SnowconeMan
Don Juan
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Greetings everyone! I am new here to SS.. Actually, I'm really not new.. I've been lurking the posts for quite sometime.
Right now, I am still an AFC. It sux because it like a disease that you can't get rid of. I just recovered from an AFC like situation. I am glad that most people here have already learned to not be kicking yourself for 10 months. Whenever I began college a couple of years ago, I became good friends with this one girl. For the longest time, we were still in the friend zone. Just last April, I fell for her, and then ended up kicking myself in the process. Here's where the AFC kicks in... In May, I finally told her everything I have felt about her. She called me back a month later, and thanked me for everything, but that she dosen't feel that it is the right time for her to have a relationship with anyone. She comes from a real conservative background, where they believe they shouldn't date anyone unless they know they're real serious about the guy they want to be with. I made the AFC mistake, and kept pursuing her. After we went to different schools, much of it changed. Now, were both going to the same college, but haven't gotten to speak. Just last week, a friend of mine said that he saw her in her work place and found that she was flirting around with other guys. There, my trust for her went down the tubes. I realized that it could never work out between us, so I NEXT'D her. By looking back, what makes me upset is not her stance on relationships, but the way she kept fending off contact and stuff. It also irks me that I was using soo much logic instead of emotion. However, I decided to move on w/ my life..
Just a couple weeks ago, I finally decided to work on self-improvement.. any advice guys? Right now, I'm working on clothes and have been working out. I am also using proactive and seeing if other dental stuff works. I am really making an effort at it.
That same thursday, after one of my classes, this one girl came up and talked to me, I was wowed b/c she came to me. She came again and talked to me yesterday. It was great for me, although I may have been a little overbearing. I was just excited, I may have forced a little too much in the convo, and not enough EC. I also need to work on C & F.
Yesterday was also a good day for me. I talked to another girl in that class who is also in my 8 AM class, I think our personalities are better for dating anyways. From my former school, I bumped into all kinds of hot girls. In the library, one even turned around
Yall have to have seen it...
I may be at a great disadvantage since I commute twice a week, therefore social activities are limited...But anyways, it looks as if I'm heading in the right direction.
Any advice from you guys? It would be greatly appreciated! I need it b/c believe me, I am still very much an AFC.. but I'm trying!
Thanks!
Right now, I am still an AFC. It sux because it like a disease that you can't get rid of. I just recovered from an AFC like situation. I am glad that most people here have already learned to not be kicking yourself for 10 months. Whenever I began college a couple of years ago, I became good friends with this one girl. For the longest time, we were still in the friend zone. Just last April, I fell for her, and then ended up kicking myself in the process. Here's where the AFC kicks in... In May, I finally told her everything I have felt about her. She called me back a month later, and thanked me for everything, but that she dosen't feel that it is the right time for her to have a relationship with anyone. She comes from a real conservative background, where they believe they shouldn't date anyone unless they know they're real serious about the guy they want to be with. I made the AFC mistake, and kept pursuing her. After we went to different schools, much of it changed. Now, were both going to the same college, but haven't gotten to speak. Just last week, a friend of mine said that he saw her in her work place and found that she was flirting around with other guys. There, my trust for her went down the tubes. I realized that it could never work out between us, so I NEXT'D her. By looking back, what makes me upset is not her stance on relationships, but the way she kept fending off contact and stuff. It also irks me that I was using soo much logic instead of emotion. However, I decided to move on w/ my life..
Just a couple weeks ago, I finally decided to work on self-improvement.. any advice guys? Right now, I'm working on clothes and have been working out. I am also using proactive and seeing if other dental stuff works. I am really making an effort at it.
That same thursday, after one of my classes, this one girl came up and talked to me, I was wowed b/c she came to me. She came again and talked to me yesterday. It was great for me, although I may have been a little overbearing. I was just excited, I may have forced a little too much in the convo, and not enough EC. I also need to work on C & F.
Yesterday was also a good day for me. I talked to another girl in that class who is also in my 8 AM class, I think our personalities are better for dating anyways. From my former school, I bumped into all kinds of hot girls. In the library, one even turned around
Yall have to have seen it...I may be at a great disadvantage since I commute twice a week, therefore social activities are limited...But anyways, it looks as if I'm heading in the right direction.
Any advice from you guys? It would be greatly appreciated! I need it b/c believe me, I am still very much an AFC.. but I'm trying!
Thanks!