"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Umm okay, well my friend's parents are away for about 2 weeks. Now next weekend were already throwing a HUGE party, and yes we know how to throw parties lol...But yea, this weekend, he wants all of our guy friends (theres 11 of us) to bring like kinda like dates to his house to drink and w/e.

So yea, this is where my problem lays. Only 6 of my friends actually have like girl friends that they can bring. Now this leaves 5 of us without dates. Now I'm not concerned with my other friends, however I am concerned with myself. See my problem lays here. I have 2 options. The one girl I'd really really like to bring is from a neiboring town. Now theres 2 problems with asking this girl to come with me.

a) Wouldn't she feel weird because she doesn't know anybody other than myself and 1 of my friends?

b) Would it be weird if I asked her because I haven't seen in about a month however the past 2 weeks she has been texting me like CRAZY. ALso, how should i propose this to her without her getting weirded out beacuse I believe that EVERYONE will be sleeping over...

Now Option 2...
My other option is easier and harder to obtain at the same time lol. This girl is friends with about 2 of the girls already going. So in that aspect, it would be easy to get her to come. However, I just hung out with this girl for the first time last weekend (at a big party) and we talked on myspace and in school but would this be a little too soon to ask her to be my "Date" for this thing?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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Invite both girls (I think you're talking about two different girls.) Don't act like it's a date...just tell them you're having a get-together with some friends and that you'd like them to come. This will multiply your chances of getting laid by two unless you do something stupid and don't play it cool.
 

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I could do that however what if both of them say yes? I am not really supposed to bring more than 1 girl for myself my friend is really set on everyone just bringing 1 date. I do really want to invite my first option however, I think that if she comes, she'd feel really awkward because she wouldn't know anyone besides myself and 1 other person that would be there. The other 20 people would just be strangers to her lol..
 

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Originally posted by toddC
Umm okay, well my friend's parents are away for about 2 weeks. Now next weekend were already throwing a HUGE party, and yes we know how to throw parties lol...But yea, this weekend, he wants all of our guy friends (theres 11 of us) to bring like kinda like dates to his house to drink and w/e.

So yea, this is where my problem lays. Only 6 of my friends actually have like girl friends that they can bring. Now this leaves 5 of us without dates. Now I'm not concerned with my other friends, however I am concerned with myself. See my problem lays here. I have 2 options. The one girl I'd really really like to bring is from a neiboring town. Now theres 2 problems with asking this girl to come with me.

a) Wouldn't she feel weird because she doesn't know anybody other than myself and 1 of my friends?

b) Would it be weird if I asked her because I haven't seen in about a month however the past 2 weeks she has been texting me like CRAZY. ALso, how should i propose this to her without her getting weirded out beacuse I believe that EVERYONE will be sleeping over...

Now Option 2...
My other option is easier and harder to obtain at the same time lol. This girl is friends with about 2 of the girls already going. So in that aspect, it would be easy to get her to come. However, I just hung out with this girl for the first time last weekend (at a big party) and we talked on myspace and in school but would this be a little too soon to ask her to be my "Date" for this thing?
Your thought process is off.

Remember, us DJ's need to keep this mystery about us that keeps the girl that we like intrigued about us.

Don't "ask her out" or "ask her on a date." Think about it, "Would you like to go on a date with me to a party?"......For one, it kills any mystery about you liking her and two, it makes you sound kind of needy if you look at it "in between the lines."

Instead of asking her out on a date, just invite her to the party.

Just say, " There's a cool party that I'm going to; I'm inviting you to come to the party with me." If she says yes, you could say, "that's a wise choice, see you there (or, I'll pick you up at x time and you'd better be ready (and with gas money, crazy free loaders can't ride with me :rolleyes: ). *jokingly say this*" However if she gives you an excuse as to why not, you can say "Sucks for you because it's going to be a lot of fun (especially with me being there)...You don't know what you're missing....but, talk to you later."

That simple.

"b) Would it be weird if I asked her because I haven't seen in about a month however the past 2 weeks she has been texting me like CRAZY. ALso, how should i propose this to her without her getting weirded out beacuse I believe that EVERYONE will be sleeping over..."

Choose this one...and If you follow my advice...don't act like you're on a date with her, just act casual, do some kino and bust on her a little.

Good Luck :cool:
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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