My Never Ending Approaches Journal

[Peter Parker]

Hey Guys!
My goals with this journal are to include cold approaches into my life. The amount of beautiful women over the years who have gave me signals to approach and I did nothing is madness. I tried doing Approaches before but would give up after about 3 or 4 with some lame excuse. Anyways it took me like three days to get one, flaking out on a couple golden opportunities. One way or another this time I’m going Kill it.



May 17, 2004
Seen some girl at the intersection crossing the street. Didn’t make eye contact but she passed me before she reach the street. I follow her to the other side and from behind her I’m like…

Me: Hey how’s it going
Girl: good
Me: What’s your name
Girl: (name)
Me: So where are you from.
Girl: I’m from up (street name)
Me: No no I meant what’s your background
Girl: I’m from Jamaica
Me: Have you been
Girl: yea I grew up there
Me: How long ago
Girl: I lived there 9 years ago or I lived there till I was 9.

Felt the conversation going nowhere at this point so I just closed.

Me: So pass me your number let me take you out some time.
Girl: I’ll give you a call
Me: naw that’s cool.

My voice kind of buckled a couple because of nerves, And the conversation was short because I didn’t want to stand there asking 40 question.

 

[Peter Parker]

May 25, 2004
Fvck Finally number 2

That took awhile but in the mean time I’ve had a lot of attempts trying start conversation with to women. Flaked out twice once on the bus where I just felt too many people where watching and another when pair of girls gave me approach signals.

Anyways approached this girl in the mall she gave me major EC. Conversation sucked, had little bit of a silent pause in beginning, didn’t hit on her at all and it lasted about a minute. I went for number close and she told me she was married.

I learned one key thing though, that the mall is the best place for pickups. I wasn’t there five minutes and this girl was giving me buying signals. Walking around my block and reaching the library is a cop out. From now on I’m camping out at the malls.

 

[Peter Parker]

May 27, 2004

I went hunting in the mall today for about 45 minutes. On my way there seen this Asian chick with her grandmother giving me signals. I was primed to go but didn’t becuz of her grandmother even though she probable didn’t speak english. Then when I got to the mall I flaked on this chick that walked in front of me and slightly turned her head. Got confused me because there was no direct eye contact. Another girl walked in front of me show I just went for it, weather she wanted me approach or not. Convo sucked as usual, went for number close and got punked off. Man I usual get fake numbers or the run around for dates, I guess I’m not 100% immune to rejection…..yet.

 

[Peter Parker]

May 28, 2004

I really dislike the mall so today I decided to do some hunting at this train station far from my house. When I got there I started to panic because I felt people were watching me such as this teller and these high school kids. Got major signals from these two girls but I’m only going for the loners right now. So I decided to go home pull myself together and reach a mall. On my way home this girl eyes me and pulls out her celly. This was in the middle of the station and I felt people watching but I approached anyways(Proud of Myself). I was in control during the whole convo but it was pretty boring. Got the number surprisingly but its probably fake or she will give me the run around when I call. She was 16 so that’s probably why it was a bit easier for me. But I didn’t stop their becuz I always sit on one number in the past hoping this would be the one. Made a trip to another station and as I walked up the stairs saw this girl. Approached but had this panic in the beginning of the convo, like I couldn’t catch my breath. Went for the close but got rejected. All in all pretty good day. Next time I will make it to mall for 1hr hunting session. Tally is 5

 

[Tails]

LOL!

you actually go out all the time just to look for girls? haha.

 

[kayman79]

Originally posted by Tails
LOL!

you actually go out all the time just to look for girls? haha.

I see nothing wrong with that. Girls wont come looking for us.

 

[Walden]

Yeah man , when I was doing bootcamp I'd go out looking for CA's all over the damn place. You have to if you're comitted to doing lots of CAs, and that's the only way you'll get better.

God effort Kayman , keep it up!

