"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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my old plate (not technically a plate) contacted me just now out of the blue

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That's fair - and if you don't care, it doesn't matter either way. A message like that leaves two options, she's sleeping with him or she won't reply.

Just making the note that it was unlikely, to say the least - even AW's I can't believe would go that fast when she hasn't even seen what he looks like (after a year? woah). I'm not seeing signs that she's an AW, either (nor signs against it, but there's just so little contact here..). I'm just seeing a relatively low interest - and the text out of the blue was to see if any interest could potentially build up (in which tennis -> direct could have been a good route). His reply essentially told her that he's interested in one thing from her, and one thing only - and she's not interested in being a f-buddy.

Not criticism, just analyzing the situation a bit more. When you don't care, anything goes, so there's never a wrong move, but just pointing out the avenues that would have had the most likely success rate vs the easiest route.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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