My older brother won't talk to anyone in the family

[Maeisgood]

I'm 22 and my older brother is 25 or something, I don't even know. He won't talk to anyone in the family and none of us can figure out why. As far as I know none of us every did anything traumatic to him. He does have friends and a social life though, its just us he dislikes. This is bad for me because he is so much like me in some ways and there is a lot there I could learn from him. We both love business, have similar attitudes towards things, and know a lot of the same people, but he never calls me back even though I call only a few times a year.

What can I do to make him want to hang out with me? This is the only family situation like this I've ever heard of.

 

[WalkingStick]

If possible, it would be a good idea to visit him in person. I doubt he would physically run away from you.

As far as why he is doing this, my guess is no better than yours. But he could be suffering from depression, so it would be a good idea to at least talk to a friend of his to make sure he's doing okay.

 

[Interceptor]

Its depression,And more than likely he has had a serious emotional event he cant deal with.

You may need to avoid the details and just involve him in action/family outings and let him decompress and settle in and integrate with the family without the pressure of having to confornt his demons in front of everyone.
He'll open up. but not under pressure.
He is suffering depression, so keep a look out for changes in diet, sleep habits, tv/distractions, and moping around.

 

[Skel]

maybe your dad touched him down there

 

[Maeisgood]

Thanks for the advice, I'll try this stuff over break.