"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My one-itis just acquired a boyfriend

Nexus Polaris

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And it ain't me.

I guess this is a blessing in disguise as I am now free to do whatever the fück I want without my overwhelming insecure AFC core wondering if it will jeopardize anything. Now there's nothing to jeopardize. I'm celebrating tonight by getting drunk and shaving my head. Something I've wanted to do for a long time but haven't had the balls to go through with out of concern of losing whatever progress I had made.

Now it doesn't matter.

I will be drowning my sorrows tomorrow night in my MILF's cooch (and possibly her ass depending on how the night goes). If she gives me a hard time about my new look, I'll drop her off at the nearest corner since I'm driving tomorrow.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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As long as we have the same definition of oneitis mine just got a boyfriend too. Just got to keep using my DJ skills, keep my eyes open, and hope her bf makes a big mistake.
 

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That's it! Fight the power brother!

Don't ever let a girl determine what you do. It always ends with your balls wrapped up in a nice glittery giftbox with a ribbon around it, sent express mail straight to her doorstep!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Okay, I successfully got drunk. But I woke up and still had my hair. And I recall telling half my friends I hated them.

Last night was not a good night. And to top it off, my MILF cancelled tonight as she always does. She's the world's biggest flake which is why I've known her for 7 years and never fücked her.

I needed that, though. Now I'm stuck obsessing again over my one-itis. Some little pretty boy bìtch pushed me out of the picture. And he's 5 years younger than her.
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
Okay, I successfully got drunk. But I woke up and still had my hair. And I recall telling half my friends I hated them.

Last night was not a good night. And to top it off, my MILF cancelled tonight as she always does. She's the world's biggest flake which is why I've known her for 7 years and never fücked her.

I needed that, though. Now I'm stuck obsessing again over my one-itis. Some little pretty boy bìtch pushed me out of the picture. And he's 5 years younger than her.
SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE DEPRESSED.
 

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I am. And it's stupid. And I know it.

It wouldn't piss me off so much if this chick hadn't liked me so much. She absolutely loved me the first two times we went out. I just couldn't ever seal the deal.

I feel like I blew a golden opportunity. Not saying she was irreplaceable, but she was a rare find. Not just attractive but had an awesome personality. We always had a lot of fun when we went out.

But my calibration still sucks, and I was too aloof. I'm still trying too hard, and it's killing my game. If I had just been my old self without trying to remember all this DJ shìt there's a good probability I'd be dating her right now rather than that fückass.
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
Okay, I successfully got drunk. But I woke up and still had my hair. And I recall telling half my friends I hated them.

Last night was not a good night. And to top it off, my MILF cancelled tonight as she always does. She's the world's biggest flake which is why I've known her for 7 years and never fücked her.

I needed that, though. Now I'm stuck obsessing again over my one-itis. Some little pretty boy bìtch pushed me out of the picture. And he's 5 years younger than her.
That's where your Don Juan skills should kick in. The chick I like is awesome, funny, and attractive. She was showing a lot of signs in me, but we hadn't really hung out a lot, and this guy she had been talking to for a little longer told her he was moving back, and asked her if he moved back if she would go out with him. She still shows some signs in me, but not as many as before. I could sit around and mope, but it's not going to help me at all. The best thing you can do is say **** her and reflect on yourself and see what you can improve upon. By doing that 1. If she ever was interested in you, she is going to wonder why you aren't paying attention to her and 2. Your going to be bettering yourself therefore making other women notice you and making yourself feel good again. Also don't ever try and break her and her boyfriend up. Even if your successful at it, you'll have it on your conscious, and if she finds out she is going to be pissed at you. Just know that you are better then this guy and keep improving your game. If she doesn't see your value, move on.
 

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FORGET ABOUT YOUR ONEITIS FOREVER.

Better sooner than later. And you eventually do lose all love or liking.
My first oneitis... I haven't been in class with her for 2 years and today I sat next to her... never looked at her once because shes way not worthy of me. Also a girl I do like was sitting on the other side of me and I ****in didn't even notice her until like class was half over ahahaha.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I had the exact same thing happen to me

texting was going great...seemed really pleased to see me on nights out and things...then she suddenly goes and gets a bf who is about a 6 (whereas according to her..im an 8.5 +)...made no sense...

then i realised she met him through her best mate.....whose boyfriend was best mates with him....so im blamin her...

i was hung up for like 2 days...then it suddenly clicked....who gives a ****....

she can have this fella if she wants....i really dont care anymore......and neither should you...get out there and start again....gaming shouldnt be depressing...it should be fun
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
And it ain't me.