 

[Duke]

GOOOOOD JOB, PeterParker. Funny name, too! I can just imagine Spiderman going to malls and doing cold approaches. You've got balls to try cold approaches and actually apply what you read over here. Welcome to the club!

As time goes on, you will get better and better. I reccomend reading the conversation articles in the DJBible by Pimpologist and A Turtle Named Adrian.

Keep us updated! It's fun isn't it? The rush? Also remember that when you think you feel nervous and you're trying to catch your breath that you can convert your tension from fear into EXCITEMENT!!!!

Imagine me behind you cheering you on, man. Great work.

 

[Peter Parker]

FVCK FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow life is so much different for me now but at the same time nothing has changed. I’ve been on sosuave for 2 years and the only time I have taken a leave of absence was when depression made me want to give up. My most recent absence was due to me banging my girl hahahahhaha.

My six approach was this girl from work who seemed to have high interest. She gave me her number and I called couple days later to invite her to see a movie. To my surprise she said yes but I expected some excuse on the day of the date. Anyways Friday roles around and I decided to tell her to watch a dvd at my place if she is still down. I call she picks up and hangs up really quick. I call her twice more and figure she was screening my call. I wasn’t disappointed at all because the whole week I was keeping my hopes from running away with me. She called me back later that night agreeing to come over, turns out her cell phone needed recharging. So I have a couple drinks to shake the nerves off and go and pick her up at the bus station. We reach back at my place and start the movie. We talk a lot during the movie and the only silent pauses were due to me thinking how I’m going to kiss this girl. I start desperately thinking that I can’t fvck up this opportunity. So my plan is when the end of the movie comes just go for it regardless.

The end of the movie comes and I completely force it lol. Her head was facing the screen and I lean in and say “come here” lol. The kiss was really awkward and made us both really uncomfortable. After we both calm down the conversation just flowed and I feel that I accomplished what I set out to do. We go out to my deck and she sits with me on the deck chair and make out session begins. The making out starts to get boring so I think why don’t I tell her to come up stairs. I tell her and to my surprise she agrees. This girl is pretty hot too she is about 5’9’, 140 pounds, brunette.

At this point I’m like holy shlt there is girl in my bed. She was wearing this roots sweat shirt and these blue jeans. We start to really go at it and I’m humping on top of her like crazy. At this point all my fears are on the back burning and make her take her shirt off exposing her teal colored bra. Thoughts of her laughing at me because I can’t get her bra off shoot through my head. I go at it knowing one way or another that shlt is coming off. Her breast are about the size of my fist and I start sucking on them. After about 2 minutes of that I start pulling and her pants and she helps me pull them off along with her panties. There is a pu$$y in my face so I do the first thing that comes to my mind, dive in tongue first. I played with her cLlt for a while, loved the scent of her. The taste takes a bit of getting use too. I’m rock hard at this point and in my under wear so I tell her to give me head. While she was sharpening her teeth on my penis I found this expired condom. Even though I have nothing to compare it too I’m sure that will be the worst head I will ever get. Anyways so after little debate I decide to use the condom. I struggle to get it on probable because it was the wrong way. After fighting with the condom for a couple minutes I make her lie on her back. I also struggled to get in inside her until she guided me in with her hand. Wasn’t even close to the tightness that I expected too much jacking off I guess. In fact it wasn’t even tight at all like putting your penis in mush. I went for a good while until my pelvic muscle started cramping.

Afterwards we cuddled for a bit and then she took a cab home. I was so please that I finally lost my virginity that I couldn’t sleep. As soon as the sun came up I was out on my deck admiring the trees the squirrels, birds and breathing the air. My 2nd 3rd 4th 5th and 6th times were a lot more rewarding. Anyways this girl has kind of distracted me I am still going to get 45 approaches for the summer.
Tally is 7

 

[JT47319]

A suggestion for those awkward silent moments, always have something tee'ed up. Stories, routines, whatever. The best are things that come from your life and that you've experienced, but you can steal anything.

