"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DonS said:
If you need to delete their number to keep from calling, I think that's a good tool. But the act of NEXTING a girl every time she gets a little squirrely I think is too emotional and over-reactive.

The whole point of spinning plates is that women come and they go and if one turns south, no big deal, you simply turn that portion of effort to the others. If she comes back, fine, let her earn her way back up the ladder. HB8's+ have literally thousands of options, if you next them everytime they act undecided, you'll be left with HB5's.
I use the analogy of a baseball team's roster. Each woman is competing best position on the starting roster. Their performance dictates their place on the roster in relationship to the other players. If the other women are performing well while she isn't improving or getting worse her position (i.e. my attention/interest) gets lower and lower.

If my attention gets low enough but I still have a little interest, she's sent away to the farm team to hopefully step up her game. If she doesn't step up in a timely manner after that she's dropped from all rosters and she's free to be a free agent (i.e. NEXT).
DonS said:
Story I've heard:
Two bulls were sitting on the top of the hill looking over a field of cows. The young bull said "let's race down there and see if we can fuc*k one of them. The old bull said "Let's walk down there slowly and fuc*k them all."
I posted that story specifically as a benefit of not needing to contract one-itis. Even though it does keep women in the pipeline, if the women are high maintenance it's better to just let them go instead of keeping them around.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonGorgon said:
Thats what i was wondering..

But keep in mind its all about not calling her so if the number is not available i cant dial it...
Do whatever works for 'ya in order not to get lured back into a situation that you don't want to be in.
 

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DonGorgon said:
Well it helps when trying to get into some short term PU$$Y not for an LTR
Ohhhhh, big difference if you're just jumping in to hit it and quit it.
 

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I really feel you struck the nail on the head DonG.! I’ve used to have issues with girls playing mind games and acting like b!tchs all the time… and even before I even read ANYTHING relating to Djing or PUA I knew that the best solution was to let these people fade away and disapeer. I remember the times I called them up, emailed them… I remember they were never fun, tended to make me feel like my manhood was being Knifed away by some sadistic 8 year old kid and only were “acting polite” because they liked the attention. (Girls, so immature.) So I started doing what you said, just dumping them if the started to pull **** on me. It worked wonders.

I didn’t manage to pull much tail, (though that’s not the point) I really started to feel GOOD about myself. I didn’t have half the drama and half the crud most of my other guy friends were having.

I think it was the moment I had my first “ah” moment with the opposite sex.

Anyways, I like you suggestions DonG, and I think it really refines the point in which you should hit the ‘next button’ and move on. Nice post.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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