are so beautiful. wow. I have never seen someone as beautiful as you"

Maybe not that exact sentence, but you understand my point, and we all know thats the wrong way to go about it. Now im not coming up with a canned line for you to use or anything, because there are virtually a million ways to say anything, but i want to give an example. Someone confident and a little more experienced might instead drop the "you are so beautiful" lines and say something like this:

"I cannot imagine why you did not get the job as a hostess, with your energy and looks id have figured you were a sure thing"

Now that sound corny, and no, i would never say exactly THAT. But the point it conveys is a stronger one. Notice how looks came last, in the middle of the sentence, and was only mentioned once. It came and go. It wasnt dwelled upon. I didnt tell her 60 times like an AFC would. One time, and it was fleeting. Also notice i never even SAID her looks were good, i just said "her looks." Now we all know what was meant, and so does she, but it never actually being said but IMPLIED makes it so much stronger. This can be done in a myriad of ways.

_-Febreze.

 

[ready123]

Here's the thing about complements that people here fail to understand

The intention behind it makes all the difference.

Ask yourself WHY you're giving the complement and your reason is what determines whether or not it hits.

If you're trying to get a reaction out of her/raise your value/attract her by baiting her with a complement, your intentions will be transparent as hell and it'll miss

If you're offering value through a sincere complement, she'll accept it

Intentionality matters so much in all aspects of interaction. It's why two guys can say the same words and one will generate attraction and the other will blow himself out

Your theory about being eloquently non-generic isn't all that accurate. It's attractive to be non-generic (and as you make your way through life learning how to be yourself instead of somebody else, you get this way natrually), but that's not the core of how to get a complement to a stick

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

I now know why I hate compliments. Ready123, you are right on when you say a woman will know when it's insincere. I, myself, never knew what bothered me so much about getting them... now I know! Very articulate!

 

[Febreze]

i never once said to be inscencere. I was giving EXAMPLES. In fact, im strongly against lying and telling someone something you dont mean. I never said anyone shouldnt be themselves, only that they should present things a little differently. Its like learning a new vocabulary. Go ahead, keep telling me how wrong i am, ive only worked with 100 percent women for years what would i know.

 

[tarotale]

so agree with u bro. i learned to give compliments while i am inserting that i am at higher status than her. for ex: at a club, i would tell a girl. "wow u look pretty cute. i will let u dance with me just for 3 minutes" or "hey u look cute, i am glad that you're catching up to me" or some stuff like these, and women love it and they laugh, but still, i come out CF so i am set

 

[Scars]

Compliments are for good girls. Reward system my friends.