You want something funny, something vurnerable, and something sexual. You also want some sort of physical/kino/kiss bridge in order to initiate the makeout. There's the BadBoy kiss, tic-tac kiss, a game, etc. but whatever to make it smooth, comfortable, and fun for the girl.

 

[TurboLover]

Way to go PP. Even though your last post was pornagraphic. I still enjoyed reading it and laughing my ass off while eating a single serving of double layered chocolate cake. I hope to see more approaches to come.

 

[Engee]

Originally posted by TurboLover
Way to go PP. Even though your last post was pornagraphic. I still enjoyed reading it and laughing my ass off while eating a single serving of double layered chocolate cake. I hope to see more approaches to come.

+1 That was great! Great going PP!

 

[Duke]

PP, the simplicity if your lay report astounds me. It's a revelation.
A good buddy of mine gets laid frequently. When he tells me the story of how it happened, it's always just as mundane as the events you described to me. He isolates the girl, he makes out with her, then he invites her upstairs and BAM.

Sometimes, he'll have to diffuse anti-slut defense, but otherwise he's in.

I liked your lay report and I'm happy to hear that you finally lost your virginity. Did the girl know you were a virgin?

Damn, you are inspiring me man. It isn't complicated!!! Isolate, sexual state, and fvck.

 

[Peter Parker]

Duke
The second time we chilled together I told her that I was a virgin because she asked. She didn’t seem to care but it was huge deal for me. I felt so much shame being a 21-year-old virgin even though there is no justification to feel that way. I originally though it would take 30 CA just to get a date, so I’ pretty pleased I finally got some sex. But when you struggle with women all your life because of shyness, you think sex is the Holy Grail that will turn you into some sorta social god. Man I flaked out on this beautiful Asian girl who was giving me eyes on the train the other day. I wonder way so many guy make getting layed their top priority ever Friday night. One thing I’ve learned from this experience is that the act of sex if very fleeting.

 

[Peter Parker]

My girl has made me weak and very undisiplined. I think my goal was something like 30 CA for the summer. In the last 3 weeks I have had CA lots of girls but only number close 3. One of the girls was 15 and rejected me. One of them was kinda of ugly and said she didn’t have a phone but gave me her number after. One of them was really cute and safisticated seemed smart too ill give her a call Monday.
I can still make 30 CAs

tally is 10

 

[Danny21682]

Are you the real Peter Parker?

 

[TurboLover]

Welcome back.

 

[Peter Parker]

Yes I’m the real Peter Parker! Are you the real Danny21682?
Anyways it’s good to be back.

Girl 11
About three or four days ago while I was walking down my street some petit white girl came in front of me. It was a shame that I was a little bit scared, becuz the girl turned out to be only fourteen. It was a good approach only because I dominated her in the beginning. I said hey “hows it going” and she mumbled at me. So I was like “what’s the matter you don’t speak” hahaha. After that I kind of screwed up because I kept on switching topics. “what’s your name” “what school do u go too” “how old are you” An I just ejected with no number close when I found out she was fourteen.

Girl 12
Yesterday night I’m coming home from martial arts class feeling pretty invincible from the intense work out. I got off the bus and started the 7 to 10 minute walk to my building. So I see this fine girl across the street from me walking in the same direction. I cross the street not for her but becuz that’s the side of the street my building is on.

A lot of girls are scared of strangers when there alone and it’s night. For that reason I usually don’t try CA on lone girls at night. I done PU attempts and seen girls so fearful that they fast walk away, its funny not considering the reality of our society.

So anyways this girl started to pass me from behind and I’m like why the fvck not. I open with “hey how’s your night going”. I was thinking about my game earlier and how I needed to stay on topic. IMO the conversation was flawless, I don’t think I’ve been more on point. She was extremely receptive, we talked about her dreams, our mutual Jamaican background, how she felt about black on black crime.