I guess this is a blessing in disguise as I am now free to do whatever the fück I want without my overwhelming insecure AFC core wondering if it will jeopardize anything. .
It is a blessing in disguise. It'll save you weeks or months of mental torture.:up:
 

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Oh my god.

I'm sorry, but here's a big ass stinging e-***** slap.

You sound pathetic. How can one woman, out of ~3billion have this effect on you?

If youd've been smart from the get-go, youd've have been meeting more women, whilst with this "wonderful woman". You'dve been "spinning plates" and then you'd never ever have been in this situation.

Fancy giving your bollocks to this bird in a jar? No? Well, stfu, get out and find some women who ARE worth your time. Fs.
 

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I know where you're coming from, and honestly, I don't disagree. That's why I said I'm aware that what I'm feeling is useless and completely counterproductive.

I think a big part of this is the fact that I'm angry at myself for blowing what looked like a sure thing. I'm still stuck in this conscious incompetence part of the learning curve, and it's probably the most frustrating and most painful. Because you see that what you're doing is wrong, but you can't quite put your finger on how to fix it. You just have to keep screwing up until you get it right.

I'm being logical here, though. I'm still doing what Unlimited suggested and going on with my life. Working daily to better myself in every way, shape, and form for myself. To ultimately become the kind of man that never finds himself in this kind of situation.

And I'll continue pursuing other women as well just as I have all year.


But I'd like to provide a counterpoint to the NEXT motto that every here subscribes to. I'm not saying you should ever make one woman the focus of your entire life and sacrifice everything to get her, but (and David DeAngelo even seems to agree on this) I think a lot of guys are too quick to NEXT women.

An alpha trait is knowing what you want and going after it and getting it and not being swayed by obstacles that arise along the way. I'm not saying that if I find something better along the way I won't jump on it and forget about this girl completely. But it just seems like a roll over and give up type move to just say, "Well, that's that," and move on. If you truly want something, you'll find a way to get it. A boyfriend is nothing more than an obstacle.

You might not get it now. You might have to take a break and come back to it. And even if you get it, you might decide then that you don't want it. But if you really want anything in life, you'll apply yourself enough to get it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nexus Polaris said:
An alpha trait is knowing what you want and going after it and getting it and not being swayed by obstacles that arise along the way. I'm not saying that if I find something better along the way I won't jump on it and forget about this girl completely. But it just seems like a roll over and give up type move to just say, "Well, that's that," and move on. If you truly want something, you'll find a way to get it. A boyfriend is nothing more than an obstacle.
Good for you. Running away is not an alpha trait. As long as you NEVER lose your perspective, focus on yourself, and are receptive to other opportunities, you're 100% correct.

The zen-like approach is to have a great life and be open to this woman being a part-of it is she wishes while not making her the focus of yuor energies.

It's tough for most people to perform the balancing act you're talking about, good luck.
 

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Thank you, man.
 

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Eddie417 said:
Good for you. Running away is not an alpha trait. As long as you NEVER lose your perspective, focus on yourself, and are receptive to other opportunities, you're 100% correct.

The zen-like approach is to have a great life and be open to this woman being a part-of it is she wishes while not making her the focus of yuor energies.

It's tough for most people to perform the balancing act you're talking about, good luck.
Good call, that's the exact perspective I have taken up.
 

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Eddie417 said:
Good for you. Running away is not an alpha trait. As long as you NEVER lose your perspective, focus on yourself, and are receptive to other opportunities, you're 100% correct.

The zen-like approach is to have a great life and be open to this woman being a part-of it is she wishes while not making her the focus of yuor energies.

It's tough for most people to perform the balancing act you're talking about, good luck.
he's not running. he's realizing that he's be defeated, and going on to Game another day. with a better chick
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
And it ain't me.

I guess this is a blessing in disguise as I am now free to do whatever the fück I want without my overwhelming insecure AFC core wondering if it will jeopardize anything. Now there's nothing to jeopardize. I'm celebrating tonight by getting drunk and shaving my head. Something I've wanted to do for a long time but haven't had the balls to go through with out of concern of losing whatever progress I had made.

Now it doesn't matter.

I will be drowning my sorrows tomorrow night in my MILF's cooch (and possibly her ass depending on how the night goes). If she gives me a hard time about my new look, I'll drop her off at the nearest corner since I'm driving tomorrow.
I think I'm the only one here that knows what your name means, a the Kovenant CD, well, someone besides me is into black metal. Though I havent gotten into them, I'm more into Emperor, Satyricon, Dimmu Borgir, Burzum, stuff like that. I'm guessing you like Aborym?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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