So we are both walking towards our separate buildings and we are about to part ways. In my head I’m like yaaahhh I’m so fvcking IN. I say “well this is were we part. Give me your number so we can get together some other time”. I couldn’t believe her response it hit me like a ton of bricks, her response “I can’t”. In my head I’m like WTF so I say “what do u mean”. She says it again “I can’t”. It was such a shock to me because I’ve never had such I good conversation with a girl and didn’t end up with the number or some reasonable explanation for not giving it. It hit me so hard that I reverted back to an AFC and said “ don’t make me beg” when I realized what I said I was like “naw I’m just playing I would never beg”(of course I would).

This girl was smart her face an body were unbelievable I would give it an 8.5. So back to the drawing board I guess, the part were I may have messed up was not being sexual. I really don’t understand how someone can be horny and concentrate on a conversation at the same time. Other then that maybe I wasn’t her type or now that I’ve slept on it maybe she was a born again Christian, she was dressed pretty conservative for a young girl and considering my area.Yah my ego likes that explaination.
Next approach girl 13, think sexual and stay on topic.

-spidy out

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Peter Parker
Hey Guys!
My goals with this journal are to include cold approaches into my life. The amount of beautiful women over the years who have gave me signals to approach and I did nothing is madness. I tried doing Approaches before but would give up after about 3 or 4 with some lame excuse. Anyways it took me like three days to get one, flaking out on a couple golden opportunities. One way or another this time I’m going Kill it.



May 17, 2004
Seen some girl at the intersection crossing the street. Didn’t make eye contact but she passed me before she reach the street. I follow her to the other side and from behind her I’m like…

Me: Hey how’s it going
Girl: good
Me: What’s your name
Girl: (name)
Me: So where are you from.
Girl: I’m from up (street name)
Me: No no I meant what’s your background
Girl: I’m from Jamaica
Me: Have you been
Girl: yea I grew up there
Me: How long ago
Girl: I lived there 9 years ago or I lived there till I was 9.

Felt the conversation going nowhere at this point so I just closed.

You're asking direct, closed-ended questions. This'll work if, for some reason, she just feels like talking your ear off. Lots of times, though, you need to steer the conversation in a direction where she doesn't feel like you want a two-word answer. From here you should've taken it somewhere like:

"So why New York??"
"I've never been. Tell me what it's like in Jamaica."
"Do you like it better there or here? Why?"

You can get a feel for what she's about, what she likes, what she doesn't like...gives her something to talk about.

Seems like you've gotten better at that, anyway. Now my question is with girl #12, you may have nailed the conversational aspect of it, but how was the SEXUAL aspect of it? (eye contact, body language, touch, confidence, etc)

 

[Peter Parker]

Re: Re: My Never Ending Approaches Journal

Originally posted by squirrels
You're asking direct, closed-ended questions. This'll work if, for some reason, she just feels like talking your ear off. Lots of times, though, you need to steer the conversation in a direction where she doesn't feel like you want a two-word answer. From here you should've taken it somewhere like:

"So why New York??"
"I've never been. Tell me what it's like in Jamaica."
"Do you like it better there or here? Why?"

You can get a feel for what she's about, what she likes, what she doesn't like...gives her something to talk about.

Seems like you've gotten better at that, anyway. Now my question is with girl #12, you may have nailed the conversational aspect of it, but how was the SEXUAL aspect of it? (eye contact, body language, touch, confidence, etc)

squirrels
I don’t think there was any sexual part of our meeting. I was really focus on staying on topic during the conversation. Girl 12# said she didn’t want to live with girls when she went off to university so I said would you prefer to live with guys. I was trying to hint at how horny she was but I don’t know if it had the intended effect. Other then that there was nothing sexual. We were both walking I made I contact only to make a point. Grabbed her hand after I asked for her name. Overall my confidence was pretty high.
How are you supposed to concentrate on a conversation while fantasizing about her at the same time?